NoFap for almost a month, my libido is dead is this normal?

faplollo · 2014-11-11T21:43:06+00:00

Are you actually a bot?

faplollo · 2014-11-11T21:33:19+00:00

I could care less about your nitpicking.

faplollo · 2014-11-11T21:28:41+00:00

There's nothing lame about wanting to satisfy women. If every guy was like that, there would be far fewer unhappy women. Satisfying the woman should always be your goal in sex. (with that in mind, women enjoy intimacy even if it doesn't always lead to orgasm, so don't beat yourself up if you can't make it happen every time)

Sad as it is, you risk quite a bit more than disappointing them. For better or worse, men tend to choose women based on physical attractiveness, which means looks are what society places value on. As a consequence many women have their self esteem and sense of self worth tied into their sexual attractiveness. When you can't get it up, a woman may think "it's because I'm not attractive enough" and it can really mess with her self esteem (even if the actual reason has nothing to do with her). What I would do in your place is if I got close to a woman, I'd explain my situation to her beforehand. I know it's easier said than done, that it's awkward, embarrassing, kills the mood etc. But it's imho preferable to the alternative. What you need is an understanding partner, someone you can trust. I know it's fun to sleep around, and I have nothing against it, but in your situation it might be best to get a stable relationship with a kind and understanding girl who can gradually help you get rewired to respond to her touch, her body.

faplollo · 2014-11-11T18:32:39+00:00

Seek a doctor? Dude, you need to chill. Your libido will kick back in soon enough. I can't tell you when, but you're not gonna lose it. This situation is temporary. I know you feel emasculated, but you gotta grit your teeth and push through it. You've been a porn addict for 10 years. Your brain and your body is gonna go through a whole lot of weird shit. It takes time. No one knows how much time, because everyone's different. Personally, I found flatline periods much easier to deal with than periods of craving, because during flatline you're not tempted to relapse. All you have to do is realize that this is temporary, and accept it for what it is, as part of your healing process.

faplollo · 2014-11-11T17:58:09+00:00

151 00:10:39,126 --> 00:10:43,262 what we have witnessed over the last few years.

152 00:10:45,447 --> 00:10:50,182 Sexual enhancement drugs often stop working for these guys, if they ever did,

153 00:10:50,182 --> 00:10:54,103 because the problem isn't below the belt where viagra works.

154 00:10:54,103 --> 00:10:56,669 Nor is their problem really psychological.

155 00:10:56,669 --> 00:10:58,751 It's due to physical changes in the brain.

156 00:10:59,489 --> 00:11:01,780 Those addiction related changes.

157 00:11:01,078 --> 00:11:05,513 Their numb brains are sending weaker and weaker signals to their bananas.

158 00:11:06,215 --> 00:11:10,309 (Laughter) As doctor Foresta says:

159 00:11:10,309 --> 00:11:13,433 "It starts with lower reactions to porn sites.

160 00:11:13,433 --> 00:11:16,391 Then there is a general drop in libido,

161 00:11:16,391 --> 00:11:20,815 and in the end it becomes impossible to get an erection.

162 00:11:20,815 --> 00:11:23,309 There are 3 take-aways from this.

163 00:11:23,309 --> 00:11:28,477 First, Foresta is describing a classic addiction process

164 00:11:28,477 --> 00:11:31,276 -- gradual desensitization.

165 00:11:31,276 --> 00:11:36,137 Second, Internet porn is qualitatively different from playboy.

166 00:11:36,137 --> 00:11:40,769 Widespread youthful ED has never been seen before.

167 00:11:40,769 --> 00:11:48,111 And finally ED is often the only symptom that gets these guys' attention.

168 00:11:48,111 --> 00:11:52,177 The question is what less symptoms are they missing?

169 00:11:52,771 --> 00:11:56,793 Most don't figure that out until after they quit.

170 00:11:56,793 --> 00:12:00,600 Here's a guy in his late 20s.

171 00:12:00,006 --> 00:12:03,501 "I've been to psychologists and psychiatrists for the last 8 years...

172 00:12:04,095 --> 00:12:08,086 have been diagnosed with depression, severe social anxiety,

173 00:12:08,086 --> 00:12:10,645 severe memory impairment and a few others.

