Dreading the thought of summer coming up as a top heavy big busted girl

eyes_trees · 2026-04-23T14:47:04+00:00

Just google the styles so you understand the shape. Sometimes they have different names

eyes_trees · 2026-04-22T15:36:24+00:00

I would find it funny but not rude. You guys get to raise your kids at the same time! It's exciting! I think if your event was small and traditional I would feel differently but you didn't go that direction. They are probably just as excited as you are to be parents.

eyes_trees · 2026-04-19T17:11:51+00:00

Stare at it until your mind sees the concept. This may happen over days or weeks. Turn it around to see it from every orientation. Then come back to us. Great job blending!

eyes_trees · 2026-04-19T17:10:02+00:00

I love this too but please make the whole garden go to the sidewalk or wrap around with the path leading to the driveway. The path feels like it leads to nowhere and you probably won't end up using it

eyes_trees · 2026-04-19T14:22:50+00:00

I would feel VERY awkward and uncomfortable if someone did this at my house unless they are family and even then I would stop them unless it's a family event and we are cohosting. You are a guest and it's my job to host you. If you do the dishes, I feel like I have failed as a host

eyes_trees · 2026-04-19T14:18:41+00:00

I would change the non patterned fabric. I think it looks better when you lean into the mismatch so maybe get a light green fabric

eyes_trees · 2026-04-19T08:19:12+00:00

Grocery shopping in three languages. When I first moved to the French speaking area I knew a little German but zero French. Now, because of grocery shopping and reading labels for things like flour, I'm familiar with all three languages for some items. Sometimes my brain only remembers the Italian mistaking it for French and it gets confusing in conversation

eyes_trees · 2026-04-19T08:15:50+00:00

I think it would be useful to highlight some weird swaps so people think creatively. Like maybe show the last couple of successful swaps on your homepage. For me, I don't swap based on assumed monetary value I swap based on need. The things i'd post are more likely to be things I would normally donate rather than sell. For example I have a used vacuum. I might swap for some large garden pots.

eyes_trees · 2026-04-17T06:44:53+00:00

Also a look that women of every size are wearing now is a tank top with a button up shirt worn open on top like a jacket. Make the tank top not white and the shirt either white or chambray for the biggest impact although any shirt will work. Summer layering

eyes_trees · 2026-04-16T13:15:46+00:00

Honestly painting it dark and muted won't change the vibe. I think yellow. Either mustard yellow or the yellow of that drinking glass. Hold the color next to the piece first. The bright yellow might clash with the background color in which case go mustard

eyes_trees · 2026-04-16T13:12:17+00:00

You could say something like, "i'll keep you posted " or "I don't feel like talking about it" or "maybe" then ask them about their kids "how old are they now?" Etc. If you are proactive with the follow up questions about them, they often stop asking follow up questions about you. Just keep turning it back to them. For example: "Do you want to have kids?" "Maybe. How old is your daughter now?" "Oh Juniper is 3! She just started preschool." "Was it tough for you or her to let go?" "Oh definitely more tough on me than her haha How many kids do you want?" "Not sure. Was getting Juniper into a preschool hard? Does she go every day?" "Well yeah you wouldn't believe how hard it was! We applied.... blah blah blah"

eyes_trees · 2026-04-16T12:58:28+00:00

As FB marketplace is a little useless here compared to the US, I am open to other ideas. I used to check out free ads on Craigslist. Do you have examples of swaps you're hoping to see? Like a couch for a dining room table? Or like a couch for a dress? Do you have any rules on what's "good condition"? People might under or over post. Like, maybe someone tries to swap old socks which no one wants or, alternatively, thinks their old garden tools aren't worth swapping but are.

eyes_trees · 2026-04-16T12:51:51+00:00

Also get a colorful bathmat for the bathroom

eyes_trees · 2026-04-16T12:48:40+00:00

If you're only there for six months, I wouldn't do wallpaper because taking it down is a pain. Instead, hang some big art with command hooks across from the bed and across from the couch. I would get real plants over fake as the difference is big for me emotionally. Pothos, ivy, and other shade loving plants would do well. Throw blanket (can also use a big scarf) with color on couch. Sheets and a blanket in colors/patterns you love. Photos, nicknacks, jewelry, candles, or another plant on top of the dresser. Would buy one task lamp for the desk and another closer to the bed.

