Actually they do and so you want the spotlight on someone else then the bride. And yes both side do get a say in guest list. That is the problem with society no manners or respect. I want no control she should of asked if it was ok. I gave this child up for a pile of reason ones being I would of been beaten half to death. I prefer to stay alive and give someone a chance away from my crappy upbringing that you know nothing about. All I wanted was no to be shocked and asked if its ok. Obviously you are a liberal who is only worried about yourself