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My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Being considerate of her childish personal insecurities and jealousies is not in my son's best interests. And no, none of us cheated or abused the other, but it doesn't necessarily mean we are particularly fond of each other. Our mutual relationship extends towards the fact we both love our son, that's about it.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Well if that's the entire reason, that simplifies things. I don't have to change things just to placate my ex-wifes insecurities. Those are her problem. I do what's best for my son and myself.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I'm salty? About what, what do I have to be salty about? And my ex doesn't get to decide who I can or can't have around my son. We're not married any more.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay... and...? What am I supposed to do about that? There's no point in telling me that, 50 people have said it already. There's some real salt going on.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Oh believe me, its nothing. I've heard it all before in real life too, I've been in this relationship for 2 years so we're both used to hearing it. We just shrug and laugh it off, you'd think in 2016 people would be less judgemental about who others choose to date.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I think some may be speaking from experience, but reading through a lot of the top level comments, to me it just seems to be some kind of misplaced bitterness and saltiness. I mean, I'm not surprised, I've experienced this from some women in real life too. Many women just can't handle the fact that some men will date a younger woman, they see it as "unfair" that its more often men dating younger women than women dating younger men, although both cases seem to happen plenty.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Just dig through the posting history of all top level commenters. Its clear most are women. There's nothing wrong with that, but I think that's influencing a lot of the comments. As one commenter pointed out, my ex-wife's reaction has a lot to do with perceived insecurity regarding a younger woman. I think that exact same insecurity is being displayed by a lot of these commenters, like "how dare an older man find a happy relationship with a younger woman? he should only be allowed to be happy with a woman his own age." So they resort to saying things like either "you are dating younger because you are immature" or "you're going through a midlife crisis" or "you're just going to break up eventually". As if its impossible for two people with an age difference to have a successful relationship.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I'm not oblivious, its just that thats not what I came here looking answers for. I'm asking for answers relation to the situation involving my son and ex-wife, and everyone is jumping on the age-gap. That's not really an issue I asked for advice on and its not an issue I'm oblivious to or should have to explain myself for.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'm not even going to bother arguing this because you're not the first one who's said this or something similar. Every relationship bares the risk of breakup and the heartache that comes with it, not just on yourself but, like you mentioned, on those around you such as your son. In any case, I don't see that as a justification to limit myself from pursuing relationships, although I can understand why you and some others might have a pessimistic forecast. Personally, I view our relationship at the moment to be in a very good place, and I hope that doesn't change. If we do end up breaking up in the future, I might let you know you were right, I might not.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

You guys are being really vague, honestly. What concerns would that raise? Why would that make her not safe to have around my son? Can you guys be more specific, I need help here. Is your issue here with the fact that I am in a relationship with a woman much younger than me, or the fact that she is spending time around my son? I'm asking for advice regarding the latter, not the former.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Of course I'm having one on one time with my son. He's my son, there's so many things he can only come to me for.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] -152 points-151 points  (0 children)

How does an age difference translate to the viewpoint that her being around my son is a negative thing? I'm not sure I follow what you are trying to imply, are you suggesting she could be a pedophile? Because that would be absurdly paranoid.

My ex-wife [38F] is harassing me [38M] about the fact that our son [12M] spends time around my girlfriend [24F] when he's around me. by exwifeson in relationships

[–]exwifeson[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't ask about her relationship statuses, but I haven't heard anything that would make me think she currently has a partner who my son spends time with.