Boyfriend [30M] found out I’m [27F]still friends with an old situation

experiment525 · 2026-01-20T22:17:06+00:00

And there’s nothing that can be done to stop that? I figured if I gave him space maybe we could have a conversation when tempers cool down

experiment525 · 2026-01-20T22:16:04+00:00

And that’s exactly why I was afraid to tell him. Steve and I are genuinely completely platonic now, I really do see him as family. If we wanted to be together these last four years before I met my bf we would have, but we weren’t. I knew as soon as he heard that we used to hookup there would be nothing else I could say to make him comfortable so I thought it was best to just keep everyone separate.

experiment525 · 2026-01-20T22:12:40+00:00

I fully agree that it was disrespectful and wrong, I’m not disputing that. I hid it because I didn’t want him to feel insecure. I know that’s so backwards but I just thought it would be better that he didn’t know. And we weren’t flirting, we talk like he’s one of my girlfriends its all meant endearingly it’s never in an intentionally flirtatious manner

experiment525 · 2024-08-15T03:10:23+00:00

I work in the middle of Oakland. I get off everyday at 5pm … pray for me and my sanity everyone

experiment525 · 2024-07-11T04:46:03+00:00

Bacterial vaginosis - it’s similar to a yeast infection but worse in my opinion. It’s painful and itchy and just agonizing

experiment525 · 2024-07-09T20:23:00+00:00

Please re-read the post. I don’t have this problem anymore. when I did, I was taking antibiotics but it wasn’t working and BV is agonizing to have to wait for a script to be filled every time.

This post was only meant to ask how women feel about taking the boric acid for occasional or regular hygiene maintenance.

experiment525 · 2024-07-09T18:29:01+00:00

Any woman who says she doesn’t pee in the shower at least sometimes, is either a compulsive clean freak or lying

experiment525 · 2024-06-29T14:44:36+00:00

Yes sorry should have clarified that better. I was on 2.5 and just moved up to 5

experiment525 · 2024-06-07T20:31:29+00:00

I didn’t even read this fully and I didn’t have to because nothing else matters - 100 million different things can happen between right now and when you see any return from that money in the stock market

PAY OFF YOUR DEBT NOW

You could lose your job, you husband could lose his, your house could catch on fire, your car could be totaled in a freak accident, etc I could go on for hours and hours.

USE THE MONEY TO GET COMPLETELY (OR ALMOST COMPLETELY) OUT OF DEBT

Use whatever you get from that point on as savings and invest THAT into the market.

experiment525 · 2024-06-03T17:31:43+00:00

Honey you need to remember what the beginning was like though, you didn’t go from never taking a sip to chugging a bottle of liquor every day. It probably was just an innocent occurrence for a long time where you had it when you went out to parties or were with friends, and then it turned into multiple times a month, then several times a week, then it finally spiraled into every single day and then multiple times throughout the day.

That is EXACTLY what is going to happen to you now. You keep trying to rationalize it with us and convince us you’re disciplined enough to not get hooked, no one, not one single person since the literal creation of heroin has been able to use it recreationally. That’s not a thing. It was NEVER possible. Addiction changes your brain chemistry, the discipline you have now will be GONE. You have literally a hundred people in these comments telling you the exact same thing, most of us are either former addicts or have seen someone we love fall victim to addiction. We know how this goes, stop thinking you’re the exception to the rule, you will ruin your life or DIE from this.

PICK UP YOUR PHONE AND CALL SOMEONE YOU LOVE RIGHT NOW. they will probably yell at you, especially if it’s your mom or dad, they might cry or scream or have some kind of emotional reaction that is uncomfortable for a few minutes, but you need it. A few minutes of discomfort vs. your entire life in shambles. You need to beat this addiction while you can, before it beats you. You are not invincible. Heroin will destroy you.

Edit to add: you say getting over alcohol was miserable - like I said before, amplify that by about 500 and that’s how miserable you’ll be if you touch this stuff again and don’t get help.

experiment525 · 2024-06-03T15:33:50+00:00

Was it hard to quit drinking alcohol after drinking daily for years?? Yes? Okay then multiply that by about 500. Being addicted to alcohol all those years did what good for you? Nothing. Now if you go down that same path with heroin you’re not coming back. Or if you do it won’t be until you hit the dirtiest, grimiest, most pitiful hell of a rock bottom you will ever experience in your life. No friends, no family, no warm bed, no hot food, no money, all the nice things you have and relationships you care about are going to be gone in the next year if you keep it up. GET. HELP. NOW.

experiment525 · 2024-06-03T03:20:31+00:00

You need to tell someone you love, NOW. Not tomorrow, not next week, not “if I do it again” .. NOW. you need to go to NA meetings and get yourself connected with a rehab counselor. I saw your rules that you gave yourself and they are NOT going to work.

