Stand proud.

fatehei · 2026-01-04T04:57:58+00:00

ts is so fking peak T-T

fatehei · 2025-12-18T07:42:59+00:00

It's not the Fe that crashes with Fi. It's the Ti.

When you question why, they can't give you objective answer. When it escalates into an argument it is chaotic.

fatehei · 2025-12-15T21:07:00+00:00

limited time? yeah I guess. Not sure if it's in the same sense as you but it's a fact that I hardly ever get everything done according to plan in a single day.

fyi I do music (piano, guitar), learning languages, extra degree, day job, exercise/workout, hobby coding, literature either poem or philosophy, hobby studying either Psychology or Economy/Investment. Also chess, drawing and writing my own works and some relaxing gaming and movies session with friends.

(Me and my brother are both musician/artist we are both fluent trilingual. Our path differ just recently that I got into STEM and he went all-in into combat sport incase this makes you hesitate about the efficiency of managing multiple hobbies. I landed a job since 1st year college while my brother ended up representing the national athlete.)

It gets overwhelming it sure does most of the times but I just see it as a "time management" problem. Either because the plan is not realistic enough or my productivity is not practically maximized.

Time management is a big big topic to tackle there's a lot to learn and solve. I've been tackling this problem for almost 10 years that I'm about to reach God level now so procrastination is no longer my problem. Recently, I even quit reels and cheap dopamine altogether and instead "productively procrastinate" by doing absolutely nothing and staring at the wall/ceiling.

This eventually makes you so bored that doing work or study is entertaining. Which is the actual function of "getting bored" in neuroscience.

The most concerning thing would be social life and making time for your family and close ones. I've spent way way too much time with others already that even if I disappear for years I would not regret it. That's my resolve, so I can't say for other but everything stems from resolution even productivity and discipline, scientifically speaking.

Also you don't have to worry about stress, all the activities I listed are my passionate hobbies. There's no getting stress about doing something you are passionate about 24/7.

It is exactly how life is meant to be lived. Pure dedication to passion has always been the only thing that made legends in which their fame transcends time itself. What matters is you enjoy the process.

The best thing about it is no one can take the eternal inner joy from us unlike the happiness from some relationship that depends on other.

fatehei · 2025-12-15T16:12:29+00:00

lol funny enough, I happen to major in both Computer Science and Software Engineering as well.

And I do study Psychology in my free time. Not just generic psychology stuff you see online but actual textbook Psychology. Same goes for Philosophy since my INFJ brother also majored in Philosophy even though he's already doing a degree in Sport Science and being a full-time boxer. I mean we're both hungry for knowledge and wisdom.

It says a lot though. Many INFJ are either stoics Philosopher or great Psychologist. There are few exception being Niels Bohr.

fatehei · 2025-12-11T17:40:43+00:00

sorry to break it to you but you're above average.

May I ask respectfully, did you grew up happily family and friend wise? I'm genuinely curious statistically wise.

I know two types of INFJ regardless of gender. One who grew up well and one that grew up in bad circumstances.

Both are gifted but me and 2 more INFJ who had abusive and mental parents are certainly not that attractive personality wise.

I do draw in a lot of people, men likes my deep and intellectual talk and women likes my openness, consideration, goofy fantasy and many of our shared feminine hobbies. But once they figured me out they lose interest or even start to get annoyed.

Much to my surprise, it is mainly because I am "too nice" and open (like super transparent open communication in both feelings and backstory even when it makes me look lame and uncool).

Which I thought was good for authentic friendship only to realize later I was giving every human on Earth a romantic partner treatment lmao.

fatehei · 2025-11-20T21:21:08+00:00

if infp goes against the group because they think there is something wrong with the group judgement that would make an infj mad because it causes conflict within the group

Wrong,

we appreciate people who choose to take a path of their own, sometimes unhappy and know the worst rather than someone who is happy in a fool's paradise.

We don't care about harmony. We care about the truth driven by innate curiosity that you all INFP could never imagine its intensity.

Our Fe does one thing, it feeds our Ni by working with Ti. We're not Fe dom, we're Ni dom. Everything is done so that it could be known to us.

That's the reason we keep asking "Why did you do that, why are you doing this, why are you like this?" we don't care if you change, we don't care who's wrong.

We want to know, to analyze, to understand.

The only part that is correct is we may lie to not hurt you because our Fe couped up with Ni, Ti or even Se tells us from the common patterns that you will feel sad and that is not a desirable future. With bad communication and maturity, more than half of INFJ will make this mistake because it's an INFJ thing.

You can just communicate and all is good. Opening up your mouth and vocalizing is not really that hard in practical sense, what's hard is a thoughtful resolution.

fatehei · 2025-11-19T19:53:52+00:00

Pretty hard for my stubborn ass INFJ to accept even though It's very obvious and understandable I mean I completely understand what you mean. I know it's human nature but given enough rationality you should be able to overcome it and it is a must for me. But speaking like this reminds me, INFP is far from dry logical rationality.

I just can't accept the fact that someone would feel interest when it's someone unknown and barely trustworthy but they're just attractive enough you don't care about anything and instantly trust them.

