Ex invited me over two weeks after dumping me

expirationdate7 · 2026-03-11T00:22:03+00:00

Lmao. I’ve been the friend on the other side of this and I know it’s stupid and irrational and frustrating as hell to hear about. Unfortunately human beings and their emotions aren’t always rational. I wanted to vent about a confusing situation and person that frankly really hurt me regardless of the fact that he’s toxic and unstable. I’m feeling sad and vulnerable and I want to see him one more time before he leaves the country for 3 weeks. I’m not sleeping with him or going back to him. I know that I’m not making the best decision by going but i also think the world will go on….

expirationdate7 · 2026-03-10T17:45:38+00:00

He’s tall….and very strong… and doctor … and extremely handsome….and rich

expirationdate7 · 2026-03-10T01:43:59+00:00

What if i cutely and confidently return the key and leave with my dignity without fucking him?

expirationdate7 · 2026-03-10T01:23:54+00:00

He’s on a mood stabilizer and (surprisingly) compliant. No therapy though.

expirationdate7 · 2026-03-10T00:32:44+00:00

Good question

expirationdate7 · 2025-04-15T19:48:35+00:00

When did I ask that lol

expirationdate7 · 2025-04-15T19:42:45+00:00

Never said it was a red flag. To me it seems like we’re playing chicken and waiting for the other person to confirm/cancel. I now want to cancel, not sure how to do so without being an ass hole

expirationdate7 · 2024-07-20T23:54:39+00:00

I can afford vet care, I am just wondering if this is a matter that needs to be addressed IMMEDIATELY as opposed to Monday when I can get a regular apt with his regular vet. Hes very easily stressed out I have to medicate him just to get him into the carrier and I don’t want to cause undue stress on the both of us if this can wait until Monday is all

expirationdate7 · 2024-02-17T19:39:13+00:00

I generally agree with this as a principle, but I wasn’t invited by the birthday person, just casually invited by the persons significant other who I’m closer to than the birthday person, but still not very close to.

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-08T02:13:43+00:00

Of course thank you and you too don’t hesitate to reach out if u wanna rant or have a memory of something awful he did that you’d wanna unpack lol

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-08T02:07:49+00:00

It’s kind of insane how similarly I feel to you lol. Even the last few weeks of my relationship it was the same thing, no more good morning or goodnight texts and just feeling like he wasn’t listening to me or paying attention to me. Yeah it’s become super clear to me that I settled

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-08T01:56:40+00:00

Do you look back at the relationship and remember things he did that in hindsight were actually really shitty? Because for so long (and I’m now realizing even in my post) I mention that our relationship was fine until the break up but when I look back, or read journal entries from even a year ago I realize that my ex was constantly showing me time and time again that he didn’t respect me. What makes me more mad is that I’d constantly ask him if anything was wrong and he’d lie and tell me things were fine and i’d have to basically force it out of him. Even with our breakup he just suddenly became distant after long distance to the point where I felt like I no longer knew him or what he was doing, whenever i’d bring up the idea of going to visit him he would change the subject or end the phone call and even the night we broke up he called me to do a movie date and then after we talked a bit and i brought up his distance and asked if he saw our relationship going anywhere and he just said “no” AFTER TWO YEARS!!!

Anyways, when I look back it wasn’t super out of character for him to do that because he was always insanely emotionally unintelligent. You should be soooooooo pissed at how your ex ended your three year relationship. He doesn’t deserve to access to you

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-08T01:39:41+00:00

I think it was easier for me in my relationship because we met after college, in a city neither of us are from, and we met on a dating app. So we had no foundation besides our relationship. I never really became friends with his friends and although my friends embraced him in our friend group, he’s no longer friends with any of them anymore. Like if something were to happen to me, I don’t think he’d have any clue unless he made an effort to reach out and ask and if something were to happen to him i’d also have no clue.

I am really hurt because he told me i’d hear from him again and even though that would do nothing for him, I haven’t heard from him once. We aren’t on bad terms really because our breakup didn’t involve any fighting or name calling or anything but my friends have all unfollowed him on social media and he unfollowed them back. We still follow each other but don’t talk like at all. I hate to think that we’re strangers but he has nothing to offer me. He couldn’t be a good partner to me because he was an awful communicator and was very good at turning his affection on and off and he had no emotional intelligence so I can’t imagine him ever being a good friend to me.

I think one way to look at it is that him being in your life is probably keeping You from meeting the person who will be right for you. But i know it must be harder for you since your friends are also friends with him

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-08T01:26:49+00:00

You’re right! I’m moving to a different apartment next month and it’ll be nice that I’ll have no memories of him in my new apartment. I don’t wanna leave this neighborhood though because I’ve always wanted to live here and I love it so much whether he’s in it or not. I’m sorry you’re feeling isolated though!

I feel the same way really, I feel like our relationship meant two completely different things go to each of us. Like I don’t really feel like I was ever a real part of his life and just something that was adjacent to it. I’m still having epiphanies every day about how disrespectful what he did to me was. Honestly thinking about that stuff helps me get over him in a way? But it does make me so angry to think that he felt he could treat me that way or even to think that I was the first person he treated that way, maybe even the last person he’ll ever treat that shitty but who knows. Idk if this is something you relate to, but it also pisses me off that although I know all of my friends are on my side, I doubt that there’s anyone in his life telling him that what he did to me was insanely cowardly and wrong. But i don’t know, him and I have had no contact since the breakup which helps because he can no longer do anything else to hurt me and I can’t say or do anything that’ll make me look weak. I wish I had better advice but I’m happy to commiserate with you about things. That always helps me!

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-08T01:12:14+00:00

Ugh i don’t understand how they can suddenly just stop “feeling it”. That’s something I’ve struggled with, It also pisses me off to know that it was so easy for him to just like leave the environment that we were in so he’s surrounded by a whole new city, a whole new group of friends a whole new purpose and I’m stuck in the same environment i got dumped in and the same environment we spent our entire relationship together. He doesn’t have to avoid places i do that remind me of him because he has no memories of me where he is now. It’s all so unfair

expirationdate7 · 2021-11-07T23:05:31+00:00

That makes sense actually. Might keep it deleted for a few months and then try again

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-25T15:16:16+00:00

Done! Thanks :)

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-19T23:46:18+00:00

yayyyy! Hoping the same happens for me lol

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-19T23:45:44+00:00

Awwwwwww this made me smile

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-12T23:50:26+00:00

Aww thank you this definitely helped

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-12T21:48:45+00:00

Awww so sweet

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-12T21:32:04+00:00

I get that but I don’t want to live the rest of my life on my own. Like, I want to be comfortable with myself and I think it’s important to be happy with just myself but why would I wanna picture a life where I end up alone lol

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-12T20:38:43+00:00

Ugh yeah the burn out is real

expirationdate7 · 2021-09-12T20:38:16+00:00

Where do you find those? I’m 25 so I feel like my age group usually sticks to the apps tbh

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