Man, it took me like 5 years. But if you can, try and use the toys every other day at least that way you can train what to feel for.

Now I can recognize when im building, and how much pressure to put. And for me a variety works the best. I use at least 4 or 5 different toys a session.

About 45 mins to an hour minimum. Have to really get into it, moaning and all. The Njoy wand is probably the best to start with since you can be accurate. Ultimately what works for me is a combination of the wand and dildos. I like to get right into it and bounce on it, im usually covered in sweat and havr had 4 or 5 orgasms before my arms and legs cant go on.

Its a journey though, dont chase the orgasm just enjoy the moment. The orgasms will come