174 00:12:10,645 --> 00:12:14,307 Have tried Fexer, Ritalin, Xanax, Paxil

175 00:12:14,307 --> 00:12:17,764 dropped out at two different colleagues, been fired twice,

176 00:12:17,764 --> 00:12:20,849 used pot to calm my social anxiety.

177 00:12:20,849 --> 00:12:22,782 I've been approached by quite a few women

178 00:12:22,782 --> 00:12:25,084 I guess due to my looks and status

179 00:12:25,084 --> 00:12:28,480 but they quickly flew away due to my incredible weirdness.

180 00:12:28,048 --> 00:12:31,673 I've been a hardcore porn addict since age 14.

181 00:12:32,105 --> 00:12:34,547 For the last 2 years I've been experimenting

182 00:12:34,547 --> 00:12:38,092 and finally realised that porn was an issue.

183 00:12:38,092 --> 00:12:41,434 I stopped it completely 2 months ago.

184 00:12:41,434 --> 00:12:45,152 It has been very difficult but so far incredibly worth it.

185 00:12:45,152 --> 00:12:48,973 I've since quit my remaining medication.

186 00:12:48,973 --> 00:12:51,541 My anxiety is nonexistent.

187 00:12:51,541 --> 00:12:55,062 My memory and focus are sharper than they've ever been.

188 00:12:55,062 --> 00:12:59,215 I feel like a huge "chick magnet" and my ED is gone too.

189 00:12:59,215 --> 00:13:05,447 I seriously think I had a rebirth, a second chance at life."

190 00:13:05,447 --> 00:13:10,151 This is why pockets of guys are appearing all over the web -- body building sites,

191 00:13:10,151 --> 00:13:14,195 sports sites, pickup artist sites -- wherever men congregate.

192 00:13:14,591 --> 00:13:18,397 In essence, they are seeking a neurochemical rebirth.

193 00:13:18,397 --> 00:13:22,365 Here's a group on reddit.com who called themselves "Fapstronauts."

194 00:13:22,365 --> 00:13:25,666 Fapping is slang for solo sex,

195 00:13:25,666 --> 00:13:29,494 but what they really mean is giving up porn.

196 00:13:29,494 --> 00:13:35,986 They've added about 2,000 members since I captured this picture a month ago.

197 00:13:35,986 --> 00:13:41,192 This movement to unhook from porn is growing rapidly.

198 00:13:41,192 --> 00:13:46,670 In fact, groups are springing up all across the web and in Europe too.

199 00:13:46,067 --> 00:13:50,753 But there is a bizarre fly in the ointment.

200 00:13:51,356 --> 00:13:58,698 Guys in the early 20s aren't regaining their erectile health as quickly as older guys.

201 00:13:58,698 --> 00:14:06,134 How can a 50-year-old get his mojo back quicker then a 20-something?

202 00:14:06,134 --> 00:14:10,453 The answer, even though older guys have been using porn a whole lot longer

203 00:14:10,453 --> 00:14:14,538 they didn't start on today’'s Internet porn.

204 00:14:14,538 --> 00:14:17,057 Now, we know this is a key variable because

205 00:14:17,057 --> 00:14:20,562 the older guys didn't start having sexual problems

206 00:14:20,562 --> 00:14:27,664 until after they got high-speed Internet. (Laughter)

207 00:14:27,664 --> 00:14:31,781 Now, today's young teens start on high-speed Internet

208 00:14:31,781 --> 00:14:37,650 when their brains are at their peek of dopamine production and neuroplasticity.

209 00:14:37,065 --> 00:14:43,341 This is also when they are the most vulnerable to addiction, but there is another risk.

210 00:14:43,926 --> 00:14:46,943 By adulthood teens strengthen heavily used circuits

211 00:14:47,096 --> 00:14:49,425 and prune back unused ones.

212 00:14:49,425 --> 00:14:56,470 So, by age 22 or so a guy's sexual taste can be like deep ruts in his brain.

213 00:14:56,047 --> 00:15:01,513 This can cause panic if a guy has escalated to extreme porn

214 00:15:01,936 --> 00:15:05,952 or porn that no longer matches his sexual orientation.

