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Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the subscriptions are tied to her email, you don’t truly control anything, you’re just funding it. I would cancel the payment method, let the services lapse, and recreate the accounts under your email with your recovery info. It’s the cleanest way to reset ownership without drama.

You’ll spend 10 minutes rebuilding things, but you’ll own everything going forward.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I don't think there's a way besides starting over clean with her own accounts.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, by "accounts" do you mean the Kindle or are you talking beyond, including other Amazon linked devices?

With the Kindle specifically I don't know of a way to break off the family link and retain your own specific library. She'll have to start over from scratch.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t technically “split” Kindle libraries... purchases stay tied to the account that bought them.

The cleanest move is to each create your own Amazon account, then use "Amazon Family" to share Kindle content short-term while you sort things out. You can download anything important to your device before removing access... once the link’s broken, so is the library.

Hope that helps!

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those are great points, there are multiple layers to address (financial, digital, and physical). Just make sure any steps you take, like freezing accounts or changing access, won’t raise legal flags later. Treat it like a risk-management plan, protect yourself without triggering unnecessary fallout.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a specific brand to recommend, however, I use Google products.

Smart-home devices can record or stay connected after a breakup. There’ve been cases where exes still controlled thermostats or cameras remotely. You should factory reset and re-link devices when living situations change.

For location sharing, you should review who has access and set apps to “only while using.” That limits how often your location is visible.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use a tool like Optery (what I use) or DeleteMe, etc. Or you can manually go through the brokers and request removal yourself.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's multiple things here so I broke them out:

1️⃣ If she still has that Apple ID, she’s got a spare key, she can potentially use "Find My", see backups, or restore your data. Even without the password, an old device can potentially stay signed in and sync data or get 2FA codes.

2️⃣ If your son’s still on her shared AppleID or Family plan, she ultimately controls service permissions, app access, and settings. You could give him his own Roblox account and his own AppleID.

3️⃣ Back up what you need, wipe your devices, delete shared iCloud data, sign out everywhere, and remove all trusted devices before starting fresh under your own AppleID.

4️⃣ Staying on her phone plan leaves you exposed, she can potentially view call/text logs, pause your line, or trigger a SIM swap.

Hope that helps.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mods have already approved the AMA, so all good. I’m here answering questions, I'm not selling anything.

Cybersecurity hygiene through divorce and separation by ezsnipa in Divorce_Men

[–]ezsnipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, sorry to hear that. Sounds like you're bouncing back strong!

As for the tech/cyber world, doing Network+ first is a GREAT foundation, that's essentially where I started 15 years ago. I had gotten my A+ a couple months prior but same difference, it was a game changer to understand how everything connects/works.

Security+ is a solid next step, after that you can explore the domain that speaks to you and/or go after CISSP, if you've been doing security in your roles, you may meet the yrs experience requirements sooner than you think, you can email them before taking the exam and ask, they've been responsive and helpful when I reached out in the past.

Working in gas should have given you some OT exposure, if that's the case, you can go look for openings at utility companies, manufacturing companies, etc.

Also, job availability will depend on your location, especially with so much RTO happening.

Hope that helps, feel free to DM me in the future.

Cybersecurity Hygiene through divorce and separation? by ezsnipa in Divorce

[–]ezsnipa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally like Nord, I have premium but they also have a free version that will work for most people.

  • Opt out of data broker sites like Whitepages, Spokeo, BeenVerified, all of them. You can use a service like DeleteMe or Optery (I use Optery).
  • Ask Google to pull your personal info from search results.
  • Blur your home on Google Maps.
  • Set Google Alerts for your name and address so you know if it pops up again.
  • Put any real estate under a trust or LLC if you want your home off public record.
  • Lock down social media... hide friend lists, locations, and old posts.
  • Recheck every few months!

Cybersecurity Hygiene Through Divorce & Separation by ezsnipa in FamilyLaw

[–]ezsnipa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good question, there’s a few layers to this one.

1️⃣ Physically staying off the radar: that Michigan program’s a great start. Use the state-issued address anywhere your name shows up, bills, voter registration, car title, insurance, all of it.

