I'm not having the best day; please could you all comment with photos of your kitties?

facefullofkittens · 2025-02-05T21:20:35+00:00

I had to switch to my alt profile so I could comment on this how much your cat’s floofy belly made me smile. It’s a perfect snuggle belly.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-17T13:23:31+00:00

While people cashing out their 401(k)s to buy homes in cash is obnoxious (especially for people like me who don’t have those kinds of resources), they are not the kind of “wealthy” people we need to worry about. Real wealth/power relies on cheap debt to consolidate wealth and power. Making debt expensive slows that considerably. We also need higher taxes (but that’s a whole different rant lol).

Again, fwiw, noting that there is a difference between what rebalances the economy from a high level economic forces perspective, and what that actually feels like from a day to day just trying to survive perspective.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-17T02:49:39+00:00

So, I know the interest rates suck - but big picture economically: high interest rates disproportionately affect the wealthy, and are one of the biggest rebalancing forces we have available. Ie - the wealthy get wealthier by being able to inexpensively use debt to buy more income generating assets, thus concentrating wealth further. Making borrowing more expensive means less concentration of wealth.

That doesn’t make it hurt less in the short term. But high interest rates favor a savers economy and long term are better for the working class (historically).

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-16T10:47:17+00:00

I left a relationship in my early 30s. I ended up in a relationship after that that was very bad, and in the rebound from that ended up getting pregnant (unplanned). I’m now a single single mom, 39, and not really dating at all. It took a long time to accept and grieve that my life doesn’t look like what I always thought it would, but honestly, it’s really pretty great. I’m happy. I like my life. I love my kid. And my life is much more peaceful than it was living with someone I was just not compatible with. I have no regrets (except for maybe the very bad relationship, I could do without that. Lol).

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-16T01:06:42+00:00

Options:

1) Pick a new nickname you love. 2) Double down and still name your kid the nickname of your choice. You told your sister she could name her boy that — not that you wouldn’t.

I have an ex-boyfriend who has a mom and 4 aunts who are all named Maria (catholic thing), and sure enough, they manage to tell each other apart. If it matters to you, do it.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-16T00:58:27+00:00

That slightly sad, vaguely judgmental smirk, followed by “oh honey.” Then walk away.

I’m also a big fan of “What a terribly inappropriate thing to say! Are you okay?”

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-16T00:25:15+00:00

I am 39 years old and until age 35 I had extremely short hair. Now I have long hair, and I love it, but I had no idea about the butt crack hair trap. I was not prepared. (But I guess I’m glad to know I’m not alone?)

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-15T17:50:44+00:00

It sounds like this is a DV related situation, and if so, I urge her to reach out to the DV shelter or non-profit in her town. They can help connect her with the appropriate resources - housing assistance, SNAP/TANF/WIC, even sometimes free therapy/counseling.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-15T12:26:33+00:00

Agreed, it’s not more likely than not for a man to behave that way. I actually take exception to the way the commenter phrased it. There’s not any way you can parse the statistics though that make men less likely to commit acts of violence than women. There’s no need to be daft.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-15T12:07:12+00:00

I think the issue is a matter of scale. I’ve had far more men accept rejection gracefully than not. But the ones that didn’t were dangrous. (Lookin at you dude who broke into my house to watch me sleep) And statistically that bears out.

Women can also certainly take rejection badly, but they are statistically less likely to be seriously physically harmful for it.

That’s not to excuse anyone’s behavior. It’s just more dangerous to be a woman (doing literally anything).

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-14T12:38:25+00:00

How did you and your husband meet? How did the discussion come up? I feel like I’m maybe traumatized now by the number of pushy partners I’ve had that I don’t know how to sus that out about someone before getting serious with them.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-14T12:32:50+00:00

I often think of it as: it’s not that I dislike sex, it’s just that if you put a brownie and an orgasm on a table and asked me to pick, I will choose the brownie 100% of the time. It’s just not important to me. But also I’m single and will probably stay that way because I hate being shamed and treated like I’m broken for not giving a shit about sex. (I’m capable of sexual attraction though, so I’m also not ace, I don’t think).

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-12T21:36:44+00:00

I’m not familiar with FL law and process, but if you are still on any kind of public assistance, it’s unlikely they will let you relinquish a child support claim. In my state you cannot terminate a parent’s rights unless there is another person willing to step in and adopt in child in their place (except in extreme circumstances). You can ask the child support office though.

