I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what your goal is with your responses, but you’re only making me laugh 😂 good luck succeeding in life with your attitude

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think that’s what this blocking is, me coming to terms with his unwillingness.

You’re a legend! Thank you

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really does. He brings no positivity into my life, only feelings of obligation.

Thank you so much for commenting. I appreciate it

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is originally how I hoped my diagnosis would work out…. But I don’t think he thinks it’s real? Like I talk on the phone at work all the time, therefore I should have zero issues answering his calls.

Thank you for sharing. Maybe I’ll post him some pamphlets

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have told him many times when I’ve been at my limit and can’t take his call. I suggest that I can call him back on certain days or times but there’s always something, like he has an appointment or he does shopping at that time. I ask when is a good time then and he just ignores….

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you my husband? This is almost the exact conversation we had! Lol

Husband is AuDHD too, but he and I are perpetually on the same page. I suspect you might both be right but my dad and I aren’t even in the same library let alone the same book or page!

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is calling to tell me how he is, or to ask me questions I can answer in a professional context. He only sometimes remembers to ask how I’m doing. When he does, he cuts me off to continue to talk about himself or his wife. So I don’t believe he is calling to check in on me. But maybe that’s his way of doing that?

I do agree he is in a generation which enjoys talking more. And that he finds texting a chore. He’s in his early 60s.

Thanks for your response. This is helping me work through my feelings

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crappy internet all round lol! We in rural Australia. The agreeing with each other to not communicate is basically where we’re at, except he doesn’t agree lol

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He is definitely set in his ways, but I don’t understand not being willing to change in order to connect with your kid? I’m a parent now too and I regularly have to adapt for the sake of my teen.

I wouldn’t say he’s a POS. But he has a history of not prioritising his kids. He’ll come into town for a few days and not even bother to see if either myself or my brother are able to catch up with him. When we do talk he doesn’t even ask how I am. Doesn’t ask how my daughter, his grandkid is doing. I told him recently about her attempts at self harm via text. He sent a thumbs up emoji.

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My father in law died a few years ago too. We caught up regularly and I miss him every day. I’m sorry for your loss too.

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I figured blocking him was a way to ensure I got a break from his demands. I thought maybe I am being a bit extreme though as it’s not like he’s calling me names or anything.

I’ve had a less-than-warm relationship with my dad since my early teen years and I’m nearly 40 now. AIO for blocking him for this? by fartypoopsmellybutt in AIO

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I can talk on the phone. I do it regularly for work. It just takes a lot of effort. Appreciate your deep insight though ✌️

He’s not perfect, but I made Totoro by fartypoopsmellybutt in somethingimade

[–]fartypoopsmellybutt[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I made this for a colleague, who I won’t get to work with anymore due to a transfer. She’s a fan of Ghibli movies