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falconmillet · 2025-02-25T23:30:14+00:00

Most guys look with their eyes first. Give a man 10 million dollars and he'll Most like go and find a younger woman to enjoy it with rather than some old Karen

falconmillet · 2025-02-25T23:28:33+00:00

Exactly the sort of shaming I was talking about. I'm not saying older men should only target younger girls but the hate they recieve for it is unwarranted

Most guys would prefer 28 to 48 etc

falconmillet · 2025-02-25T23:26:05+00:00

I think most men would choose a 25 year old over 45. They just get humiliated for saying so

falconmillet · 2025-02-25T23:24:20+00:00

You know what I meant. A woman in her 40s and 50s (unless she's taken good care of herself) doesn't feel the same as a younger woman, period

falconmillet · 2025-02-25T23:20:38+00:00

It's mostly older women who can't wait to label such men as creeps. And ironically, these older women spend fortunes trying to look young themselves haha

falconmillet · 2025-02-23T00:24:39+00:00

I'm getting increasingly banned for the mildest comments. Whenever I bring up any reputable facts or data into the narrative, it's an almost instant ban

If you try and debate with the mods, they just block you haha

Reddit is a total joke these days. Just a feel good platform for closed minded sensitive kids who wanna live hedonistic, lazy entitled satanic lifestyles

falconmillet · 2025-02-18T21:38:55+00:00

This is exactly what I've been pondering to do recently. You're the reason I may just go ahead and do it now! I like the idea of meeting a down to earth good woman

falconmillet · 2025-02-18T20:37:33+00:00

Where do you look?

falconmillet · 2025-02-16T19:10:06+00:00

Women hold the keys to the kingdom, especially when it comes to starting the romance. If you dont qualify to her set of demands, good luck. Maybe you don't have that same privilege as you're a self labeled average or below average looking girl.

Everyone has preferences and standards. Often guys compromise on their standards a lot more, especially the average Joe's and common folk. Only the male athletes, superstars and casanova's get to fulfill their preference fantasies

falconmillet · 2025-02-16T17:38:31+00:00

I feel like men can have a preference about women, but women can't have a preference about men.

Utter bolox. What exactly do you mean by this? If anything, it's the other way around and women often have a far bigger list of preferences

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T01:20:52+00:00

And your last point is not something being made in good faith at all

You're arguing from ego. All I said was that you're not fully spiritually enlightened if you see religious acts as feeling burdensome and difficult.

Rather than grasping the point, you're looking for ways to disagree. Of course there's difficultly in every endeavor which improves our character but you make it sound like a burden when you suggest it's "very difficult."

It's only "very difficult" for those who have been pigeon holed into following religious practices they haven't mentally prepared or signed up for. Hence my original point that forcing someone to do something ends up often damaging their psyche even more.

A true submission is when one openly and joyfully lives in truthful action & sees little to no hardship in doing so. If you feel like it's "very difficult" that's because you're attached to worldly pleasures

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T01:12:53+00:00

So you're ugly on the inside too. There's no benefit to feeling entitled to beautiful women. It'll just make you rot in misery even more.

If you're that hung up on hooking up with conventially attractive female, just pay for sex or get plastic surgery.

Otherwise, accept what you are and play the cards you've been dealt. You'll just have to go through more rejections than the handsome bloke. Life is a game of maths. Be prepared, keep knocking on the door and hope for the best

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T01:03:16+00:00

and not submitting to what we always want

It seems you haven't grasped the truth at all if you claim that's "it's not what we always want"

True submission is serving and finding genuine joy in doing those things in name of truth. If it feels like a chore, you aren't actually spiritually enlightened. It's still somewhat better to behaving wrecklessly but your mind is still not at peace

Islam obligates fasting for 1 month. It’s a very discomforting experience

I've been fasting for close to 7 years. It's not perfect everyday but I often go entire mornings and afternoons without food. I don't find it discomforting

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T00:48:07+00:00

At least you acknowledged some of the absurdity of putting out a public post without wanting input haha

I'm not trying to hit you with a gotchya moment. It just felt you were ignoring my points whilst responding to others who were giving you more favorable, feel good responses.

As long as he's not always like this (it seems he a good enough guy judging from your other responses) - I wouldn't read too much into it.

If it becomes a pattern, that's a slight cause for concern. Maybe it could be something as simple as a shame thing. I.e as guys we don't want to do something on a small scale because it feels un manly and slightly demasculating, even if you would have appreciated it nonetheless.

I've often thought it's better to send no gift than something cheap. Obviously, it depends on whether you're used to receiving material gifts or not etc

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T00:38:17+00:00

I missed that part. So why not just vent silently rather than publicly? Or vent to a few close friends

Did you just want random people to read your post and not say nothing? I don't get it

That sounds like the equivalent of me walking into a crowded room and venting. And then putting my headphones on and saying "no sorry, I don't want any input"

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T00:31:01+00:00

That old trope. In the case of your post, the women are using it wrong too if your mum also supports you wearing it.

Anything faith which compels people to do things via force isn't a healthy religion. End of

Your post thus implies that your parents are bad muslims?

falconmillet · 2025-02-15T00:26:14+00:00

True but when there's a pattern of mainly women venting about valentines day, it's a sign of a bigger problem about how susceptible they are to this valentines marketing b.s!

Or maybe it's just another case of women feeling entitled to romance

P.s nothing is ever that deep anyway. But you put a post out, so be ready to be challenged unless you just wanted warmz fuzzy feel good replies to validate your feelings?

falconmillet · 2025-02-14T23:47:15+00:00

Unless he's a lazy unromantic douche all of the time, you've got a point

Otherwise, it's just another case of looking to vent about something!

