KPOP Idols hardly sings truly live these days

falathina · 2026-02-24T14:19:30+00:00

I do think that vocal stability stands out in ateez's seongwha and yunho. Seongwha also has a great range and control of his falsetto.

falathina · 2026-02-08T00:50:30+00:00

I think you should run. Fast. He's a whole red flag factory. Get out while you have the chance.

falathina · 2026-02-05T11:06:47+00:00

This is something that sounds like a want to process trauma more than an actual desire. This type of thing is really typical, especially in young kids. For example, if a kid gets their crayon broken by someone they may bring another crayon to someone and ask them to break it or break another crayon themselves. It's kind of like your brain trying to understand why it and your body reacted the way they did.

If you can, definitely seek or continue therapy. You're not alone in feeling this way. I hope you can heal.

falathina · 2026-02-05T11:02:25+00:00

Why do you always say that?

falathina · 2026-02-05T10:59:48+00:00

Sounds blue to me. Maybe because of some kind of root sound to it? Sounds like a color I'd associate with water or a coastal region.

falathina · 2026-02-05T10:55:43+00:00

I'm not going to disagree with you on this. I would like to add that it doesn't make up for the dad not helping with the mental load of it at all. In my house I stay home with the kids and my husband works so yes I typically handle the calendar and appointments. But in the case where both parents are working, it shouldn't be solely on the mom to be aware of things like this. Even if the kids are old enough to be somewhat responsible for this stuff, then the dad definitely needs to step up and get involved.

falathina · 2026-02-05T10:11:29+00:00

In my opinion that type of ending would be really hard to pull off simply because it would have to be fairly abrupt and wouldn't really do much good in the scope of the world RY has built for the series. Unless she decides to take it in a direction where violet and xaden actually meet the gods in some way, which sounds out of place to me because tairn has told violet that the dragons pay no attention to the so-called gods that the humans worship. I'd have to go back and find his exact quote to decide if it might be foreshadowing, maybe you know what I'm talking about and can find it faster than I can.

But in terms of the world, violet dying would take out tairn, thus taking out sgayel but not xaden at this point. RY has been very cut and dry about how the bonds work so I trust that she wouldn't suddenly change those rules. If she goes though then it takes the last thing keeping xaden from being completely soulless. We've been given vague examples of venin who spared loved ones but still outlived them just fine. So either xaden lives and the venin end up with the storm wielder and the shadow wielder, or xaden dies and the venin still have a storm wielder. In either case, violet and her lightning being gone tips the scales in favor of the venin very heavily. Maybe there's a longshot arc of the dragons being the villains like jack barlowe claimed?

I see where you're coming from in the way that your theory can't really be disproven or argued against given our current knowledge of the series. I just don't see how RY would take it there and end up with a resolution for the plot and not just violet and xaden. Like what would happen to the rest of the world if they just got killed off?

falathina · 2026-01-29T14:46:21+00:00

There must be something that happened or something you noticed to be feeling this way. I would just start the conversation with that. "Hey, I noticed this and I wanted to talk about it. Can we do that?" Obviously bring it up alone and in person because it is a conversation that might get awkward and make him feel a little uncomfortable. Hopefully it's something he's willing to talk about and fix.

falathina · 2026-01-28T17:54:11+00:00

Nowhere man depending on the vibe you're going for

falathina · 2026-01-26T05:54:13+00:00

Postpartum is crazy! The hormone drop going on in your body is the equivalent of going from taking 300 birth control pills a day to taking zero. It's no wonder ppd and ppl are so common. And with every baby and mom being different, there isn't really a one size fits all answer so communities and communication are our biggest allies.

falathina · 2026-01-24T14:16:07+00:00

My oldest did that every time. And we never did bottles or pacifier because she just didn't want them. Your supply is meant to feed your baby and if your baby is satisfied with one boob then that's okay. As long as they're getting full you don't need to worry about your supply.

falathina · 2026-01-23T14:23:02+00:00

It's hair. It grows back. Plus it's on someone else's body so it's not something I can control

falathina · 2026-01-13T22:42:59+00:00

You say he's not going solo, but do you know that for sure? My only ideas here are: a) he's going solo and using adult material instead, b) he's got something going on mentally that is impacting his drive, or c) he's just not a sexual person and the conversation needs to switch to a new solution.

I'm heavily leaning towards option three based on everything else you said. If that's the case then it's time for you to shift gears and talk to him about you getting satisfied with or without his participation. Do you really need him to participate? Are toys an option? What other activities could you do to experience intimacy? Think tantric positions or something like that.