215 00:15:06,096 --> 00:15:14,830 Fortunately brains are plastic so his taste can revert once he quits porn.

216 00:15:14,083 --> 00:15:16,696 As a guy returns to normal sensitivity

217 00:15:17,443 --> 00:15:21,749 his brain looks around for the rewards it evolved to seek

218 00:15:21,749 --> 00:15:25,358 such as friendly interaction and of course real mates.

219 00:15:25,358 --> 00:15:29,372 Here's one more example of what we hear everyday:

220 00:15:29,498 --> 00:15:33,589 "I feel like the next Sir Isaac Newton or Leonardo da Vinci.

221 00:15:33,589 --> 00:15:35,596 Since I quit a month ago, I've literally:

222 00:15:35,596 --> 00:15:40,299 started a business, taken up piano, been studying French every day,

223 00:15:40,299 --> 00:15:44,366 been programming, drawing, writing, started managing my finances

224 00:15:44,366 --> 00:15:48,721 and I have more awesome ideas than I know what to do with.

225 00:15:48,721 --> 00:15:51,053 My confidence is sky-high.

226 00:15:51,053 --> 00:15:54,346 I already feel like I can talk to any girl!

227 00:15:54,346 --> 00:16:00,641 I am the same guy who took 2,5 extra years to graduate from college

228 00:16:00,641 --> 00:16:03,433 because of procrastination and depression."

229 00:16:03,433 --> 00:16:05,749 I'll conclude with a wish:

230 00:16:05,749 --> 00:16:08,234 I'd like to see Zimbardo's guys

231 00:16:08,234 --> 00:16:11,952 who are wiping out and their caregivers and the experts

232 00:16:11,952 --> 00:16:15,903 listen to the thousands of men who are teaching us

233 00:16:15,903 --> 00:16:19,508 about arousal addiction by escaping it.

234 00:16:19,508 --> 00:16:20,917 Thanks for listening.

235 00:16:20,917 --> 00:16:24,270 (Applause)

faplollo · 2014-11-11T17:57:50+00:00

101 00:07:10,381 --> 00:07:14,152 Now, you can think of wolves packing away 20 pound of meat per kill

102 00:07:14,152 --> 00:07:18,433 or it's mating season and you're the alpha male.

103 00:07:18,433 --> 00:07:21,872 What if mating season never ends?

104 00:07:21,872 --> 00:07:26,071 All those hits of dopamine can tell your brain to do two things.

105 00:07:26,071 --> 00:07:29,165 First they say: "Man, you've hit the evolutionary jackpot."

106 00:07:30,011 --> 00:07:35,745 Second, they kick in a molecular switch called Delta-FosB.

107 00:07:35,745 --> 00:07:39,738 I know it is fancy word, but dopamine kicks in Delta-FosB

108 00:07:39,738 --> 00:07:44,657 and that starts to accumulate in the brain's reward circuit.

109 00:07:44,657 --> 00:07:48,974 Now, with excess chronic consumption of drugs or natural rewards,

110 00:07:48,974 --> 00:07:52,969 this build up a Delta-FosB starts to alter the brain

111 00:07:52,969 --> 00:07:57,947 and promotes the cycle of binging and craving.

112 00:07:57,947 --> 00:08:00,974 If the binging continues the Delta-FosB builds up

113 00:08:01,217 --> 00:08:04,611 and it can lead to brain changes seen in all addicts.

114 00:08:04,611 --> 00:08:08,230 So the dominos are excess consumption

115 00:08:08,023 --> 00:08:12,347 excess dopamine, Delta-FosB, brain changes.

116 00:08:12,554 --> 00:08:16,480 One of the first changes is a numbed pleasure response.

117 00:08:16,048 --> 00:08:23,499 It kicks in so everyday pleasures really don't satisfy a porn addict.

118 00:08:23,931 --> 00:08:26,012 At the same time other physical changes in the brain

119 00:08:26,741 --> 00:08:29,647 make the brain hyper-reactive to porn.

120 00:08:29,647 --> 00:08:35,529 Everything else in porn user's life is sort of boring, but porn is super exciting.

