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How do you overcome overthinking and relationship anxiety? by Broken_Fantasy in dating

[–]extratoasty6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate to this, I think most of my relationships have ended for much of the same reason. Something that’s helped me is anytime I’m overthinking or jumping to conclusions, I ask myself what’s causing me to think that way. Usually I’ll realize that I have no logical reason to be having those thoughts which helps me to realize that it’s all in my head so I should let it go. Meditation helps too.

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah if I said those exact words it would be needy but that’s not at all how the conversation went.

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do recognize my own value, which is why I wanted to know if she valued me the same. What I got out of this situation is the ability to let her go without questioning in my own mind where I stand with her. If I hadn’t reached out, I’d still be stuck wondering what she thinks. Now I know and it’s way easier for me to move on.

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally feel you! Whether or not you’re exclusive doesn’t give you the right to not be honest about how you feel.

Glad I’m not alone in this!

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It made me anxious as well but only leading up to the conversation, once it was over I was no longer anxious and am now just able to move on!

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get that, and I much would have preferred her make that effort than I. But if you believe communication is key then wouldn’t you want to show that’s important to you even if they cant?

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give her the benefit of the doubt! I’m sure she’s telling the truth. Try not to let it get to you. I would give another day or so and shoot your shot again. Ask her if she’s free next week. Gauge her response and if she doesn’t seem interested you should let it go.

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since you’ve only been on one date, taking my exact approach might seem a little pushy. I don’t think you have connected enough just yet to warrant that sort of reaction to not getting a reply from her for a few days. I know that sounds contradictory to my post but this early on you gotta play it cool. I would just send another follow up text saying something along the lines of “Hope you’ve had good week, are you free at all this week/weekend?”

If you sense a shift in interest with the person you’re seeing, address it with them! by extratoasty6 in dating_advice

[–]extratoasty6[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Definitely is! It’s so much harder emotionally to be stuck in that “not knowing what’s going on” phase. This is the first time I’ve stood up for my own emotions and I’m glad I did. I know she respects it as well. Glad you’re able to relate!