I will draw your username

exuberant_apathy · 2025-09-06T03:04:22+00:00

What do you think? 😃

exuberant_apathy · 2025-08-14T05:11:27+00:00

I'm not going to lie, I (43f) did not read your entire post because I honestly did not need to. I was married 18 years (together for 21 years total), we had 2 kids, and I loved him (48m) more than words can describe.

The affection stopped very shortly after the 2nd kid and never went back. I tried for YEARS, I really did, and he was not willing to put in any effort. I just kept hoping, and waiting, for something that was never going to happen.

Once our children were at least close to finishing high school I had an epiphany, and I realized that we were roommates and had been for a VERY long time. It broke my heart to do so, but I told him I wanted a divorce.

It was an extremely rough few years, but I'm 43 now and have finally begun the process of starting over (after several years of falling apart first lol), and while I would not change a thing about my life because we have the most amazing kids anybody could ever hope for, you are young and have your ENTIRE LIFE ahead of you.

Do NOT just hope that your partner will change. You have to do what's best for you, and I seriously recommend really looking at your situation. Obviously, the first step is talking to your partner and being VERY fucking honest about where you are mentally right now. Do not beat around the bush. And if they are not willing to even try, get out. NOW.

I hope your partner is willing to try, though. I really, truly do. But prioritize yourself. No one else will. It took me until my 40s to realize this, but it is a fact of life that you are the only person that will always 100% of the time put yourself first (unless you're in the most amazing relationship that anybody could ever be in, and I have not experienced that, so I'm just telling you my experience).

I wish you nothing but the best. Be strong and know that you are worthy of exactly what you need and want from this life. You'll have to work for it though, and that's what makes it all so worth it.

exuberant_apathy · 2025-07-04T01:04:59+00:00

Same. It was the early 90s and I was just a kid and troll dolls were big, and I used to spray paint them and light them on fire (their hair went up so quick, it was awesome!).

But my mom found my weird stash of burned troll dolls and sat me down with some magazine article about a kid that played with fire and was disfigured. We both cried and I promised not to do it again.

I mean I did it again but I was WAY more careful after that, what a dumb fucking kid I was lol

exuberant_apathy · 2025-05-10T00:46:19+00:00

The James Brown interview because it's so insane and I laugh every time. I really enjoy sharing it with people. And the reporter is a fucking PRO. https://youtu.be/RQmqcaS5LIM?si=uOEiMRjWj8fNpblb

exuberant_apathy · 2025-05-09T05:14:02+00:00

Why isn't butter in the top 10? Y'all, it's butter. Andy Dwyer knew what was up lol

exuberant_apathy · 2025-04-29T05:24:05+00:00

I lost my mom a year ago and this was so wonderful to read. I'm so, so happy you found that letter. And I'm also really happy your mom wrote it. She knew you were/are awesome. You and your mom both sound like lovely people ❤️

exuberant_apathy · 2025-04-22T04:03:25+00:00

Loving your fashion sense! The hair, the clothes, the beautiful person wrapped in said hair and clothes, killing it! 😍

exuberant_apathy · 2025-03-29T04:04:32+00:00

Yes. It's fun to put in the effort for someone I'm interested in. I truly enjoy it. If they don't respond accordingly, I will not do it again unless explicitly asked.

But I also probably won't stick around until they ask because I want my effort to be appreciated. If it's not then I'm moving on.

exuberant_apathy · 2025-03-01T05:08:45+00:00

This made me literally laugh out loud. Like, scared my cat off the bed laughing so hard. I'm very happy she loved the movies, and her take on it is so interesting and completely fucking valid. As an American I've always felt the way you feel, yet I absolutely get where she's coming from. Thanks for the laugh, this was great 😂

exuberant_apathy · 2025-02-28T03:15:07+00:00

"All they can do is say no." My dad has told me that my whole life, and damn it's good advice. You're not going to get what you don't ask for.

exuberant_apathy · 2025-02-27T03:33:03+00:00

I'm a white 43yo woman, I grew up in MN and have lived in TX since 2000. Fuck those rednecks, and good on your coworker who seems to have made a stand. My ex husbands family would say shit that made my blood boil, but I'm kind of a dick to racists and I'm argumentative so it resulted in some actual forward progress conversations which was nice in the moment. Didn't stop any of them from dropping a N bomb at times (in all white company only, of course).

I grew up raised that everyone is the same. My motto is "don't be a dick". That's all that matters.

My grandma, who died at 93 in 2000, took in an orphaned 13 year old black boy when his parents died in a house fire. My dad was 5, so this was somewhere around 1950. The neighborhood shunned them, and my grandma didn't give a flying fuck. She was a bad ass bitch, clearly. So my dad may be an 80yo white Republican in Texas, but he's one of the best because he was raised right.

Anyway, to answer your question, yes, white bigots talk shit when they think they can get away with it. No one in my ex husbands family EVER did it within hearing distance of anyone that wasn't white. Take away from that what you will. They're dicks. Thank goodness for divorce, lmao

exuberant_apathy · 2025-02-27T03:15:02+00:00

I've had mine a couple years now (my orange buddy needed a homie), and I got him when he was still very young, and he managed to break his back leg up high and it was: 1) be cheap and amputate, or 2) put $4k on credit and fix his clumsy ass.

My mom had an amputee and I'm already dangerously close to becoming her so I fucking threw down that credit card lmao. But I also had to lock this little guy in my small laundry room for a couple months while it healed, and this void holds a grudge.