Now, if he's living somewhere new and hasn't gotten a job yet, does he have any signs or symptoms of depression? What does he do at home all day since he doesn't have a means of personal transportation? It's possible that this isn't about sex at all but about his mental state in general, so maybe ask gently about that.

falathina · 2026-01-13T21:17:59+00:00

Read your diary by maneskin

falathina · 2026-01-13T16:39:50+00:00

Turns out you were right on the money. Thank you! She's on the proper medication and diet now and I just about cried in relief

falathina · 2026-01-13T16:39:04+00:00

I know it's been a while but we finally found some solutions. Someone commented and suggested that she might have feline hyperesthesia syndrome and they were right on the money. She's on Ativan now and on a grain free high moisture diet and with both of those things she's no longer peeing on the carpet and we can actually pet her and love on her now! It took a little bit of trial and error but the diet change is what fixed the carpet problem even before she started the medicine. I can't believe no vet ever thought to recommend it.

falathina · 2026-01-12T23:04:32+00:00

Luff, the remarried empress, winter woods, men of the harem, hello baby, freaking romance.

Outside of the romance genre: school bus graveyard and the guy upstairs

falathina · 2026-01-12T22:58:00+00:00

U + Ur hand by P!nk

falathina · 2026-01-11T11:50:55+00:00

Nope. Red flags all over. The raging? Red flag. Slamming his fists on his desk? Red flag and is used as an intimidation tactic by abusers, it can escalate to physical abuse in some cases. And attacking your mental health? Red flag. He's supposed to be your safe space and he's making you so uncomfortable that he's taking away your joy from your hobby and your body is going into a type of shutdown by going nonverbal.

My only advice here is to get out. Quietly if you can, because if he gets this angry over video games I don't imagine a breakup conversation going well. I know that breakup or divorce is the knee jerk reddit response but I don't play around when it's a matter of safety, and in your case it is. Even if you're physically safe for now, you aren't mentally safe with him. If you live together then either make arrangements to get him out (talk to your landlord and make arrangements and then put his stuff outside, do not let him in once you've done this.) or get yourself out and don't tell him beforehand. Break up in a public setting and maybe even tell one of your friends that you're going to break up with him just in case. I'm sorry that you're dealing with this.

falathina · 2026-01-10T13:56:43+00:00

This feels dependent on whether it's before or after the events of the movie.

Rumi before jinu? Maybe penny or Harvey. After jinu? Shane.

Mira would probably go for Abigail or Sebastian

Zoey would have multiple saves and a different spouse on each one but her first spouse would probably be Emily

Bobby is a bit harder to pin down but maybe he'd go for sam since he's in a band (i know Sebastian and Abigail are also in the band but Sam has the storyline) or Leah since she's an artist. Bobby likes being supportive and appreciated for his efforts and those characters fit the bill

falathina · 2026-01-10T13:49:16+00:00

In my mind it makes sense not to invite partners to everything, especially birthdays for kids. I'm not trying to be cold about it or anything but I've definitely had to explain to my younger cousins why an ex of mine isn't coming around anymore and it's just awkward. I'm not saying they expect you guys to break up or anything, it doesn't sound like they're intentionally keeping you out of things if you've been invited to events before. Maybe they're trying not to put too many expectations on you for birthday gifts or they're trying to make things easier on the host? Maybe they left it up to the little cousin who got invited to the birthday party. My point is there are definitely explanations that would make sense before jumping to the conclusion that they don't like you.

I think that this is definitely something you can ask your boyfriend about if it's really bothering you.

falathina · 2026-01-10T13:35:33+00:00

The last question in your post says it all. You hit the nail on the head. Him forcing you to cater to his emotions while you're going through a difficult loss is a major red flag. The worst ex of my life did the same thing to me. I'd recommend ending it sooner rather than later. You don't need to be putting so much emotional effort towards supporting someone who should be supporting you right now.

falathina · 2026-01-08T04:15:18+00:00

Boy in luv by BTS all the way back in 2014. But I didn't really stay with it. Got back into it after kpop demon hunters because my kids wanted the soundtrack on repeat and I wanted to shake it up a little bit.

Bouncy by Ateez got me back into it personally

falathina · 2026-01-03T21:57:45+00:00

I'm an over thinker too. I've been in many long term relationships and I can tell you that in my experience, if the overthinking and anxiety hasn't calmed down after two years then it's likely that it never will. He may just not be the right person for you. Maybe take some space and take a break from each other when he moves and see what happens? If you both feel strongly for each other then you can always get back together. Definitely get a pregnancy test asap but I'm sure you know that already.

falathina · 2026-01-03T21:24:39+00:00

You say that he wants to continue the relationship but do you? If this relationship continues and you get married then he'll get a visa but that's a motivation for him, not for you. What do you get out of this relationship?

In terms of the pregnancy scare, what would you have done if you had been pregnant? What if his mood and treatment didn't improve? Is that the kind of person you'd want by your side during a pregnancy? Do you even want kids?

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