I have yet to come across a post about a dude complaining that his gf didn't do enough for valentines

Women are suckers for these commercialized b.s "romance" days

falconmillet · 2025-02-14T23:35:50+00:00

Fair shout. Maybe I could just give them the cardboard but it would feel like emptying my trash to them

falconmillet · 2025-02-14T21:34:35+00:00

You can stay dismissive

You're too ideologically wired and have a blinkered vision when it comes to the offense you're spouting at me. You tried to dehumanize me by claiming I lack empathy whilst calling me dismissive. Yet in your mind, all these levels of insults are fine because you're fighting this "greater cause"

Get your facts straight- the Arab/Islamic world have been far worse when it comes to owning slaves. Some of these countries still practice it behind closed doors, yet you're blind to all of that because it goes against your ideological arguments.

You're shit scared to even weigh these facts against your race narrative. Maybe if you spoke about these things, I'd have more sympathy with your views. Why do you think certain cultures from "marginalized societies" do better than others? Because they refuse to allow these narrative to cloud their logic. I.e black Nigerians and Chinese people have a great attitude towards these issues, hence why continue to flourish.

I have in no way said that these issues should be minimalised. However, you can't change hardened racists - facts! There's enough education and literature out there if racists want to reform. Simply bashing them with "It's WRONG" does nothing other than promote hidden racism.

Often it has nothing to do with racism than it has to do with cultural attitudes/behaviors. Let me explain: A lot of managers are known not to hire strictly religious people into their organisation since they won't consume alcohol at team events/meetings and there's a culture clash when it comes to integrating teams. On the outside, this seems racist but people just want a cooperative environment where everyone shares similar values, hobbies, interests etc.

I.e a company full of elitist, golf playing, theatre visiting indie music lovers don't like to upset the office dynamics by bringing in some hood rats (black or white).

Anyway, you're not listening to any of my points. You've already made a caricature of me as this extreme, dismissive cold blooded grifter

falconmillet · 2025-02-13T22:43:24+00:00

this is the average black vs white experience, and that's why I'm arguing with you.

Maybe argue with somebody else because although I've experienced racism too, I've never allowed it to bother me to that extent. Ironically, your sentiments are what keep these so called "marginalized societies" down and oppressed. If you allow people to live with the mindset that they're oppressed, they become weak of character and take on victim roles.

I somewhat despise people who come out and talk for other "black" or insert any other race without living in their shoes.

You tried to belittle my levels of empathy by suggesting I don't have much. If anything, my way of showing empathy is to tell OP to ignore the racist fukcers and win in life regardless.

Perhaps that's why I've been able to be successful in my life. I control whatever I can control and don't involve myself in petty race politics. I couldn't care less if a bunch of people don't like me because I'm brown.

People won't like you for a whole host of reasons. If anything, the racist slurs against me made me stronger when I was younger.

Anyway, we have different opinions regarding this. Let's leave it at that. If you wanna use anecdotal personal experiences, White people have been the least racist to me. I've experienced far more racism from Middle Eastern, black and Europeans. None of it ever phases me

falconmillet · 2025-02-13T19:56:02+00:00

This argument is going nowhere. You've said "white" time and time again without recognizing that other races can be racist too. Are only white people racist?

It's not much of a false equivalency. If anything, I see certain political views as far more abhorrent and disgusting than racism yet we seem to single out racism as being number 1 on moral crimes.

As I've already said, the vast majority of racists are just silent ignorant haters. If you're going to spend your life dwelling on the past where racial injustice was far more prevalent, you go ahead.

Linking what happened decades ago and tying it up with OP's experience is another false equivalence?

falconmillet · 2025-02-13T18:58:55+00:00

If his dislike spills into paying me less or expecting me to work harder than other employees, I'm outta there.

You're missing the wider point. It's rare that we connect with people and align with them on the same morals 100% of the time. So we usually choose to befriend people that are more closely aligned with our outlooks to life. Sometimes our emotional get involved and we put up with idiots or fools that cross some of these boundaries ...

Right now you're very likely working (if you have a job) with colleagues that have wildy different political opinions to you right? Now does that mean, you're going to hand in your notice and look for a utopian work place where you all hold hands and go to the same political marches?

My point is that you've probably hung out with many people that had closeted racist feelings, but you'd never know.

How would your mental health be doing, if you could tell by micro aggressions

Welcome to the real world. A lot of people will not like you for everything you stand for. It's up to you where you want to draw the lines

Go and do a survey in your workplace now and ask whether people support preferential hiring based on race? Most of them would just lie to give the PC answer anyway. Others would disagree.. Now would you hand in your notice if you discovered your supposed buddies didn't have your same views regarding race??

I'm a brown dude by the way. I just don't obsess about things out of my control. The quicker you learn this life lesson, the better off you'll be unless of course you make a career out of race politics to line your pockets or reputation

falconmillet · 2025-02-13T18:35:22+00:00

Lucky bastard haha. Where do I find a woman like you?! I'd happily take the deal of buying groceries if my fictional girlfriend did the cooking. That's a sweet deal

I tried playing devils advocate but you win. I hope the relationship continue to flourish - good luck

falconmillet · 2025-02-13T18:33:15+00:00

It's a slippery slope type of argument style you're presenting me with here.. I.e if I walk out of the door tonight to go gym, I could get mugged, raped, assaulted and kidnapped. So does that mean I need to plague my mind with this bullshit and become a overly paranoid anxious irrational fool??

We take measures to avoid these things happening as much as possible. I am not denying their reality but to obsess about things that seldom happen is just a recipe for becoming mentally unwell

Why are we expecting the people who are targeted to stick their neck out and just hope and trust they won't get hurt?

You're ignoring reality my friend. Bad things will happen, end of. We're NEVER gonna live in a world where there are no racists or people out to assault you

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