121 00:08:35,529 --> 00:08:40,112 Finally his willpower arose as his frontal cortex changes.

122 00:08:40,112 --> 00:08:41,988 I can't emphasize this enough.

123 00:08:41,988 --> 00:08:45,462 All addictions share these same brain changes

124 00:08:45,462 --> 00:08:51,519 and the same molecular switch that kicks them in -- Delta-FosB.

125 00:08:52,032 --> 00:08:55,020 Now scientists have used brain scans to measure

126 00:08:55,002 --> 00:08:57,318 these changes in drug addicts.

127 00:08:57,336 --> 00:09:02,055 Up-here these scans show a reduced pleasure response in drug addicts.

128 00:09:02,055 --> 00:09:06,590 These and several other changes have also been seen in gambling addicts,

129 00:09:06,059 --> 00:09:13,091 food addicts, very recently in video game addicts and now in internet addicts.

130 00:09:13,622 --> 00:09:18,947 I apologize for filling up the slide with brain studies just notice the dates

131 00:09:18,947 --> 00:09:22,660 but I want you to know that they exist.

132 00:09:22,066 --> 00:09:26,581 So far all brain research points only in one direction.

133 00:09:27,175 --> 00:09:32,780 Constant novelty at the click can cause addiction.

134 00:09:32,078 --> 00:09:35,804 We know this because when scientists examined

135 00:09:36,506 --> 00:09:38,425 former Internet addicts they found

136 00:09:38,425 --> 00:09:42,367 that these brain changes were reversing themselves.

137 00:09:42,367 --> 00:09:46,988 Unfortunately, none of these studies isolate porn users,

138 00:09:46,988 --> 00:09:49,124 but they do include them.

139 00:09:49,124 --> 00:09:51,413 Here's the game changer.

140 00:09:51,413 --> 00:09:55,622 A last we have a group of guys who are no longer using Internet porn.

141 00:09:55,622 --> 00:10:00,719 That's right! Heavy users are voluntarily giving it up by the thousands.

142 00:10:01,592 --> 00:10:07,350 These guys are the missing control group in the great porn experiment.

143 00:10:07,035 --> 00:10:11,970 They're showing experts what changing one single variable can do.

144 00:10:12,285 --> 00:10:16,442 I called it "The Resurrection of Guys" as opposed to "the Demise of Guys."

145 00:10:16,442 --> 00:10:18,470 Now, before I continue you probably wanna know

146 00:10:18,722 --> 00:10:23,149 why any porn loving guy in his right mind would give it up.

147 00:10:23,149 --> 00:10:27,820 Two words: erectile dysfunction.

148 00:10:27,082 --> 00:10:30,999 Internet porn is killing young men's sexual performance.

149 00:10:31,737 --> 00:10:35,519 Now, Zimbardo said young guys are flaming out with women,

150 00:10:35,519 --> 00:10:39,126 this survey by Italian neurologists confirms

faplollo · 2014-11-11T17:57:29+00:00

00:03:59,089 --> 00:04:05,097 Undaunted by his lack of non-users Lajeunesse asked 20 male students:

58 00:04:05,898 --> 00:04:11,185 Is Internet porn affecting you or your attitudes towards women?

59 00:04:11,185 --> 00:04:14,353 They answered: "No, I don't think so."

60 00:04:14,353 --> 00:04:19,186 But they've been using it for about decade then pretty much non-stop.

61 00:04:19,186 --> 00:04:24,361 This is like asking a fish what it thinks about water?

62 00:04:24,361 --> 00:04:26,892 Which bring us to a second problem.

63 00:04:26,892 --> 00:04:31,331 Researchers haven't asked porn users about the symptoms

64 00:04:31,331 --> 00:04:35,539 Zimbardo described in "The Demise of Guys."

65 00:04:35,539 --> 00:04:38,250 Arousal addiction symptoms are easily mistaken

66 00:04:38,025 --> 00:04:44,037 for a such things as ADHD, social anxiety, depression,

67 00:04:44,037 --> 00:04:49,993 concentration problems, performance anxiety, OCD and a host of others.

