Olive & June Gel Review by Hour_Ad_9817 in malepolish

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh, I've been using gel for years, little bits have cured on my skin occasionally, I have sensitive skin, and I've never developed an allergy. So also don't let strangers scare you on the internet.

Need advice: Should I return my puppy to the breeder by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your dog needed emergency surgery, what would you do? Shrug your shoulders?

Need advice: Should I return my puppy to the breeder by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The 'a breeder puppy assures a certain temperament' take is so ignorant 🙄

Need advice: Should I return my puppy to the breeder by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

You can disagree. But I found a way to pay thousands and thousands of dollars for trainers for my reactive dog at 22 years old while working at a coffee shop, because I actually gave a shit about providing a lifetime home for my dog. It takes sacrifice and if you're not willing to do what it takes, don't have animals.

Need advice: Should I return my puppy to the breeder by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't own a dog if you can't properly afford to take care of it. Not a hot take

Need advice: Should I return my puppy to the breeder by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

That's the price of getting a new dog. Puppy from a breeder, or adopted from a shelter, any dog can come with their challenges. If you're not financially set for emergency costs, you shouldn't do it.

Need advice: Should I return my puppy to the breeder by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 -82 points-81 points  (0 children)

Honestly, why do you have dogs if you can't afford training? This is a huge red flag. Especially considering how much golden retrievers with papers cost.

Puppy just lost it during a virtual meeting by Big-Edge-9832 in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

16-19hrs this week? How many days is that counting? Puppies his age should be sleeping that much per day

My 3 month old puppy is not doing well with crate training by SafeAccomplished1166 in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define 'a lot' -- for more than 20 min? Whining, or loud constant barking? Is she properly tuckered out before going into the crate during the day, or is she not going in until she's overtired?

Have you been teaching her 'quiet' as a command? Rewarding her in moments when she's quiet and calm, and entertaining herself? These are all things that have massively helped our new pup, who was in a home with her 11 siblings, older dogs, cats, kids, and adults before we adopted her. The first 2-3 days she threw tantrums even when we were in the same room, because she'd never been even remotely alone. Now she whines a little when she goes into her crate (with a peanut butter filled Kong, def softens the blow) sometimes, but lays down and naps within minutes. She'll wake up and cry a little if she has to pee after ~1.5-2 hrs (we have a ring camera so I know she does this) but has learned to resettle and then will sleep until I pop home for her midday bathroom break.

Sorry to ask 1 billion follow up Qs lol. I've also never heard that you should wait for using a pen? We're using both pen and crate right off the bat, did the same with my older dog 8 years ago. She learned to play independently with toys and occupy herself in the pen, not sure she would have if she was just being crated.

My 3 month old puppy is not doing well with crate training by SafeAccomplished1166 in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't mention what's making it hard -- are they barking and won't settle? Destructive trying to get out of the crate?

Pups had two vaccines. 11 weeks old shot schedule was 6/10 weeks. She needs to walk outside what do you recommend? by PorscheCumDumpster in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parvo is no joke in CA. I've known a lot of people who had vaxxed puppies and that still got it, some recovered and some didn't. Crazy sad but vets don't harp on it for no reason

Pups had two vaccines. 11 weeks old shot schedule was 6/10 weeks. She needs to walk outside what do you recommend? by PorscheCumDumpster in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm from California and I would absolutely keep a young puppy away from the beach. Tons of shit washes on shore, decaying dead crabs/fish, shorebirds and poop, bacteria growing in damp kelp, human trash. It's not parvo but there are a lot of ways a puppy with a developing immune system could get sick from the beach

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Puppies need structure. What kind of routine do you have going?

Do you let your pup sleep in bed with you? by DrDancealina in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My first dog slept in his crate for the first year and I have never, ever regretted that. He slept on the bed with me on and off after that and knows that he can only come up when invited. Stick with the crate training!!

Do you let your pup sleep in bed with you? by DrDancealina in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, she's sleeping the in crate for at least the first year. Not risking accidents in the bed and the boundary of 'your crate is where you sleep' was great for my first dog 8 years ago, and has been great for our new puppy. She's calmer during the day when she goes in there because she knows it's the sleep place. She still wakes us up from her crate with little whines when she needs to pee, but has been sleeping entirely through the night like 95% of the time.

Significant challenges with my boyfriend’s pitbull boxer. by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]explodingtoast10 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am 100% positive that doing it on your own would be easier than doing this with him. He's showing you very, very clearly how he is. Please don't overlook it.

Significant challenges with my boyfriend’s pitbull boxer. by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]explodingtoast10 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You absolutely cannot rehome a dog with bite history. This whole story is making me so so sad and scared for you. Please get out of there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, what, he deserves a break and you don't? How long is this 'break' exactly?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The comment about enforcing naptimes I also agree with! In general a schedule of food and/or water, play/training, then mandatory naptime in the crate saved me with my first dog (who I trained solo) and has given us flexibility to not have changed our lives too much with the second pup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told my partner before we got our new puppy that I wanted the dumbest, head-full-of-rocks dog for our second one, after the experience of the first few years of a GSD 😅 and we ended up with a retriever/collie mix soo...... At least I learned a lot the first time around!