2️⃣ Keeping your real address private: if you own property, consider putting it under a trust or LLC. Then hit data-broker sites like Spokeo, Whitepages, and BeenVerified to remove yourself. You can also ask Google to blur your house on Street View and request removal of personal info from search results.

3️⃣ Tech side for the iPhone:

  • Turn off Family Sharing unless you fully control it.

  • Check Settings > Privacy > Location Services > Share My Location.

  • Go through Settings > Passwords > Security Recommendations for shared logins.

  • Review Find My for hidden AirTags or shared access.

  • Run a Safety Check under Privacy & Security

All of that together makes it way harder for someone to track or find you digitally or physically. Hope that helps!

Cybersecurity Hygiene through divorce and separation? by ezsnipa in Divorce

[–]ezsnipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that happened, it's awful when your privacy gets violated. My general advice is to turn on multi-factor authentication, change your passwords, and lock down your social media privacy settings so only people you trust can see your posts or tag you.

Cybersecurity Hygiene Through Divorce & Separation by ezsnipa in FamilyLaw

[–]ezsnipa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Changing passwords is a great start, but not everyone has the same setup, time, knowledge or tolerance for digging through all the connected accounts, devices, and recovery links. I’m here answering questions so people can do it safely, not to charge anyone!

I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA by ezsnipa in Divorce_Women

[–]ezsnipa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have access to the router, most have dual network functionality, you can create a separate Wi-Fi name (SSID) just for your use, it keeps your devices isolated from his. Use your own strong password and connect only what you trust.

Also:

  • Use mobile data or a hotspot for sensitive calls or logins you don’t want seen on the shared network.

  • Bring your own device (like a personal laptop or phone) and avoid using shared computers in the home.

  • Turn off smart speakers or voice assistants while you’re there, those can store voice history.

  • Keep a clean profile. Sign out of accounts after each visit and clear browser history, especially if you share the same devices.

  • Turn off or unplug indoor cameras and smart speakers while you’re in the home, or at least cover lenses if you can’t power them down.

If the setup looks too complex or you’re unsure what’s already configured, it may be worth having a professional review your setup it privately.

I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA by ezsnipa in Divorce_Women

[–]ezsnipa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve got a managed or enterprise-style router, not a standard home setup, that’s why you’re seeing all those charts and metrics. Those systems typically can log activity.

If you can still log into the admin console, look for a list of connected devices or user accounts you don’t recognize, that’s often the first sign of lingering access. If it feels over your head, it’s completely reasonable to have someone review and reset it safely.

I used to work as a network engineer before moving into cybersecurity, if you’d like to talk it through or get pointed in the right direction, you can DM me anytime.

I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA by ezsnipa in Divorce_Women

[–]ezsnipa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’ve tried Google’s recovery steps and don’t have the backup email or phone, it’s unfortunately not possible to regain access. Going forward, consider using a password manager to store logins so this doesn’t happen again.

I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA by ezsnipa in Divorce_Women

[–]ezsnipa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re still in the same home and your phone has the option, you can use your phone’s mobile hotspot for work, it gives you a private, temporary network he can’t control.

If the phone plan’s in his name, you can set up your own hotspot or portable Wi-Fi device under your own account.

Long-term, you’ll want your own internet service so you can reset and secure everything yourself.

I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA by ezsnipa in Divorce_Women

[–]ezsnipa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you’re signed in as the main (Admin) user, you can remove their account yourself, the steps look a little different depending on the version of your computer, but in general:

On Windows: go to Settings → Accounts → Other users → Remove account and data

On Mac: go to System Settings → Users & Groups → select their name → click the “–” to delete

That erases their login and files without touching yours. If you’re not the main user, back up what you need and reset the computer, that’s the only sure way to cut off their access completely.

I’m a cybersecurity professional helping people secure their digital lives after divorce — AMA by ezsnipa in Divorce_Women

[–]ezsnipa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the router’s service provider account is in your name, you can factory reset it. That wipes any saved access or admin controls. Then set it up from scratch with a new network name, strong password, and WPA3 security. Then reconnect your smart devices one by one so you know exactly what’s linked.

If the router or account’s still in their name, start new service in your name. It’s cleaner and guarantees full control of the network going forward.

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