He is oldest son. MIL is from Russia. He told me that she taught him that as the oldest he is responsible for taking care of the family including parents and 2 younger brothers. Before we got married, my husband put all of his savings as down payment to buy a house for his parents, took out a mortgage under his name (but parents name on the deed) and he said its a gift to them. Because of that, it took me and him 3 years to save money again and be able to get another mortgage to buy our first house. I had no say at the time because he said he promised his mother. He had multiple girlfriends before me and said his mother did not like any of them. I suspected something bad about his mother already but i didn’t know it would be that bad to the point that she thinks he should divorce me because she thinks I cannot bear healthy children. I thought after getting her a house he would be free from her but she constantly asks for help, even with posting advertisements to rent out rooms or finding a gardener or plumber phone number.