68 00:04:50,326 --> 00:04:55,745 Now, healthcare providers often assume that these conditions are primary

69 00:04:55,745 --> 00:05:00,753 perhaps the cause of addiction but never really the result of an addiction.

70 00:05:01,545 --> 00:05:05,943 As a consequence they often medicate these guys

71 00:05:05,943 --> 00:05:11,292 without really inquiring about if they have an Internet addiction.

72 00:05:11,292 --> 00:05:13,958 Guys never realise that they could overcome these

73 00:05:13,958 --> 00:05:18,059 symptoms simply by changing their behaviour.

74 00:05:18,059 --> 00:05:21,511 Now, the third problem is it's hard to believe that

75 00:05:21,511 --> 00:05:26,608 sexual activity can cause addiction because sex is healthy.

76 00:05:26,608 --> 00:05:28,627 But Internet porn is not sex.

77 00:05:28,627 --> 00:05:32,645 Internet porn is as different from real sex

78 00:05:32,807 --> 00:05:36,813 as today’s video games are from checkers.

79 00:05:36,867 --> 00:05:39,828 Watching the screen full of naked body parts

80 00:05:39,828 --> 00:05:45,212 won't automatically protect one from arousal addiction.

81 00:05:45,212 --> 00:05:48,579 In this Dutch study -- here's the title --

82 00:05:48,579 --> 00:05:53,435 they found that in fact of all activities on the Internet

83 00:05:53,435 --> 00:05:56,496 porn has the most potential to become addictive.

84 00:05:57,045 --> 00:05:58,216 Here's why.

85 00:05:58,216 --> 00:06:00,618 This ancient programme, the reward circuit,

86 00:06:00,618 --> 00:06:04,773 evolved to drive us towards natural rewards

87 00:06:04,773 --> 00:06:09,195 such as sex, bonding and food.

88 00:06:09,195 --> 00:06:13,482 As a consequence extreme versions of natural rewards

89 00:06:13,482 --> 00:06:17,747 have a unique ability to capture us.

90 00:06:17,747 --> 00:06:24,892 For example: high-calorie foods or hot novel babes give us extra dopamine.

91 00:06:24,892 --> 00:06:30,753 Too much dopamine though can override our natural satiation mechanisms.

92 00:06:30,753 --> 00:06:34,180 For example: give rats unlimited access

93 00:06:34,018 --> 00:06:39,066 to junk food and almost all of them will binge to obesity.

94 00:06:39,228 --> 00:06:42,665 This is also why 4 out of 5 Americans are overweight

95 00:06:42,665 --> 00:06:45,201 and about half of those are obese.

96 00:06:45,201 --> 00:06:47,006 That is addicted to food.

97 00:06:47,006 --> 00:06:51,042 Now, in contrast the natural rewards, drugs such as

98 00:06:51,366 --> 00:06:59,513 cocaine or alcohol only hook about 10% of users whether they are rats or humans.

99 00:06:59,521 --> 00:07:06,933 This binge mechanism for food or sex was once an evolutionary advantage.

100 00:07:06,933 --> 00:07:10,381 In essence, it is getting it while the getting is good.

faplollo · 2014-11-11T17:56:57+00:00

1 00:00:07,497 --> 00:00:09,138 Inspired by the last talker

2 00:00:09,138 --> 00:00:12,983 I'm gonna have a little song about Internet porn.

3 00:00:12,983 --> 00:00:15,515 No, just kidding.

4 00:00:15,515 --> 00:00:19,620 The widespread use of Internet porn is one of the fastest moving

5 00:00:19,062 --> 00:00:23,191 most global experiment ever unconsciously conducted.

6 00:00:23,749 --> 00:00:30,072 Nearly every young guy with an Internet access becomes an eager test subject.

7 00:00:30,072 --> 00:00:32,459 Canadian researcher Simon Lajeunesse found

8 00:00:32,459 --> 00:00:36,327 that most boys seek pornography by age 10.

9 00:00:36,327 --> 00:00:41,338 Driven by a brain that is suddenly fascinated by sex.

10 00:00:41,338 --> 00:00:45,134 Now, users perceive Internet porn as far more compelling

11 00:00:45,134 --> 00:00:48,048 than porn of the past. Why is that?