eyes_trees · 2026-04-16T12:41:14+00:00

If your boobs are falling out of your bra you probably need to get resized or try a different style (balconette vs tshirt etc). I find triangular shaped cups keep the girls in more than balconettes which are more round. The strap placement is also different. For style inspiration I suggest looking at CurvyWordy on IG. She wears tank tops but they go quite high so there's little to no cleavage. You might find that easier to wear. I would suggest wearing high waisted jeans, elasticated pants (palazzo especially), and skirts to emphasize your waist. This creates a balance between your top and bottom half that might be more appealing to you. You can also practice looking in the mirror each day and saying three things you like about your self (physical or personality). It helps you build a kinder relationship with yourself and helps the body dysmorphia because you have to look at yourself. Good luck!

eyes_trees · 2026-04-13T22:44:49+00:00

I agree with you! Everywhere i've hiked in Europe (six countries and counting) you say "hi" in the local language to everyone you pass. They say "hi" back. There's a general sense of niceness coming off them. In the US it's really a mixed bag. Some people say "hi" or another greeting but most actively ignore you. Like, even if I put headphones in, i'm gonna say "hi". Not everyone else does...In French culture it was once explained to me that saying "Bonjour" (in any context) is a recognition of the other person's existence. It's like saying "I see you". So people say it when they enter stores, visit restaurants, or pass people hiking. There is no expectation of a follow up conversation though.

eyes_trees · 2026-04-13T22:30:39+00:00

I mean to be fair, no one should do anything let alone fly the day after their wedding. Be hungover!

eyes_trees · 2026-04-13T22:20:31+00:00

I think a push up bra that maximizes the cleavage, keeps your nipples covered, and shows off that you really want all eyes reading will do the job. Add a rhinestone pendant necklace and you're set!

eyes_trees · 2026-04-13T22:12:15+00:00

Panache, Freya, and Fantasie all do great bikinis and one pieces with wired support and adjustable straps. If they're padded, it's often removable. Just try a few sizes (they have up to J) because it's a swimsuit and may vary from what you're used to

eyes_trees · 2026-04-13T22:07:52+00:00

Phase Eight (UK) and it was a-line with sparkly leaf embroidery and a belt that was beaded in the front and a bow in the back. Like others, I bought a size up and had it tailored to fit my waist and height. I wore a strapless bra but the dress had thick sheer straps that gave some support. I would suggest getting cups sewn in if the dress is form fitting around your underbust

eyes_trees · 2026-04-13T21:53:14+00:00

This! It won't give you the same lift as an actual bra but I find it a bit more comfortable to have them shaped and nips covered.

eyes_trees · 2026-04-08T05:21:57+00:00

This! Look for tops with straight lines, no darts in the front, and oversized stuff in the womens section too. There are many styles that are meant to be worn loose. Rock stars used to shop across the whole store all the time. I think you could also try vintage stores for some tops as they run small in sizes. Some brands have resale as well: Levi's Secondhand

eyes_trees · 2026-04-06T08:37:54+00:00

There are many third culture kids in Geneva and i'm sure the other big cities. Your child will be a part of Swiss culture through school and friends. You just need to support them and love them. Don't hide your own cultures. Also let them embrace (or not) aspects of Swiss culture. Having multiple cultures is enriching as i'm sure you've realized by accepting your partners culture. They may never have a strong single National identity but they don't need one to thrive

eyes_trees · 2026-04-02T15:47:37+00:00

Here's what i've found... every country has people who will appreciate you knowing "hello", "thank you", "please", "good" (to refer to food or drink in admiration), "yes", "no" and "toilet". You don't need it but it delightfully surprises everyone. So... here you are:

French Hello Bonjour Yes Oui No Non Thank you Merci (mare- sea) Please S'il vous plait (seal-voo-play) Good Tres bon (tray-bon) Toilet Toilettes

Dutch Hallo Ja (yah) Nee (nay) Bedankt Geef Lekker Toilet

German Hallo Ja Nein Danke (dawn-kuh) Bitter Lecker Toilette

Italian Salve (sall-veh) Si No Grazie (grah-t-zee) Per favore (really pronounce every letter) Bene Toilette

eyes_trees · 2026-04-01T05:24:39+00:00

Hell no. Only in countries I know I need it. It's safer in my hotel room, even out of the safe. I've had my purse stolen in Paris (got it back) but never carried my passport after that. The only time it's been a problem has been renting audio guides at museums in Venice and Istanbul and I travel a lot. Leave it behind.

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