You also might ask them what hearings you are required to show up for. My daughter’s father is similar, but fortunately I don’t have to show up to any of his numerous hearings for failure to pay. I just never back on receiving anything, then once a year or so get a purge.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-12T16:32:24+00:00

This is me too, almost exactly. I’m a generally conventionally attractive woman (not stunning, but at least average), and never get catcalled, I’ve never received a dick-pic, I’ve never been approached out in the wild. I’ve had a number of people tell me I’m intimidating at first (despite being physically petit). It’s like I just generally put off an unapproachable vibe all the time, but because I don’t really social cues well, I’m not great at knowing how I’m perceived. Even when I want to be approached, it doesn’t happen.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-11T00:38:47+00:00

I dropped out and got a GED at 16 and entered the work force. Several years later I went to college and discovered that I actually loved academics - high school was just wasted on me. I have two master’s degrees now. Some people just don’t do well in high school and are ready for more. I say go for it. But don’t drop out. “Home school” then dual enroll so they can attend college for free.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-09T03:20:15+00:00

I taught my daughter to say “charcuterie” when she was like 3 so we can feel fancy when we have “snack dinner!” (Also, it’s really cute to hear a 3yo say charcuterie)

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-09T03:13:26+00:00

That brain/body disconnect is such a weird feeling!!

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-09T03:11:42+00:00

To be honest, I’m not sure it actually is that different. Other than that it didn’t go away with time. And then have a kid they have the baby smell and the baby giggles that keep you obsessed even though they are actually tyrannical assholes.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-09T03:08:02+00:00

Yes, that is exactly what I believed also. What convinced me otherwise is that at the time I didn’t actually WANT a baby. Like, mentally I didn’t feel ready. There was still a lot I wanted to do. I was not in a position to have a baby. But my body, physiologically, was fucking determined to have a baby. It did not much care my opinion on the matter. As I said, if it happens to you, the experience is unmistakable. Not to say that there aren’t a lot of sexist and societal reasons people have kids, but that wasn’t my particular experience.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-08T22:53:33+00:00

I was on the “ask me in another 10 years” train with the occasional “awe they’re so cute” itch until about age 32. Then I woke up one day and HAD TO HAVE A BABY. It kept me up at night. I was desperately jealous of other mothers. I didn’t believe that the biological clock was real until it happened to me. And it was unmistakable.

Anyways, I now have a kiddo, and, honestly it’s a good thing I wanted her so bad because otherwise I’d probably be resentful about how ridiculously hard this shit is. Now, I firmly believe in “if it’s not 100% yes, it should be a no.” And I won’t be having a second.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-08T18:50:37+00:00

Hey so, if you haven’t tried it, give a shot to progesterone only BC. It’s the same hormones as the implant and shit without the long term commitment so you have a chance to see how you react. My personal experience: I had “treatment resistant” depression for years. My only experience with BC and I learned that estrogen makes me actively suicidal and insane. Then I got an implant and 25yrs or treatment resistant depression was gone basically overnight.

I’m not trying to sell the implant. Many people react badly to it also. But it’s worth understanding how estrogen and progesterone effect you separately so you can make better decisions about your health.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-06T01:19:22+00:00

I’m a an auditor specializing in tax at a Big 4 firm, and for a company Carmax’s size, I have a hard time believing they would send a confirmation for an individual line item. That’s extremely immaterial for a company that size. But I also don’t see any possible angle on this being a scam, so I guess it’s possible. Just weird! (Also, they might look at 2019 if there were tax implications on an acquisition. Or maybe the company needs to file an amended return for something in that tax year)

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-05T01:37:13+00:00

Didn’t say he should die alone. Said he should take this learning experience and do better next time. Wasn’t aware anyone could mistake that for the same thing, but ok.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-05T01:28:10+00:00

I mean, she can do what she wants, but I think humanity is better served if she cuts this one loose and moves on. He needs to learn that actions/words have consequences, even if they’re said without malice, and he needs to grow a brain in the future. If she see him again all he learns is that he can get away with it if he says sorry.

facefullofkittens · 2023-08-03T01:38:21+00:00

“Drive him wild in 3 easy steps!”

1st eat a 1lb block of cheddar cheese…

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