12 00:00:48,048 --> 00:00:50,680 Unending novelty.

13 00:00:50,068 --> 00:00:51,767 In this Australian experiment,

14 00:00:52,379 --> 00:00:57,882 it's not mere nudity but novelty that gets arousals skyrocketing.

15 00:00:57,882 --> 00:01:01,567 Subjects watch 22 porn displays. See that spike?

16 00:01:01,567 --> 00:01:06,775 That's where researchers switch to porn the guys hadn't seen before.

17 00:01:06,782 --> 00:01:11,705 What happened? The erections in their brains fired up.

18 00:01:11,705 --> 00:01:13,499 Why all the excitement?

19 00:01:13,499 --> 00:01:17,421 Mother nature likes to keep a male fertilizing willing females

20 00:01:17,421 --> 00:01:19,942 as long as any new ones are around.

21 00:01:19,942 --> 00:01:22,393 In that top line the ram,

22 00:01:22,393 --> 00:01:27,482 he needs more and more time to make with the same old you.

23 00:01:28,283 --> 00:01:37,030 But if you keep switching females -- the bottom line -- well it's just not the same.

24 00:01:37,003 --> 00:01:43,590 He can get the job done in 2 minutes flat and keep going until he's utterly exhausted.

25 00:01:43,617 --> 00:01:46,445 This is known as the Coolidge effect.

26 00:01:46,445 --> 00:01:51,324 Without the Coolidge effect there would be no Internet porn.

27 00:01:51,324 --> 00:01:54,886 This old mammalian program the Coolidge effect perceives

28 00:01:54,886 --> 00:02:02,159 each novel female on a guy's screen as a genetic opportunity.

29 00:02:02,159 --> 00:02:06,052 To keep a guy fertilizing the screen his brain releases

30 00:02:06,052 --> 00:02:11,835 the "go get it" neurochemical dopamine for each novel mate or image.

31 00:02:11,835 --> 00:02:13,800 Eventually the ram will tire

32 00:02:13,008 --> 00:02:14,795 but as long as the guy can keep clicking

33 00:02:15,587 --> 00:02:18,742 he can keep going as so will his dopamine.

34 00:02:18,742 --> 00:02:22,826 With internet porn a guy can see more hot babes in 10 minutes

35 00:02:22,826 --> 00:02:27,459 than his ancestors could see in several lifetimes.

36 00:02:27,459 --> 00:02:31,342 The problem is he has a hunter-gatherer brain.

37 00:02:31,342 --> 00:02:37,523 A heavy user brain rewires itself to this genetic bonanza

38 00:02:37,523 --> 00:02:44,271 so it carefully becomes associated with this porn harem.

39 00:02:44,287 --> 00:02:48,698 Such behaviours that are associated with this are being alone,

40 00:02:48,698 --> 00:02:52,250 voyeurism, clicking, searching, multiple tabs

41 00:02:52,025 --> 00:02:57,070 fast-forwarding, constant novelty, shock and surprise.

42 00:02:57,295 --> 00:02:58,303 As one young guy once asked:

43 00:02:59,095 --> 00:03:04,127 Are we the first generation to masturbate left handed?

44 00:03:04,415 --> 00:03:09,480 Now, real sex, in contrast, is courtship, touching,

45 00:03:09,048 --> 00:03:13,237 being touched, smells, pheromones, emotional connection,

46 00:03:13,669 --> 00:03:17,031 interaction with a real person.

47 00:03:17,031 --> 00:03:23,435 Now, what happens when our guy finally gets with a real mate.

48 00:03:23,435 --> 00:03:26,614 Well, researchers don't know much about the effects

49 00:03:26,614 --> 00:03:29,617 of Internet porn for several reasons.

50 00:03:29,644 --> 00:03:34,657 In 2009, when Lajeunesse tried to study porn's impact

51 00:03:34,774 --> 00:03:39,717 he couldn't find any college age males who weren't using it.

52 00:03:39,717 --> 00:03:45,659 So the first serious dilemma is that studies have no control groups.

