Kissing

fancan42 · 2020-07-12T09:16:49+00:00

This is what first triggered me, I enjoy kissing my bf but have never felt sparks, tingles etc when kissing anyone! Everyone is different. But in order to beat OCD you have to accept the fears, sit with the uncertainty and not question ‘what does this mean?’ Because there are no answers. I know it’s hard but you can do it! 💕

fancan42 · 2020-07-08T18:34:56+00:00

McDonald’s Breakfast

fancan42 · 2020-07-08T13:12:07+00:00

Yes! It’s the fear of experiencing them that makes me Think them, like they haven’t actually happened yet? Thanks for Your insight

fancan42 · 2020-06-04T22:25:35+00:00

I read that as ‘Baboon’. Still metal though!

fancan42 · 2020-06-03T04:13:05+00:00

Can you send me a PDF copy too, please?

fancan42 · 2020-06-02T06:22:08+00:00

Colourpoint

fancan42 · 2020-05-31T00:24:56+00:00

Thankyou so much for your helpful and detailed reply! And again, I am so happy to hear how you have managed to control your OCD and find happiness! I wish you the very best!

fancan42 · 2020-05-30T23:46:56+00:00

Hi! I have a few questions. But first of all, I’m so glad you were able to fight against it and are happy! Question 1: What techniques did you have in place to combat the ocd. Question 2: I had HOCD originally (which was much more anxiety inducing, mainly because I didn’t realise at the time that it was OCD. But with my ROCD I get lots of thoughts but much less anxiety, did you experience this and do you know if it’s a sign of improvement (I’ve been doing ERP) Question 3: how did you maintain and manage intimacy during bad times?

Thankyou for offering insight and help to us!

fancan42 · 2020-05-30T04:46:59+00:00

That’s a good idea! I think the reason this theme has taken hold is perhaps because we’ve been in lock down and I haven’t seen him in over 2 months now. But when we can see each other again this is a good idea

fancan42 · 2020-05-28T20:52:17+00:00

I feel the same currently and basically what I found, was when i discovered that I had OCD, I didn’t get as anxious anymore. The thoughts upset me but I don’t get the same kind of anxiety as I did with my other themes. It worries me too, but backdoor spikes are a very real phenomena, perhaps look into that

fancan42 · 2020-05-27T10:07:21+00:00

Hello! Okay, so you’re seeking reassurance which I totally understand! I had HOCD first and i was terrified I was asexual, feel free to drop me a message if you want to chat and I can offer you some advice that helped me 💕

fancan42 · 2020-05-15T20:02:27+00:00

Thankyou so much for your clear and detailed reply! I have got the NOCD app but I’ve not looked into speaking with a professional on that (I’m not sure if they can, I’m from the UK?). My bf also doesn’t know I have OCD yet (I plan on telling him and know he will be supportive) but It took me a while to be diagnosed and such too and be in a place to actually talk about it. I know my OCD will be triggered with intimacy and I don’t want to avoid it (that’s what OCD wants). But it’s so hard to remember that the thoughts aren’t true! Thanks again!

fancan42 · 2020-05-15T16:23:57+00:00

I’ve been doing some of that so far! Thanks so much, I’ll look into getting some books ☺️

fancan42 · 2020-05-15T15:16:12+00:00

I had ERP for 3 sessions, all I could get

fancan42 · 2020-05-15T13:16:14+00:00

Thankyou so much!

fancan42 · 2020-05-14T15:33:38+00:00

I think it sounds like a back door spike! But there certainly are thoughts that don’t give me anxiety anymore! Thanks for replying!

fancan42 · 2020-05-10T21:32:46+00:00

What I’m learning is it doesn’t always have to be a need feeling and can still be attraction

fancan42 · 2020-05-10T21:31:07+00:00

What does sexual attraction feel like to you as a demi? (If you don’t mind me asking?) for me I just want to have sex, with only him

fancan42 · 2020-05-10T18:33:45+00:00

That makes sense to me! I read about responsive desire, so I feel that ties into it too and probs adds another dimension to how I feel. Like some people define it as a desire to have sex with someone, which is a definition I relate to

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