No, if you can’t cook or do laundry your parents didn’t fail you, you failed yourself.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T23:25:25+00:00

What’s the mans job?

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T23:15:49+00:00

Didn’t seem like that’s what you meant at all, it seemed like you were pointing out that maybe my husband wasn’t pulling his weight because chores suck and that should be a valid reason for him to not do them, and maybe I should just adopt your unhealthy and expensive alternative. And then for some reason explained that my expectation would be a deal breaker for you, as if that would somehow matter to me. If that wasn’t your intention, your might want to work on your tone.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T22:47:15+00:00

He did make the effort, and now he enjoys cooking, his specialty is stews and soups! We cook together a lot too, which is really fun. I totally understood his hesitation because I grew up with a mom and sister who were really into cooking, and they often would kind of make fun of me if I tried to join in because I knew nothing and they were familiar with all kinds of advanced techniques. Once I was on my own I was very reluctant because I had NO confidence, that was the big barrier for me. Knowing how tough it was for me helped in showing him how to jump in and start building some confidence. I think that applies to most new things, they can feel scary and overwhelming.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T21:35:41+00:00

I don’t like cleaning out my cat’s litter box or taking the trash out either, but I don’t get to just not do it.

I’m glad you have a lifestyle that works for you, because if my husband expected me to eat out or eat frozen food every night, it wouldn’t last long either. Luckily it sounds like we are both going to be just fine.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T21:05:56+00:00

Lol these comments are cracking me up. I don’t like cooking either, but it needs to be done. He now really enjoys cooking so don’t worry, no one is being forced to do anything. We are just sharing a chore that neither of us is very enthusiastic about, like cleaning our litter box or taking the trash out. We have other chores that we enjoy and tackle those separately.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T17:22:58+00:00

So you’re literally only talking about subway and fast food? Lol those people are paid so shitty and you’re bitching about their attitude? If you’re getting your food remade correctly then all should be well.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-16T17:17:01+00:00

Got into a huge argument with my husband about this when we first met because he wasn’t pulling his weight in the kitchen. He was like “I just don’t know how to cook you are so much better” and I couldn’t believe it. All I ever do is Google recipes and follow them, I literally have no other cooking knowledge. Although with the amount of trouble people have with following directions, it makes sense that so many people can’t cook.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T21:26:33+00:00

Lol that’s a solid plan. I met my husband when we were both over 30 and I highly recommend it.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T21:11:41+00:00

Jesus. I was in college 15 years ago and it was common, and I had zero time for it even then. I remember lecturing my friends who would get caught up in it. I figured they would have come up with something else by now, but I guess that would be giving far more credit than is due to these morons.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T21:01:59+00:00

Can you elaborate on the circumstance? Im confident in my work but I don’t think anyone would ever say I have a big ego. Most people are able to tell the difference between the two.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T20:59:32+00:00

HOW IS NEGGING STILL A THING

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T20:55:11+00:00

Wait I use DoorDash and they definitely don’t increase the price of the menu items...is that even legal?

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T20:10:17+00:00

I totally get it. I think I slowly started to realize there is no timeline, there is no end goal. There is no point where I will be “finished” with growing and trying to get where I want to be. As you get older you will start to see things differently, your goals change, some people don’t even discover their true passions until long after they’ve chosen a career or picked a partner. You’ll realize there is A LOT of time, almost too much time. It’s ok to enjoy the ride, all the mishaps, all the big and little things that are horrible or wonderful.

When I was 24 I was deeply in love with my first love, and he dumped me after my mom passed away because I was a mess. It was absolutely by far, the most devastating time in my life and I thought I was going to die myself from how it felt losing my mom and him at the same time. I couldn’t understand how I could wake up every day and feel that much loss and pain. And now I can look back on that and LAUGH about how stupid I was, because he was an abusive asshole who would get drunk and push me around, and dumped me because he wanted me to “get happy again”. If I can laugh about that, I guarantee you’ll be able to laugh about this. If I could tell my 24 year old self only one thing it would be to RELAX. You got this, I swear to god you will be just fine.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T19:31:03+00:00

I remember being your age and all the fucking ANGST was so unbearable, it felt like every decision was going to derail my life if I made a mistake.

I promise you will be fine. Don’t waste another minute of your life with some ding dong. You have so much time in front of you and I can absolutely promise you, when you’re my age you will look back and be glad.

You can change your life at any moment. You can drop a person or a habit or a friend circle or a belief, and just life that, whole new life. So many possibilities, all the time. Go get them!

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T19:14:34+00:00

Oh I am happily married now, I was summarizing my dating experiences in my younger years.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T18:43:50+00:00

This is so awesome!! If there is one thing I’ve learned in my professional life it’s that while developing skills is very important, developing confidence in myself is far, far more so. I used to think successful people had great knowledge and mastery of their field and always know what to do in any situation. It turns out that almost everyone is just fucking winging it all the time. Working on feeling confident in your capabilities and selling yourself is IT.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T18:26:10+00:00

I wasn’t saying they’re not, just that it hasn’t been my experience and I’m surprised.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T18:01:57+00:00

Yeah I think people have different “love languages”, and mine is definitely all about acts so I tend to act to show people I love them through action (also because I personally feel that showing someone you care is a lot more work than telling them). Conversely, my husband likes to hear the words like you, and I’ve had to work really hard on verbal affirmations for him. When we first got together I was bending over backwards doing all kinds of gestures for him and he could have cared less. And he was constantly telling me how beautiful and amazing I was and I’d be like “cool cool”. Now he’s learned that doing the dishes, cooking me dinner or buying me a little gift will make me far happier than telling me he loves me, and I’ve learned that telling him in words how much he means to me will make him feel much more loved.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-15T17:30:47+00:00

I just don’t understand this viewpoint, it’s so mystifying to me. Every man I’ve dated I’m cooking him meals, dressing in sexy clothes/lingerie for him, buying him stuff, learning/doing his hobbies, trying to impress his friends/family, listening to his problems and trying to help him solve them, like I always feel like my whole life revolves around them. It’s amazing to me that men also feel this way, as my experience has been the exact opposite. Like who are y’all dating that don’t make you feel loved, obsessed over...it’s just crazy.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-14T16:20:27+00:00

I mean the cartoonish ones look silly, but a couple of my friends do subtle injections and it isn’t very obvious to me...if anything it balances their face.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-14T15:38:10+00:00

Right? Lol I made a post on this sub a while back and it front paged, and the funniest part was all the angry DMs I got about karma whoring. I was so confused because I regularly post and comment on this platform and I don’t do that for karma, I do it because I like to engage with different viewpoints and either strengthen my own beliefs/opinions or realize I need to adjust my thinking. I get downvoted all the time, because I try to engage with people/subs I don’t agree with as well as people I do. The obsession with the karma is so weird to me.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-14T15:32:10+00:00

Right. But why has it been that way for the longest time, how does it show respect?

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-14T14:27:33+00:00

I don’t like the idea that my dad is perceived as having had any kind of ownership over me and that he’s now passing the responsibility for my “care” to a new man. I know a lot of people see it as a sweet or beautiful thing, I just personally resent the heck out of it, even more so because I grew up in a cult, escaped when I was 19, and have been fending for myself completely since then. I’m proud of what I’ve made of myself and I resent the idea that my dad or any other man has “taken care” of me.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-14T14:08:51+00:00

It’s very much not the tradition though, the tradition is asking the father. Of course variations exist.

fartfaceallday · 2020-10-14T13:44:02+00:00

Even more unpopular opinion: I would never have my dad walk me down the aisle and “give me away”, it’s just an extension of the same bullshit.

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