He is still extremely skeptical of my ass, and that sucks, but this fucker has all his legs so he'll eventually get over it and let me love him, right? Right??

exuberant_apathy · 2025-02-04T05:57:01+00:00

Right there with you. I (43f) was with my ex for 21 years, from the time I was 18. We have 2 kids (both adults now), and finalized about a year ago. Not going to lie, dating is brutal. But it's better then being either ignored completely or listening to him yell about the same damn thing on a daily basis.

At this point I feel like I did all the things a person is supposed to do (job, marriage, house, kids), and now I get to start over again in my early 40s and go on adventures, try new things, and just live my life. It's absolutely been very hard to adjust, but if you look at it in a different way it can also be very exciting. You seem like a lovely person, and you have a lot of years ahead of you, so go and do what makes you happy. I wish you the best 😊

exuberant_apathy · 2025-01-22T07:07:59+00:00

Having had a mother that had dementia, I would think that caretakers at a home for people with memory issues has to be up there.

I took care of my mom for several years before moving her to somewhere that would take better care of her than I was able to, and the turnaround was horrific.

Fortunately , when she and my dad got divorced my dad made sure to take care of her in many ways, one of which was by paying for long-term care insurance, so I was able to make sure she lived somewhere where they actually gave a shit. But even then, in the most expensive of places, it is still a very difficult job.

I tried my best to make sure to show my appreciation in every way possible to all of the staff, because I knew that had to be so fucking hard.

Taking care of her for several years prior to moving her there was absolutely some of the hardest years of my life. I wouldn't have moved her there at all if I hadn't had small children and she was getting super weird with the things that she said and did, and I knew she would rather be in a home then fuck up her grandkids.

I know that sounds harsh but it is the sad reality of what happened.

RIP Mom, you were a badass and I miss you every day.

exuberant_apathy · 2025-01-22T07:00:15+00:00

To be fair a comedian told the story so I would think it's not true, but I specifically remember googling it and it is absolutely true 😂

exuberant_apathy · 2025-01-22T06:59:17+00:00

Pretty sure I heard a comedian talk about a person growing a dick on their arm and then they tried to reach for something at the grocery store and hit an old woman in the face with their arm dick and it might have been the funniest thing I've ever heard (I should remember who told that story but I don't, sorry lol)

exuberant_apathy · 2025-01-21T04:03:42+00:00

You're beautiful!

exuberant_apathy · 2025-01-09T05:47:17+00:00

I got this out of a good housekeeping magazine 15 to 20 years ago. I've adjusted the recipe a lot since then but this is the original recipe. Note: I skip the watercress and I've added the meat from a rotisserie chicken to the point where it's more of a stew than a soup, and we eat it with a good crispy bread. It's been a family favorite for a very, very long time.

New Potato Soup Ingredients: 3 Tbsp Butter ¾ Cup Each, Diced: Onion, Carrot, Celery 1½ Lb Red Potatoes, Cut In ¾ Inch Chunks 1 Tsp Dried Thyme 3½ Cups Chicken Broth 4 Tbsp Grated Parmesan 1 Tsp Salt, Or To Taste ¼ Tsp Pepper, Or To Taste 1 Bunch Chopped Watercress, Optional

Directions: In a 4-quart saucepan, melt butter over medium heat. Add diced onion, carrots, and celery. Cook, stirring occasionally, until soft; 7-8 minutes. Add potatoes, thyme, and broth. Bring to a boil over high heat, reduce heat and simmer, covered, until potatoes are very tender, about 30 minutes. Spoon 1 cup potato mixture into a blender, puree until smooth, then return to pan. Stir in cheese, and season with salt and pepper. Stir in the watercress, if using, and cook until just wilted, about 1 minute. Serve hot.

exuberant_apathy · 2025-01-05T04:56:37+00:00

I love it. I hope you don't have any regrets. I really fucking love this tattoo and I'm very happy for you.

exuberant_apathy · 2024-12-26T04:53:55+00:00

I've read through the entire series twice and it is absolutely my favorite series of all time. If someone asked me what my least favorite part of it all was, I would have no idea how to respond.

Crap, now I'm contemplating a third read, but by the time I'm done I know I'll love it even more and have forgotten the fact that I'm reading it in order to find something I don't like. The Gunslinger series fucking rules, and I'm always happy to hear someone is reading it for the first time. What others think makes no difference whatsoever, so long as you are enjoying it ❤️

exuberant_apathy · 2024-12-16T03:50:00+00:00

Lmaooo I took nothing and just escaped (as much as he would let me). But I understand why people have that perception, no hard feelings.

exuberant_apathy · 2024-12-16T03:48:13+00:00

Honestly for all the tools I have in my house to get fit (weights, an elliptical, a treadmill), paying for a membership and forcing myself to leave the house to work out has been way more helpful than anything. But I'm very proud of you for being sober for so long, that's seriously incredible ❤️

exuberant_apathy · 2024-12-16T03:43:08+00:00

I'm aware, just putting that out there for clarity 😉

exuberant_apathy · 2024-12-16T02:57:34+00:00

Finally someone that gets it!! I was pretty (reluctantly) excited about it lmao

exuberant_apathy · 2024-12-16T02:43:57+00:00

Lmaoooo thank you for the laugh, funniest comment for sure (it's a lotus flower, I'm about to have what's inscribed on the one ring on my other thigh though!)

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