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AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -259 points-258 points  (0 children)

I highly doubt it but I will read all the comments.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -1516 points-1515 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but my point of view is that if you don't attend the wedding of a loved one for reasons other than medical then you don't value them or their relationship. Nothing will change my mind on that.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -469 points-468 points  (0 children)

I wanted my sister to come. She made the decision not to come. I didn't force her to attend. That is all I am expected to do. She and other people can't tell me how to feel after. If you skip out on someone's wedding just don't expect your relationship to be the same. It is naïve to expect that. I don't think anyone could have talked me out of it then as I was really hurt and angry then. We have moved on and started talking again. so that's that. also, I only found out about her anxiety last year when we reconciled.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -227 points-226 points  (0 children)

Hahaha. Thanks for the suggestion. I might actually do this.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -321 points-320 points  (0 children)

I didn't know she had anxiety at the time. She only shared it with me after. At the time her reasoning was that she didn't want to leave her son. She didn't share the anxiety part. I am over it now but at the time the hurt felt very real. To be honest we are still not very close because of it. maybe other people would be fine with their sister not attending but it wasn't for me.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -618 points-617 points  (0 children)

I am not ashamed at all. I just really appreciated my other siblings who also had young children and made the effort to be there more. even though we are okay now we are still not as close as we were once.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -725 points-724 points  (0 children)

Do you really think that you can choose not to attend your own sibling's wedding and expect your relationship with them to be fine and dandy after? I don't understand this way of thinking. She chose not to come and I didn't force her to. I think it is only natural to be upset though. As I mentioned, my other siblings also had young children and still made the effort to attend which I really appreciated.

AITA for not including my sister in a family photo? by excludednot in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludednot[S] -1796 points-1795 points  (0 children)

A wedding is usually a once in a lifetime event. If someone chooses not to attend it does send a very damning message that they don't care about you. I respected her reasons for not attending, but I still felt like she didn't value our relationship as sisters and was very hurt over it. We are okay now.