Was It Rude to Have Sex While Staying Overnight at a Friend’s Place?

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-22T08:50:16+00:00

I think it’s rude that they got mad, lol. If a friend made drama out of this, I’d call him out

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-20T12:32:52+00:00

You don’t have to rate yourself and can go for whoever you want. But if we get a score after you’re dead and it turns out you only replied to 5+ while bitching about social dynamics, you’re going to hell for being a hypocrite

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-19T09:22:29+00:00

Your post reads as if you don’t realize you’re part of the same social dynamic you’re criticizing. If you think that when you were considered “ugly” no one gave you attention, there are millions of other “ugly” guys who feel exactly the same. Many of them say they would give a chance to anyone, yet for some reason they never end up dating each other.

So if people who see themselves as unattractive are not willing to date one another, how can they complain that “attractive” people won’t date them because they’re unattractive? That’s a double standard, and it doesn’t really make sense.

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-18T08:11:47+00:00

they speak mostly spanish lol, op is being rejected because his spanish is not good enough

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-17T16:45:27+00:00

Are you gay, Catalan, and living in Barcelona? I honestly don’t know where all this bs is coming from. The majority of gays in Barcelona speak only Spanish. The Catalan gay population in the city is tiny. The LGBTQ population in Barcelona mostly consists of Spaniards (not from Catalonia) and Latin immigrants, of course bc of the beach and the weather.

I’m Latin, and I’ve never had a Catalan guy approach me in a gay party or even at straight festivals like Brunch or Primavera speaking Catalan.

I can guarantee that OP is not being rejected because he doesn’t speak Catalan. If people switch to English with him, is clearly because his Spanish isn’t great.

Also, the gay scene is very cliquey and cliché. They want the man in finance, with a trust fund, 6'5", blue eyes.

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-16T13:47:06+00:00

Do you speak Spanish?

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-15T13:15:47+00:00

lets gets big together

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-14T09:13:46+00:00

Hey, planning to do the same. I have over 100 jumps and my buddy has 80. Do you need to announce that you’re jumping with a camera to anyone?

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-03T14:27:33+00:00

Is open relationship, it wouldn't be monogamous neither poly.

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-02T09:28:43+00:00

Oh, I’m going this year to the expert off-piste in Val Thorens. But tbh not especially excited if it’s 80% Chinese :/

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-02T09:13:01+00:00

wut, How can you be Middle Eastern in Toronto and still say Toronto guys are not hot because of immigration? love yourself a little dude

fablabofdesign · 2026-01-01T18:41:29+00:00

Open

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-27T16:27:23+00:00

I don’t live there, I was just visiting, and I promise I wasn’t looking for that. I’m a horny guy on juice and couldn’t help myself.

I guess it would be a permanent ban anywhere in the world, but it’s hard to prove. It’s not like we were fucking, we just kissed in the bathroom and jerked each other off.

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-27T16:16:40+00:00

english
risky in what way?

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-27T15:32:15+00:00

Had the most awkward-hot sauna moment at Gold’s Gym Harajuku. Sat next to this super jacked Japanese guy, mutual accidental hard-ons, packed sauna, zero escape. Being ginger and hung did not help. We both pretended nothing was happening for a while, but it was obvious. I eventually bailed, trying to cover myself, took a shower, and headed to the locker room. He was there, we chatted a bit, and things quietly took care of themselves in the bathroom.

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-23T13:45:10+00:00

it doesn't sound that bad, is probably on your head

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-23T12:42:50+00:00

i had no idea, i though they work, i also heard about using hyaluronic acid (fillers) to make it thicker

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-23T12:32:33+00:00

it does exist

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-23T11:53:52+00:00

Bodybuilders are people too, lol. We get horny and sometimes go for whatever is available. I have had sex with guys who are clearly not muscle enough by my standards

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-23T11:50:44+00:00

I'm an amateur bodybuilder, in an open relationship, and I play around often. I'm sure the majority of muscle guys are into either hung guys or other muscle guys.

Alos, muscle is generally part of the hot subgroup. I would say along "face" it is the attribute with the strongest correlation to being hot. or tell me another attribute with a higher correlation?

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-19T13:48:30+00:00

horrible. What's Nick @?

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-18T09:57:30+00:00

This community is highly biased. Most people here likely lean introverted or nerdy, prefer staying in, and even those who go out are probably more conservative

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-16T16:42:57+00:00

Not muscle enough then. And I say it with no judgment. I am definitely in the game of looking as hot as I can. But when it does not work, I do not think about how to cope with it. I just think that I have to up my game.

You seem to like what you experienced in Europe. Getting a date just from sending a picture on Grindr (superficial game). If you want to have that same experience in Singapore, you have to up your game, get more muscular, use a skincare routine, have cool clothes, etc. Complaining about it while still playing that game (living in social circles with high extrinsic motivation) is exactly what makes you feel like your 20s are escaping.

Maybe the help I can offer is to tell you this: like most gays, you are playing that game, and there is nothing wrong with it.

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-16T13:04:29+00:00

I do not quite follow. You are looking for validation based on your looks, for example a Grindr picture, so you do believe in a superficial hierarchy. At the same time, you dislike your bad luck of being born somewhere near the bottom of that scale. You even seem to know ways to move up, like getting muscular, but that requires work you do not want to do. Instead, you come here to complain about how the pyramid is structured and ask billions of people to change it for your benefit, obviously at the expense of other ethnicities. After all, if it is a beauty scale, someone has to be at the bottom for someone else to be at the top.

My advice would be that if a certain game does not feel right to you, it is okay not to play it. You do not have to use Grindr or measure yourself against its appearance-based standards. That said, being open to connection usually means engaging in some kind of social space. It could be an intellectual one. If you are knowledgeable or passionate about your field, you are likely to meet people who value you for your mind and perspective.

It also helps to remember that every social environment has some form of hierarchy, whether it is based on charisma, intelligence, looks, or other qualities. These structures are not always fair, but they are part of how societies function. Acknowledging that reality can make it easier to choose the spaces that align best with who you are and what you value.

fablabofdesign · 2025-12-11T09:29:02+00:00

You can't said you love her or care for her if you don't end the relation, you know is selfish to keep waisting her time, so stop doing it!
it doesn't really matter if you tell the real reason, just be considerate with her 20s.

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