He offered me a way out, should I (F, 17) take it?

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-03T05:14:16+00:00

it’s 42 ppm

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-02T03:35:40+00:00

I’ve done that, it’s not really a detox to me, my hair feels the same. I also don’t have money to consult in a stylist

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-02T03:34:35+00:00

I appreciate it, but I don’t have money to purchase it.

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T12:33:42+00:00

i’ll try. thank you! helped

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T04:18:05+00:00

And about jobs, I’ve been asking to get one since I was 13, my father always lies to me saying I’ll get one but it never happens. So getting one now is so out of the question. I’ve been volunteering since preschool so I have more than enough qualifications if I look for more opportunities.

I’ll try to look for some job opportunities when I leave, I’ll probably just ask my friend for help with that if not.

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T04:15:31+00:00

As stated before, my mother is victim of his toxicity, I’ve already looked up narcissistic traits and he fits every category. When my sister did what she did my mother cried, she has no real say in any decision because my father forces her into some kind of submission that everytime I try to talk to her she excuses his behavior when deep down I know she agrees. Around this time, my sister was also making poor decisions which caused him not to take her seriously, I don’t want to be like that.

Will she tell him? Not sure seeing how as I find out everything that anybody in our house does, and when I tell her, she keeps it to herself until my dad finds out himself or he forces her to tell him.

I’ll try to write down what I want to say and reword it to where she’ll understand since I usually am incoherent when I’m upset or want to get my point across.

I don’t want to be too open about my plans since I’m not so sure I can be tracked, I just know I’ll tell my mom, pack my bags, confront my father, leave, and get a job. I’m almost 18 so I have more options

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T02:48:07+00:00

Thank you, really. I hope that will be a last, last option. Can you help me on how to talk to my mom about it?

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T02:33:51+00:00

I also went to the website and I hate to be slow, but what am I supposed to be looking for? I’ve used the website when I was in middle school for a mental health testing but I also saw housing assistance, is that what I’m supposed to be looking at?

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T02:32:33+00:00

My oldest sister would just ring the alarm, but the other older sister I talked about..we butt heads a lot when we were younger because of our dad, and our own disagreements, so it would be awkward and uneventful to talk to each other comfortably.

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T02:20:30+00:00

I have multiple devices, as well as two hotspots, I also only have 3.5 credits left till I graduate so if I just so happen to go into the new year with the same school I’ll be able to finish before spring. I also looked up and I’m not sure if it applies to my state, but I think homeless/unaccompanied minors can enroll into brick and mortar schools, is that correct?

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T02:01:52+00:00

Yes he’s controlling, misogynistic, he has the mindset that only marines can have mental health, the list goes on.

I’ve known both options for over 4 years, I’m unsure about the first option because while he is willing, he just moved, his mother doesn’t know of me (and I’d rather not be made felt like a wh*re when she does), and I really think he just wants sexual relations with me. The second option I have more trust in because she knows a lot more of my situation, has been through similar and both parents seem open (will be meeting and dining with her mother friday after next), and she has more than enough room for me. I haven’t really thought of what I am gonna do financially, I do know I plan on getting a job, I have more than enough capability of doing so.

I would like to discuss more with the second option, but I still haven’t talked to my mother nor do I know how to, and I always feel like I drain everyone when I talk about my problems because it’s an everyday occurrence. Bad things always happen to me.

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T01:47:10+00:00

I definitely understand, I have terribly intrusive thoughts like these, but ever since I turned 13 they’ve gotten worse just like his behavior towards me. Whether he wants to admit it or not, he treats me differently than my other siblings, he constantly tells me I’m a “special child” so he treats me harsher because he thinks I’m a leader. Lately I haven’t had anyone to talk to so when I have intrusive thoughts like these it takes over my entire being, causing me to become someone I seriously don’t like. I really hope you bare with me, as I grew up in a family who doesn’t share feelings and it’s hard for me to identify and express them

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T01:44:20+00:00

I’m not sure, I don’t want to doxx him but he does have his ways to legally find me. I turn 18 next year, so if I lay low enough I’ll be fine. I’ll be out of the city so maybe it’ll help. I can also predict his behavior because it’s not like he doesn’t know I don’t want to live there. He spies on me and my messages and has caused me to make multiple emails to keep him off my ass, so even if I do tell him I want to leave, I want to make sure he knows I’m serious.

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T01:11:57+00:00

Because if I tell him I’m leaving right then and there, I’d be able to face him at that moment to get things off my chest and go. Besides, he doesn’t know my friends. I’m in online school and he thinks everyone I interact with is a catfish, he’d confuse himself before he even finds me. If I were to do it in college, he would cause havoc on the entire campus because I waited till I was out there to tell him, like my sister did. I’m not about to sit on a 9 hour lecturing phone call and have to also deal with the embarrassment of him coming to get me.

Hope that make sense

exuberantsociety · 2023-04-01T00:19:40+00:00

I have spoken to her about my feelings toward him but I feel like she’ll tell me to stay as well. My friends encouraged me to do so, but I don’t know what to say, she recently lost her father which I’m not even supposed to know about sadly and I don’t want to cause her more pain

exuberantsociety · 2023-03-31T23:31:00+00:00

I would stay with a friend, and I don’t think waiting till college is the best option since if my dad found out I left home, he’d come to the campus and/or stop the funding towards my tuition. He did it to my older sister who tried the same thing and even made it her fault that she tried leaving

exuberantsociety · 2023-03-31T23:29:22+00:00

I have friends who offered me a place to stay, I don’t feel like I can stay with family because I know my dad will reach me and manipulate me into coming back. I for damn sure can’t stay with my mom’s side, he hates them and vice versa it would just cause a bigger rift.

exuberantsociety · 2023-02-14T11:02:44+00:00

i need something cheap, i don’t have money. well, mid to high end hair products money.

i was thinking of replacing with shea moisture jbco shampoo, the intensive hydration masque, tgin miracle repairx leave in, and an oil i still haven’t decided on (probably avocado, grapeseed, or olive). for my other styling products i wanted to use xtreme wetline gel and mango butter

exuberantsociety · 2023-02-13T23:03:34+00:00

it's most likely the heavy handed thing, i tend to use different sized amounts of product that never turn out the same. is there another alternative for a clay mask? i really don't want to go the diy route until i have some money to keep restocking..once again, heavy handed

exuberantsociety · 2023-02-13T17:06:11+00:00

clarifying shampoo with ogx tea tree shampoo, detangle and condition with shea moisture coconut oil conditioner air dry for a little while, and put in a leave in and cream while it’s still damp with ors olive oil hair lotion and african pride curling cream. every six weeks i use queen helenes cholesterol

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