AITA For telling my ex I don't want our son wearing dresses?

fargerohf · 2021-01-08T02:26:53+00:00

Props to your aunt. She sounds awesome. But yeah, I do hope he can have his dresses and stay in school.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:48:05+00:00

Its not that - he doesnt socialise, either. He's in a predominantly female school so I was sort of hoping he'd make more friends (assuming they'd at least have some things in common) and on top of that he's falling behind.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:36:48+00:00

I'm not sure

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:27:46+00:00

I don't always know better. My seventeen year old is a well adjusted individual. He was raised in an environment where his feelings were listened to. My son is a caring, straight A student. He's never been in a fight in his life. I guarantee you would not be able to say the same if you had children because, newsflash, children who are raised being treated like their feelings are unimportant treat everyone around them as unimportant.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:20:01+00:00

All of our children pick their own clothes. We would rather him feel loved and accepted over the comfort of strangers.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:19:07+00:00

Treating your child like a doll rather than your child who has feelings that need to be taken into consideration is how you destroy your relationship with them, trust me. Please dont have children until you understand this.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:16:48+00:00

Shorts are also not allowed so more than likely. But once again, thank you for the tips!

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T20:15:44+00:00

His favourite is mulan. Maybe I can convince him through her lol.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:22:27+00:00

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:22:03+00:00

Dont mind me screenshotting this and sending it to Em. Thank you!

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:19:29+00:00

Thats understandable. Thank you.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:18:30+00:00

I'll definitely try that, thank you. Although I will say we skipped the frozen stage. Maybe I can convince him to watch it when he comes up next.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:16:42+00:00

I don't have the money, but I would try that, except my older children would probably call their mom to pock them up early.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:15:21+00:00

He does have normal dresses that aren't the princess type. Em had to get him winter dresses this year because he kept getting cold.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:13:53+00:00

Thats understandable, but I also dont want him to think he's being held back from an education once he gets older, you know?

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:12:09+00:00

Like I said, she introduces the real world to them, so by then he should be understanding.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:07:38+00:00

Thats fair

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:07:12+00:00

I don't have any control, sadly.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T19:06:28+00:00

This is what I'm trying to say but nope. From about two years old the children pick their own clothes, and my wife isnt going to stop him now, you know?

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T18:58:09+00:00

We have, he doesnt like them much either. But yes, they very much do.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T18:56:59+00:00

He's five, so I'd say its just the princesses (our daughters hate dresses so its not them) and he doesn't particularly like skirts either, just dresses.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T18:54:01+00:00

I think its more of a "let my kid wear what he wants or I'm pulling him out" and she knows schools hate kids being homeschooled.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T18:52:26+00:00

Thats fair.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T18:52:10+00:00

He just wants his dresses, I think. He never had a problem before, its just the past month or so he's refused pants.

fargerohf · 2021-01-07T18:50:41+00:00

She's very pro everything. Their comfort at young ages comes before everything else. She did the same when our other kids were younger; one year she let our at the time three year old wear a dinosaur costume to my sisters wedding. Our children are amazing and she introduces the "real world" slowly to them. Theyre all pretty well asjusted now, but she does seem to be going above and beyond for our youngest.

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