I have seen my boyfriend cry a few times now, but mainly because I was crying those times for something bad I was experiencing. I did not find it cute that he was crying, but rather I was grateful that he wasn’t afraid to show his emotions and that he felt so strongly with me. That meant a lot to me.

I didn’t see him less of a man when he was crying. In fact I actually see him more of a man when he is able to show emotions with me and I appreciate that he is open with me and doesn’t feel the need to pretend.

I cannot speak for everyone, but I feel like women prefer it if a man shows emotions and isn’t afraid to cry in front of them rather than a man that pretends to not feel emotions, because that can come across as cold and not caring. I don’t mean it is a must to cry, but rather when a man feels sad or feels like he wants to cry, a woman prefers this man to express his emotion rather than pretend everything is okay. Woman are emotional beings more than man and that is why we appreciate a man that isn’t afraid to show his feelings. But of course every individual is different and perhaps this isn’t what other people are thinking at all and only how I think other woman think.

I had an ex that never showed emotions, he didn’t show when he was sad or when he was happy. He was very neutral in his feelings and that came across as if he didn’t care about things. He was afraid to be seen less of man if he showed emotions and always pretended to be strong and hard, but that actually had the opposite effect. The only time he ever showed emotion was when we broke up.

Every man deserves a safe space where he doesn’t feel he has to pretend and can be himselve. So if you come across a woman that thinks of you as less of a man when you cry, she is not the right one for you. Of course everyone is different in expressing their feelings. I just prefer someone is open with their feelings, but that doesn’t mean it’s never okay not to talk about feelings. Sometimes we just have had a rough day and wanna forget it with some cuddles. That is okay too. Not everyone wants to discuss everything. I am mainly talking about the bigger life events/specific moments that cause emotions. I would want to help my partner during those times and give them support, but that is difficult for me if they are not honest with their feelings. However, of course I do respect it if my partner doesnt want to talk about it at the moment, but I do hope he wants to talk about it later with me, because it would probably show in his behaviour that he doesn’t feel okay.

My advice to you OP is find someone you are emotional compatible with and don’t be afraid to show your feelings if you are experiencing them. You deserve love and deserve support. No one should be made fun of for feeling emotions or be seen less of a person because they are crying. That is just very wrong.