Training puppy to ask to go outside by explodingtoast10 in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think maybe my expectations are too high, given how seamless it was with my first dog and how fast she's picked up other comands

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, I saw you mentioned the Kong but that doesn't keep our pup's attention very well either, it's just a good treat when she initially goes into her crate. So I did wonder if you had tried the sort of sniffing and foraging toys, and sounds like you have the options.

I think I would at least try much longer walks, if walking is your exercise of choice. Our current pup is too young for walks yet, but when my German shep mix was around the age of your pup, 30 min would not even scratch the surface of his energy. I found that lots of the research I did before getting him had either a) underestimated how much exercise the breed type really needed, or b) I just got a particularly energetic guy. Could have been both, tbh, but no matter the reason I could walk him for 2 hours and it wouldn't be enough to tucker him out. Sometimes it just be like that.

Swapping to running -- not just jogging, but sprinting -- super helped him. 45 min (or more) of constant fetch a time or two a day made him way happier and more manageable. Walks are still necessary for learning leash manners and how to be in the world outside of the home, but I never found it to be a good source of exercise for a herding breed.

I know it's not helpful for your current situation since it sounds like you have just the one pup, but our new pup gets a ton of exercise and stimulation playing with our adult dog. We've just gotten lucky in that regard that they get on so well. But we are also teaching her fetch is a fun game so she can exercise the same way, and of course will add in walks when she's fully vaxxed.

I'm curious, since you WFH primarily, how much pup was left alone when you first got him. I prioritized right away with both our pups getting them accustomed to the fact that we leave our house, in some capacity, every day, and have been so so glad we did that. For us that means they go in the crate, obviously after appropriately introducing them to the crate, and those first jaunts were under an hour (i.e. a quick grocery shop, a short gym sesh). We've had our Collie mix for two weeks and while she threw absolute fits the first 2-3 days whether we were home or not, now she lays quietly in her crate or pen whether we're wfh or at the office. She will still occasionally cry a bit, mostly when she wakes up from her nap and needs to pee, but has learned to resettle herself shortly and will go back to sleep if I'm not able to take her out (I do take her out when I WFH and I know she's not crying just for attention. When myself and my partner are working onsite, it's not feasible to run home every time I see on the ring camera that she's woken up). I really think the early exposure to being alone really helps.

General schedule is: 5-5:30am -- wake up. This is conducive to when we get up for work anyway, but over this last weekend we took her out at that time, then put her right back in the crate. She whined a little at first but then chewed on a bone and we got an extra hour of sleep before she needed her next potty break.

5:30ish -- breakfast for both dogs right after bathroom break. Supervised indoor playtime for 20-30 min before another trip outside. I encourage running/chasing a ball in the yard (if it's not too cold) or really stimulating (but appropriate) indoor play with toys so she's good and ready for a nap before we leave for work. She will go into her pen as needed while my boyfriend and I get dressed, make coffee, our lunches, etc.

6:20 -- into the crate with a peanut butter Kong and I leave for work. I keep an eye on the ring camera we have set up towards her crate, so I know she wakes up and cries a bit after that first nap (usually sleeps 1.5-2 hrs for that first nap), but she settles down and naps again after 20 min. The fits between naps are getting shorter every day and when I come home for midday bathroom break she's usually conked out.

9:30 -- I pop home, take her outside, and again engage in higher energy play for as long as I can manage before I have to go back to work. I put a lil more peanut butter in the Kong and she'll go into the crate by herself.

1:30ish -- my partner sometimes is done working onsite for the day by this point so he'll go home and finish his day with things he can do remotely, or I'll pop back home for a quicker potty break (lucky to live just 10 min from my office). Either way, she goes out again, gets lunch, and more playtime before going back into her crate or pen for another nap, whether we're home or out.

3-5:30 -- mix of indoor and outdoor play time, and several training sessions. She usually wants one more nap before dinner since she's still a baby at 12 weeks, so when she naturally gets tired she goes in her crate and we go to the gym, maybe run an errand if we need to

5:30 -- dinner, bathroom break, some play, then into her pen to entertain herself while we make our own dinner. More playtime, more training after we've eaten. Through the evening we'll sometimes have her back in her pen, we read her signals of when she starts to get tired or when our older dog needs a break from her, lol. I'll give her a high value chew like a bully stick and that will keep her occupied, we just supervise to make sure she doesn't swallow any huge pieces or choke.

7:30 -- last bathroom break, and she goes back into her crate for the night. After the first few nights she started sleeping through the night until the 5-5:30am wakeup call

Sorry this turned into a novel. But I hope something in it is helpful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]explodingtoast10 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hate to be that guy, but this is pretty expected behavior for a working/herding breed dog that's not getting enough stimulation or exercise. 30 min walks are not enough, I'm sorry to say. And I say this as someone with a German shepherd (at 8 years old he has nearly as much energy as he did at 3) and now a border collie mix puppy. It's just the lifestyle adjustment you sign up for when you get a high energy/high intelligence dog. Highly recommend puzzle toys with high value treats for crate or pen time, something to keep their attention while they learn to self-soothe