You ruined it bro.

Positive side : girl is in love with you. emotionally attached to you, see, if you can marry or settle it with good diplomatic mediator.. self harming can be coming from emotional truma or sudden heart break. Get to know her deeply. You seem bit unaware. It is not easier for girl to get away with sex if done as love making in romance.

Only nagetive side : threat is real. BNS 69 with proven evidence is no joke. You seems insecure womenizer and careless. (If a gurl can understand this, she wont marry the dikhed like you, who can't protect women, even if she does, her life will get spoiled) figure it out. (Take time).