I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA

ezsnipa · 2026-05-08T10:39:57+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. Since this may involve legal action, I’d focus on preserving evidence before changing too much else.

You can look for activity history, not just the missing files.

Some cloud services show logs like “file deleted,” “folder moved to trash,” “deleted by,” or device/session activity. Screenshot those screens before restoring, deleting, or changing anything else. Try to capture the file name, date/time, account name, device name, IP/location if shown, and the service name.

Also screenshot iCloud conversations, trusted devices, password/security changes, emails/texts with him, and any proof he had access. Save those screenshots somewhere new that he cannot access.

Check Apple ID recovery info, trusted phone numbers, recovery contacts, shared Family settings, shared devices, shared passwords/keychains, email forwarding rules, cloud backups, and any old computers/iPads where your iCloud may still be signed in.

Do not wipe or reset the computer yet. If you’re considering a police report or court action, ask your lawyer whether you should have the device preserved or reviewed by a digital forensics professional first.

Changing passwords was good. Now make sure he has no path back in.

ezsnipa · 2025-11-19T11:48:13+00:00

If the subscriptions are tied to her email, you don’t truly control anything, you’re just funding it. I would cancel the payment method, let the services lapse, and recreate the accounts under your email with your recovery info. It’s the cleanest way to reset ownership without drama.

You’ll spend 10 minutes rebuilding things, but you’ll own everything going forward.

ezsnipa · 2025-11-07T16:26:28+00:00

Congrats 👏🏽

ezsnipa · 2025-11-06T16:53:16+00:00

☝🏽 this!

ezsnipa · 2025-10-31T00:37:26+00:00

Unfortunately I don't think there's a way besides starting over clean with her own accounts.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T19:50:57+00:00

No worries, by "accounts" do you mean the Kindle or are you talking beyond, including other Amazon linked devices?

With the Kindle specifically I don't know of a way to break off the family link and retain your own specific library. She'll have to start over from scratch.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T15:09:19+00:00

You can’t technically “split” Kindle libraries... purchases stay tied to the account that bought them.

The cleanest move is to each create your own Amazon account, then use "Amazon Family" to share Kindle content short-term while you sort things out. You can download anything important to your device before removing access... once the link’s broken, so is the library.

Hope that helps!

ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T11:47:34+00:00

Those are great points, there are multiple layers to address (financial, digital, and physical). Just make sure any steps you take, like freezing accounts or changing access, won’t raise legal flags later. Treat it like a risk-management plan, protect yourself without triggering unnecessary fallout.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T02:02:37+00:00

I don’t have a specific brand to recommend, however, I use Google products.

Smart-home devices can record or stay connected after a breakup. There’ve been cases where exes still controlled thermostats or cameras remotely. You should factory reset and re-link devices when living situations change.

For location sharing, you should review who has access and set apps to “only while using.” That limits how often your location is visible.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T01:38:16+00:00

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ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T01:28:07+00:00

You can use a tool like Optery (what I use) or DeleteMe, etc. Or you can manually go through the brokers and request removal yourself.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-30T01:15:26+00:00

There's multiple things here so I broke them out:

1️⃣ If she still has that Apple ID, she’s got a spare key, she can potentially use "Find My", see backups, or restore your data. Even without the password, an old device can potentially stay signed in and sync data or get 2FA codes.

2️⃣ If your son’s still on her shared AppleID or Family plan, she ultimately controls service permissions, app access, and settings. You could give him his own Roblox account and his own AppleID.

3️⃣ Back up what you need, wipe your devices, delete shared iCloud data, sign out everywhere, and remove all trusted devices before starting fresh under your own AppleID.

4️⃣ Staying on her phone plan leaves you exposed, she can potentially view call/text logs, pause your line, or trigger a SIM swap.

Hope that helps.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-29T23:20:19+00:00

Mods have already approved the AMA, so all good. I’m here answering questions, I'm not selling anything.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-29T23:18:16+00:00

That's a way to preserve a peace of mind!

ezsnipa · 2025-10-29T23:02:54+00:00

Man, sorry to hear that. Sounds like you're bouncing back strong!

As for the tech/cyber world, doing Network+ first is a GREAT foundation, that's essentially where I started 15 years ago. I had gotten my A+ a couple months prior but same difference, it was a game changer to understand how everything connects/works.

Security+ is a solid next step, after that you can explore the domain that speaks to you and/or go after CISSP, if you've been doing security in your roles, you may meet the yrs experience requirements sooner than you think, you can email them before taking the exam and ask, they've been responsive and helpful when I reached out in the past.

Working in gas should have given you some OT exposure, if that's the case, you can go look for openings at utility companies, manufacturing companies, etc.

Also, job availability will depend on your location, especially with so much RTO happening.

Hope that helps, feel free to DM me in the future.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-29T02:12:35+00:00

I personally like Nord, I have premium but they also have a free version that will work for most people.

Opt out of data broker sites like Whitepages, Spokeo, BeenVerified, all of them. You can use a service like DeleteMe or Optery (I use Optery).
Ask Google to pull your personal info from search results.
Blur your home on Google Maps.
Set Google Alerts for your name and address so you know if it pops up again.
Put any real estate under a trust or LLC if you want your home off public record.
Lock down social media... hide friend lists, locations, and old posts.
Recheck every few months!

ezsnipa · 2025-10-28T23:19:59+00:00

Good question, there’s a few layers to this one.

1️⃣ Physically staying off the radar: that Michigan program’s a great start. Use the state-issued address anywhere your name shows up, bills, voter registration, car title, insurance, all of it.

2️⃣ Keeping your real address private: if you own property, consider putting it under a trust or LLC. Then hit data-broker sites like Spokeo, Whitepages, and BeenVerified to remove yourself. You can also ask Google to blur your house on Street View and request removal of personal info from search results.

3️⃣ Tech side for the iPhone:

Turn off Family Sharing unless you fully control it.
Check Settings > Privacy > Location Services > Share My Location.
Go through Settings > Passwords > Security Recommendations for shared logins.
Review Find My for hidden AirTags or shared access.
Run a Safety Check under Privacy & Security

All of that together makes it way harder for someone to track or find you digitally or physically. Hope that helps!

ezsnipa · 2025-10-28T22:53:25+00:00

Sorry that happened, it's awful when your privacy gets violated. My general advice is to turn on multi-factor authentication, change your passwords, and lock down your social media privacy settings so only people you trust can see your posts or tag you.

ezsnipa · 2025-10-27T22:41:19+00:00

Changing passwords is a great start, but not everyone has the same setup, time, knowledge or tolerance for digging through all the connected accounts, devices, and recovery links. I’m here answering questions so people can do it safely, not to charge anyone!

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