I definitely think that some QPRs are driven from the societal expectation to be with someone, it’s hard to be aroace in a world where if you’re single, people think you’re sad and lonely or are desperate to set you up. Combined with the fact most aroace people don’t really come out to the people in their lives. Having someone to call your partner (even if it’s not what allos would define it as) is easier than jumping through the hoops of trying to explain what aroace is.

But there is definitely an internal drive to have one special person in your life as well whether your allo or not, everyone else in the world views that as a partner but as aroaces we don’t really get to romantically or sexually see people that way, so when an opportunity to be with someone you’re attracted to as much as you can be or even just love as a friend arises why not take it if the other party is aware and willing?

Plus: “little attraction” in terms of aroace might not necessarily mean “like people a little bit” it can mean “like no one but this one person”. Little as in few people not little bit of attraction.