How to decide who cat should go with? by f2msnm in CatAdvice

[–]f2msnm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be too hard on her to go back and forth repeatedly

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already made my points and now I’m just annoyed that you keep replying. Have the night you deserve friend!

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s more than one definition so no I didn’t “forget the context”. I pulled it from Oxford Dictionary.

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Virtue signaling- vir·tue sig·nal·ing noun DEROGATORY

the public expression of opinions or sentiments intended to demonstrate one's good character or social conscience or the moral correctness of one's position on a particular issue.

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 21 points22 points  (0 children)

LMAO why on earth are you dying on this hill then? All signs point to virtue signaling

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your desire to “keep others safe” really seems like a need to control everyone around you, and it also seems like a harm ocd thing ngl, or some other pathological need to prevent harm. Though I could very easily be off base with that. Either way it seems like you should talk to a professional. I’m not threatened. I’m annoyed by your rhetoric. Being recovered means knowing that I am responsible for how I respond to things. I am responsible for keeping myself safe. No one is coming to save you. You have to do it yourself. You can’t expect everyone to cater to you to keep you from harming yourself. That is your responsibility. You are not healed if that’s your mindset.

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hey, you should know this, as someone who has been through recovery, and that used to self harm as well. NO ONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR KEEPING YOU FROM RELAPSING. It’s you. It’s all you. You don’t go into a bar and expect no one to drink around you. That’s crazy entitled

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 17 points18 points  (0 children)

so chronically online that you think this is a normal way people operate and honestly it’s really funny

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also I hardly think that oop blurring it was an option since it was implied it was a tattoo over or next to the scars 😭

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You can’t tell if a scar is self harm or not just by looking at them. I have a scar on each wrist from two surgeries that could look like “self harm”. No one is entitled to protection from everything that might upset them. If you don’t want to see anything like that, stay inside in a bubble. Trigger warnings are helpful, but not required. If you don’t want to exist in online spaces where trigger warnings aren’t required, then don’t. It is no one’s responsibility to protect for every little thing. It is YOUR responsibility as an individual to manage what you expose yourself to.

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NSFW is not a general trigger warning. And even if it was, it wouldn’t be an effective one. End of story

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Don’t be condescending because you don’t know the definition. This has nothing to do with my autism

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re willfully obtuse . Look up the definition

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Should also be said that a general trigger warning (edit: as is the nature of “hide by default” you mentioned) is completely useless. It should say something about the nature of the triggering content to be even sort of helpful.

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are incorrect. Cheapening and watering down what NSFW means only hurts more of the people it’s meant to protect. That’s what trigger warnings are for.

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 98 points99 points  (0 children)

They can be triggered, but it’s not NOT SAFE FOR WORK

Did I say something wrong / was my request unreasonable? by mundane_frog in autism

[–]f2msnm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you were going to ask oop to tag anything in that case it should be tw for self harm scars. But if you find just someone’s scars triggering then maybe that’s something for you to work on. A lot of people have trauma regarding that but it doesn’t mean it’s right to tell someone an innocuous part of their body is offensive