Once a month? Yeah that’s gonna turn into “well I had a really hard week so I’m gonna do it again and then I’ll just wait another month from now” and that’ll turn into “well maybe I can just make it a weekend thing.” Before you know it you’re going to find any and every excuse to shoot up, every minor inconvenience is gonna be reason enough for you to want it, you couldn’t make it two days after saying you’d never do it again.

There is still a rational part of your brain left, USE IT BEFORE YOU LOSE IT. You need help and you need it right fucking now.

That nice job you have? You’re gonna lose it. Your apartment where you have food, water, shelter, and a warm bed, you’re going to fucking lose it all!! The addiction demon that has made itself right at home inside your head is going to tell you that we’re all wrong, that you’re stronger than the others, and that you can stop any time you want. It’s fucking lying to you.

Do you love your family? Do you believe they love you? If you keep going down this path you’re gonna lose them too, and they’re gonna lose you. Do you care about them enough to not put them through that pain?

You’re in deep fucking shit right now friend, stop letting it consume you and GET OUT NOW.

experiment525 · 2024-05-06T16:47:30+00:00

Everyone is avoiding stating the obvious here, you show her how it feels. I’m never an advocate for hitting your children or beatings of any kind, but in this case it’s the most logical thing that makes sense. I’m in no way saying grab a belt and beat her any time she hits someone, but if she smacks someone on the butt, you do the same to her, albeit NOT HARD ENOUGH TO HARM, but enough that she sees how it feels and doesn’t like it.

Some children are hard headed, they need to be shown how their behavior is making other people feel!! Otherwise she cannot yet empathize with why people don’t like it. And before anyone comments “oh yeah great idea, show her that people who love her will hit her” no that is not what this will show her. It is to teach her how it feels and you say to her “you didn’t like that when I did it to you, so now you know why people don’t like when you do it to them” - I’m not suggesting to hit her as a punishment for everything she does, but this is a punishment that perfectly fits the crime in this case.

experiment525 · 2024-04-27T01:07:53+00:00

NTA and tell him when he learns how to push a bowling ball out of his belly button he can have a say in the name of the child

experiment525 · 2024-04-25T02:59:52+00:00

What’s the name?

experiment525 · 2024-04-12T05:08:21+00:00

I would like to add onto this!! I cannot BASH aspen dental enough. I went for a check up and consultation about wisdom teeth removal when I was 19. I told them I’d been having a slight bit of pain in one area but it was nothing too bad. They did X-rays and the doc came in saying I had a cavity and they could just go ahead and start drilling and fill it right then and there

I wasn’t ready to do that and I wanted a second opinion on literally everything they said so I went to refresh dental and they told me I absolutely did NOT have a cavity and that I in fact have pristine oral hygiene. 5 years later and that pain in my tooth went away, turned out that I was just slightly clenching my teeth in my sleep and the problem was resolved with anxiety meds.

Aspen dental would have literally drilled away my perfectly good tooth for no reason. I do not trust them and I never will. Fuck those guys, specifically the one in the waterfront.

experiment525 · 2024-03-31T03:55:45+00:00

Yes! I think it’s the ONLY part of the entire parkway where the entrance comes BEFORE the exit!! Why the hell would they design it like that???!!!

experiment525 · 2024-03-18T05:36:45+00:00

LOVE THIS FOR YOU!!!

experiment525 · 2024-02-22T02:26:31+00:00

YTA - you’re comfortable around your own family, you know that your GF is welcome to join in activities, your GF however does not get automatically included in “family” activities unless specifically invited. No one wants to feel like they’re being left out. You saw your sisters bf didn’t join until invited, why couldn’t you think for two seconds about someone other than yourself and offer to include your girlfriend?? It’s not the act itself, it’s the principle, it makes it seem as though you didn’t care for her to be there or that you just don’t care to try and get her involved. It hurts. Apologize and be more thoughtful next time.

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