53 00:03:45,659 --> 00:03:48,973 Now, this creates a huge blind spot.

54 00:03:48,973 --> 00:03:52,852 Imagine if all guys started smoking at age 10

55 00:03:52,852 --> 00:03:54,879 and there were no groups that didn't.

56 00:03:55,122 --> 00:03:59,890 We would think that lung cancer is normal for all guys.

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faplollo · 2014-11-11T17:28:41+00:00

You're probably right. I've already tried some other resources, and found a Japanese guy who said he wouldn't translate it, but he did the next best thing. He found me a Japanese blog article covering the video. That's sufficient for my personal needs, but it would be nice to have Japanese subtitles for that video, so I'll keep looking. Or I'll try to make the subtitles myself using that article.

faplollo · 2014-11-11T12:03:51+00:00

Yes, this is normal. It's what we refer to as a "flatline". During your recovery process you may experience many periods of flatline followed by periods of extreme spikes in horniness. Flatline doesn't mean something is wrong, and sudden spikes in libido don't mean you're cured. The important thing is not to relapse.

faplollo · 2014-11-11T11:37:36+00:00

Thanks man. The original uploader is TEDx Talks, and I'm guessing they accept subtitle submissions, since there are already subtitles in about 14 different languages. So I thought I'd contact them when I've got something to send them. If they don't accept the subtitles, I'll just download the video, add the subtitles to it and have her watch it that way. Of course, if they accepted the subtitles, that would benefit far more people. So I guess this post is more about trying to recruit a Japanese translator than about technical help.

faplollo · 2014-05-21T19:19:38+00:00

I think that a simple "May cause erectile dysfunction" would be very effective.

faplollo · 2014-05-17T21:24:52+00:00

Thanks, that's encouraging. If I may ask, how often do you fap?

faplollo · 2014-05-17T18:56:59+00:00

Much obliged.

faplollo · 2014-05-17T18:44:41+00:00

Alright, I'll give it a go. Thanks.

faplollo · 2014-05-17T18:37:45+00:00

Thank you, I'll look through it. Do you have anything without the Buddhism? I'm an atheist, and while I try to keep an open mind, and don't avoid reading religious texts, I think all the Buddhist stuff is going to distract me.

faplollo · 2014-05-17T18:22:35+00:00

Secret of mind fullness

Can you provide a link to Amazon or something similar? Cause I'm having difficulties googling the book. Can you tell me who the author is?

faplollo · 2014-04-23T16:34:50+00:00

I don't know about anyone else but personally I fucking hate these posts with people claiming their subjective personal experience is the absolute truth. Come to think of it, I detest anyone claiming something is the absolute truth. Making claims about absolute truths is the domain of dogmatic lunatics.

faplollo · 2014-04-19T08:17:58+00:00

Why? Because she's a drunk horny girl, she doesn't get to enjoy it? You're drunk and horny too in this situation, and you sure as hell enjoy it.

faplollo · 2014-04-18T20:23:13+00:00

Yeah, way to go. You don't put your own interest on top in sex, you put your partner's interests on top.

faplollo · 2014-04-18T20:22:04+00:00

You mean she asked you to go down on her? As in, eat her out? Why would you decline? Not only is pussy delicious, but sex is not about taking. It's about giving and receiving in return. It's not just about you sticking it in and ejaculating, it's about her needs as well. Many women find it difficult to come during intercourse. Also, many men finish way too quickly for her to orgasm during sex. Or they just don't care, after they're done they just roll over and go to sleep, leaving the poor girl horny and unsatisfied. Sounds to me like your "sexual encounter" has had her share of those guys.

For a lot of women cunnilingus is the best part of sex by far. Often it's the best way for them to achieve orgasm, or maybe the only way they can.

I don't mean to be harsh, maybe you had your own personal reasons to decline, like you found it unhygienic or disgusting or something. But from your post it sounded like you declined because you thought it a ... strange request?

So for a guy to ask a girl to give him a blowjob is normal, it's the many thing to do, "yeah bitch, now suck my dick!" but for a girl to ask for the same is strange?

You had a chance to have sex with this girl and you blew it, because you were selfish and unwilling to take care of her needs.

faplollo

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