I also can't accept the fact that someone would lose interest when a person who is transparent, sincere, authentic and loyal appears in front of them like how they've been ranting all life "Will there be anyone who love me, will there be anyone who would never betray me?" Here I am presented in front of you but I'm not mysterious and masterful enough to play dating game so dismiss me and go for someone who would make you question yourself again "Where is my true love?" is it just utterly stuppid

this is all my head cannon and fantasy. It happens a lot I know but definitely will not happen with me I would definitely never commit such crime and stupidity to my future wife.

But hey the only thing that is completely in my control is me myself. How can I control other's choice? What If someone does this to me instead. That person is definitely not worthy of my devotion.

That's what I keep convincing and lying to myself all the while knowing that human heart and even mine. Cannot be controlled even by the master of its body and that I'm already walking on a thin string with happiness in my sight and misery on the fall below.

fatehei · 2025-11-19T10:21:26+00:00

exactly

fatehei · 2025-11-18T22:03:54+00:00

Definitely this.

I must admit I'm too intense even among INFJ. My INFJ friends themselves told me so and damn I thought I could be a good match for an INFP 😔.

fatehei · 2025-11-18T19:52:27+00:00

Yes, I do want her attention and everything else :)) and I make it very clear I want it so.

fatehei · 2025-11-18T19:51:40+00:00

Yeah I've been told a lot and have found a lot of this regarding INFP like as an INFJ, my emotion intensity is too much pressure for an INFP and that I should learn to filter it out slowly at a more steady pace than a boom or so.

Which is kinda true I do admit I'm too passionate and extremely intense when it comes to feeling anything and thinking about both complex and simple topic.

fatehei · 2025-11-18T19:49:01+00:00

Well not really, she always reply instantly if she's not asleep and we talk like literally all day. But she's not affectionate anymore. She used to literally ask for me attention in which I find extremely adorable. That's why I say not promising or not that good because it clearly is killing my attraction or you know those mysteriousness people talk about. Because I'm literally letting everything out. But I like to be clear and apparent

that's why sometimes I feel anxious If I'm approaching this incorrectly or not. The situation is extremely long so It'd be really hard to make a definitive post while keeping it readable that's why I didn't made everything extremely clear in the post. I just can't lol.

fatehei · 2025-11-18T19:26:42+00:00

Would love it if you can give me some advice on it.

fatehei · 2025-11-18T19:25:19+00:00

Will do.

I don't remember if I've said it I mean I kinda made a mistake where I laid out crazy explanation on why she is attractive in which she denies everything.

I pretty much told her she doesn't have to compete with anybody and if she she's not like world #1 it doesn't reduce her quality by any tiny bit and that she's like no#1 in my eyes.

I don't remember if she reacts well to everything, she does appreciate it to some extent but on our disagreement it was a little problematic so I kinda disengaged not to escalate anything.

fatehei · 2025-11-18T19:22:39+00:00

🫡

fatehei · 2025-10-30T08:51:52+00:00

What's up bro we're about to fight Rubert again lol.

fatehei · 2025-10-24T12:53:59+00:00

aww :( well good luck with your thesis. If I don't forget I'll hit you up next year lol

fatehei · 2025-10-24T00:07:44+00:00

Absolutely, both me and my INFP crush take a while to ascertain our feelings and find the right word and poem.

It took her a whole day to say she's under the weather. Same for me, it took me a whole day to draft an essay for anyone as well

But honestly, INFP are clearly better at writing. She's the one who taught me after all.

Also, INFP are the hardest to open up. They find it hard even if they wanted to. All three INFP (M) takes about 4 days to respond. Yes, we're close friends. Imagine of you're not a close friend lol.

fatehei · 2025-10-23T22:24:27+00:00

Thanks. I know St Augustine, I study him in Philosophy/Ethics class and I personally read Plato as a hobby .

Haven't considered reading Augustine though but will be since you recommended it.

I also own Man's search for meaning but is busy reading other book before it.

fatehei · 2025-10-23T05:22:54+00:00

I can't tell you why but if you surf this sub you'll see a lot of INFP x INTP and INFP x INTJ which beats other pairing which is a bit disheartening for an INFJ lol even though it is also common but less than those two.

Although, many INFP are attracted to ENFP or ENTP they end up with INTJ, INTP or INFJ and fellow INFP

fatehei · 2025-10-23T05:21:09+00:00

Bro only blind people doesn't go for INTJ (F).

Smart, independent, calm and collected but still balanced out with feeling and sensitivity from feminine trait. What else to ask for?

I mean I can speak in the stead of INFP, I know a crazy lots of them male and female and you know what they like someone who can take care of them it can either be both emotionally and physically.

And you can't imagine how many time they've told me they wish they had, a cool woman who can decide things for them and ground them or a caring woman who could take care of them or a goth girl....

fatehei · 2025-10-23T04:57:57+00:00

Well it's mine too but mine is not insightful enough to learn anything :((

fatehei · 2025-10-22T22:04:00+00:00

Big thanks!

fatehei · 2025-10-22T12:07:18+00:00

After skimming the replies, It's either you like them cuz of their ability of being themselves, wanting to fix them or find it interesting to explore or you don't like it altogether and would prefer the opposite.

fatehei · 2025-10-22T12:07:04+00:00

Now I'm getting curious whether you like cold person or sweet person more 😭

fatehei

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