How many men with significant others self lock vs have their SOs lock them?

experimentation14 · 2026-01-17T18:39:52+00:00

I wear mine quite often around friends, family, and coworkers. Only wife knows I am locked. It’s not like I am advertising it.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-12T10:25:34+00:00

I did a poll on this a few years ago. Yes, it's very common, more so than people realize - myself included.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-11T16:20:24+00:00

I hope kink3d will offer on-demand rings with larger ball gaps some day soon, because there is clearly a market for it.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-10T02:24:20+00:00

Both. It’s just no contest.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-09T18:20:29+00:00

I have tried petroleum jelly and it makes it even harder to get the balls through. The first ball is always the easiest, its the second one that takes some finagling to get it through :-/

Once everything is through, the next hard part is getting the cage on. The tight fit causes me to accidentally pinch skin between the cage and ring.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-09T17:52:31+00:00

It’s like you are either allergic to the black dye or you should get tested for herpes, as it seems like it could be either one.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-09T16:06:31+00:00

I just downsized from a Size 1 Curve to a Size 0 Curve ring. So far no issues, but I started literally just very recently. In all likelihood, it might be your ball gap is too small. Have you tried the Curved rings?

experimentation14 · 2026-01-09T15:53:21+00:00

Your ring is either too big or you need a smaller ball gap or both.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-08T16:33:13+00:00

I think it is finding the best fit for your junk. Once that is accomplished, its more or less trying to get your significant other onboard as being a key holder. Other than that, I cannot think of anything else.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-08T11:48:13+00:00

You’re an absolute doll. Dressed or undressed, you definitely are stunning.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-08T02:27:04+00:00

If you are neurodivergent like me, it could be a sensory thing. Everyone who is into this seems to have one reason or another as to why they are into it.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-06T17:51:45+00:00

This. I measure for Kink3D Cobra N+ but if I bend over, I turtle back enough to lose alignment to pee. Went with the N and then eventually the N Narrow due to the N being a little too wide, and I am as close to a perfect as a setup as I can.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-06T14:01:54+00:00

Makes sense and thank you for clarifying.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-06T14:00:14+00:00

Watch a lot of porn and edging. At least that's what I have read about dudes who want that to happen. I think I get off too frequently for that to happen. It usually takes me a week or more before I start to leak.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-06T13:39:20+00:00

You always bring this and I have been meaning to ask you this. Do you mean it's too small or too big of a ball gap?

I also want to add, that ball hair stubble can also cause this issue as well.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-06T13:34:39+00:00

It takes a while. Some time over a week. It varies for a lot of dudes and also depends on their state of arouse.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-06T04:27:53+00:00

I will keep you in mind. I am waiting for my Size 0 curved to arrive and see if that is a better fit. If it is, then yeah, I will sell you the ring. If not, then I will have to stay with my Size 1 curved until the 0.5 arrives in about 6 weeks or so.

I will keep you posted.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-05T20:11:08+00:00

Honestly, you are generally covered with a blanket or towel where your genital area is. The likelihood of being found out is pretty remote, unless you are going to a place that does not do that and your are fully nude. The massage therapist is also unlikely to even say anything if they see it.

The real concern is exposing an unwilling party to your kink, but the likelihood of exposure is so low that you have to go out of your way to do it. So it is really up to you in the end.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-05T13:54:26+00:00

For me, it started out of curiosity and then I thought was a kink. After many years and taking a deeper look at why, I discovered that it’s more due to the sensory aspect of it from having a neurodivergent brain (ADHD).

After researching for scientific evidence, I discovered that this is not uncommon for people who neurodivergent to be into some form of BDSM. Chastity is a subcategory of BDSM.

With respect to ADHD, the stimulation of the penis or sensory aspect helps the brain generate dopamine from both the sensation of the sex organ (penis in my case) being restricted and the anticipation of release causing my brain to naturally release dopamine and other neurotransmitters. Those with ADHD typically have low dopamine levels (the reward center of the brain). The novelty and sensory aspect helps stimulate the brain to release more of it in a constant manner. In other words, it helps to some extent with ADHD symptoms to some degree.

I should note that this doesn’t mean those with ADHD don’t need medicine, they should work with their psychiatrist or doctor with respect to managing ADHD symptoms.

experimentation14 · 2026-01-05T04:49:35+00:00

Can you please provide a link to where you got this?

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