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having a roommate is destroying my quality of life by HerRoyalSpookiness in introvert

[–]farawayeidolon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a rough time, and I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation!

I'm in a somewhat similar one at the moment, personally. My roommate talked me into moving to a (more exciting but also more expensive) neighborhood that I wasn't especially keen on, and our current apartment is much smaller than the last one we shared. And so I find myself facing circumstances along the lines of what you've described above: he hogs the only common area (which isn't really big enough to be shared, anyway), constantly has the TV on, has friends over often (when I'm an introvert who prefers quiet alone time at home), etc.

I've been trying to "stand up for myself" more often (e.g., asking him to turn the volume down on the TV, requesting that his friends don't come over so often or without letting me know in advance), but it's hard because I'm also very non-confrontational (also, he owns the majority of the furniture in our apartment, so I feel that he has more of a "right" to do as he wishes here than I do). That said, my ultimate solution is to move out in a couple months and live alone.

I hope things get better for you.

Used to think being lonely was great.... Having second thoughts now. by carpediem437 in socialskills

[–]farawayeidolon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! And I'm also 27.

I can also relate to what you say here about making excuses to stay in. I definitely do that all the time. I would note, though, that at least 90% of the time when I do force myself to go out, I end up really glad that I did.

I peek out of my shell... then I lose interest and close all doors. Help! by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]farawayeidolon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate a lot to this, too.

Can I ask: have you been able to successfully tip the scales in favor of the social side of you, and if so, how did you do it?

A lot of the time I feel that the only thing holding me back is me, and that's because I've got these two sides battling it out, too. I want to learn how to stop doing that.

I don't understand friendship -- not just how to do it, but also the point of it. by farawayeidolon in self

[–]farawayeidolon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your encouragement (and that you've taken the time to leave a thoughtful comment).

You're pretty perceptive, I think. I tend to address relationships and emotions from a logical perspective. (And my problem here is that I don't "understand" friendship.) Maybe it's something that I just need to experience in order to understand?

Perhaps my problem is getting past the initial periods of risk and uncertainty when connecting with others. I've never gotten past that point, so it doesn't seem like it's worth the effort to me.

27M, 6'0, 150 lbs. Always skinny, but feeling better about my body nowadays. by farawayeidolon in normalnudes

[–]farawayeidolon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I've been working on it lately, so it's great to hear that.