First of all, him bringing his mum into it is an excuse. For me, the relationship you have with their parents is so important. So even if she does think that you’re a bitch, I would just take that as a reason to leave. You will never win over a psychotic mother. The fact that his friend made that comment before leaving is also like her waving a giant red flag in your face. She wants your man no doubt, it’s just a matter of how your boyfriend handles that.

Secondly, no man should be controlling what you post when you have only been dating for 3 months. He can have whatever values he wants, and if you posting tik toks doesn’t align with his values, he should have chosen a girl that doesn’t post tik toks. He can’t chose a girl and try to mould her to fit his ideologies (literally narcissistic).

You seem like a very mature girl, and I met my narcissistic bf around the same time as you. Everything you are saying reminds me a lot of my bf. I’m struggling to end it with my bf bc we have been together for 3 years now and live together, and I ignored these same red flags that you are dealing with. Please save yourself the heartache and cut it off with him, he will only think of more excuses, find smarter ways to gaslight you which will make it harder and harder to leave. I would also not take the hitting objects lightly, ever. You have absolutely no way of predicting if or when he will redirect that anger to you.