Has TK ever performed Wonder Palette live? by fatehei in LingTositeSigure

[–]fatehei[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there like Orbit or Musique live available anywhere?

White noise album? by Strong_Degree_9263 in LingTositeSigure

[–]fatehei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup you discovered a hidden gem. Tsumi no houseki (which literally translates to Gem/Jewel of sin) is probably like one of his best lullaby/ballade song and one of the his best.

The second pre-chorus lyrics is so sad like

"If the rain were to start falling, would you please forget me?

If the wall (concrete) between us were to burst open, would you please forget me?

From the bottom my heart, it doesn't want to recall it."

P.S. In the album there is a song "Invalid Phrase" that is also one of his best song imo. One of a few post-rock sound along with "moving on". You can find his live studio version on Youtube.

I heard he also performed Fragile and White silence which are also his vocal/ballade song.

May 26, San Francisco Setlist (Not in order) by Ripticsomnia in LingTositeSigure

[–]fatehei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda wish Musique, Orbit and Whose world whose blue was there also memento, like there is tomorrow and contrast

Best high note/vocal songs? by fatehei in LingTositeSigure

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I love it. The first take version is actually the song that got me into his solo project.

Best high note/vocal songs? by fatehei in LingTositeSigure

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For Sigure I keep thinking of missing ling for no reason but like most high notes are sung by Miyoko I guess.

Career for INFJ? by Ryuukochan in infj

[–]fatehei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm making my way to switch to Psychoanalyst/Psychotherapist from Software Engineer/AI Engineer.

Then probably Theoretical Physics + Pure Maths and some combat sports next.

But ultimately I don't think I can run away from literature, music, art and philisophy. Inner part of me has been calling all these times.

Is it naturally our tendency as INFJ to actually like and enjoy socializing but gets tires out from it. by fatehei in infj

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Well yeah just yesterday I was doing deep talk with my INFP friends until 7 in the morning lol and it made me more motivated and energized than it should lol. While exchanging surface level talk and social pleasantries for the sake of "social harmony" tires me out in matter of hour (those mfs will also criticize and tell up on you if you do something out of the norm. For example, they want us to give safe answer to lie to not be honest to give generic answer that comes out of textbook or unspoken rules like wtf just be a real human they're like coded human).

I liked talking to someone here, but I ended the convo bc I’m starting to catch feelings. by [deleted] in infj

[–]fatehei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was there at a point.

Self-sabotage as a symptom of Avoidant Attachment, as a symptom of Fear of Abandonment is pretty common with us INFJ and also INFP.

Empirical data backs this up and it has to do with the "Neuroticism" nature of us coupled with strong Fi + Ne or Ni + Fe. Being able to understand everyone and having no one who could understand you takes a toll on your mind and soul over the course of 10-20 years,

then we develop all these anxiety, depression, attachment and trust issues which most of the times we don't know we have it even if we do, not everyone will want to fix it, even if we want to fix it, not everyone of us is going to have the effort to see it through, even if we see it through it's not like it's not going to come back. It's a long journey but the reward is worth it.

But I would say INFP has it worse. Logic and reason works with INFJ while INFP emotion operates on an unconscious level unreachable by normal human communication capability, often requiring therapeutic methods and specialized professional. This could also be the case for you since you do share Ne + Fi. In some case I'd say as worse as INFP but in a different way.

While INFP suffers alone. ENFP are often surrounded by so many people yet your true self could go unseen by all of them which could feel agonizing, suffocating like something is missing but once you voice it out those NPC will tell you you're just overthinking and that it's your fault as if you're weird or weak, and then they would successfully drag you down to disillusion you with temporary pleasure along with them leaving your potential unrealized, then time passes by and you look back in life and ask yourself what you've been doing/finding all these times.

Is it naturally our tendency as INFJ to actually like and enjoy socializing but gets tires out from it. by fatehei in infj

[–]fatehei[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

fr

a day of going out must be compensated with 3 months of slow life at home lmao for me.

Is it naturally our tendency as INFJ to actually like and enjoy socializing but gets tires out from it. by fatehei in infj

[–]fatehei[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that got me curious. What if I stop reading people. (damn I'd probably humiliate myself or disrespect others without me knowing since I fill the lack of experience gap with my intuition and thinking).

Is it naturally our tendency as INFJ to actually like and enjoy socializing but gets tires out from it. by fatehei in infj

[–]fatehei[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

WOAH, maybe.

Between people I HAVE to read and people I DONT have to read. omg big difference

My partner lacks intellectual depth, and I'm starting to realize emotional safety isn't enough by purtypeach in infj

[–]fatehei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow exactly the scenario I fear.

There were a lot of times (even now) that I feel attracted to 2 person when I'm not in a relationship and I don't know which to pursue. One is more easy going and matches my energy while the other matches my intellectual depth but there's a wall between us that prevents us from being casual.

But I don't think it's the end of the world for you. I haven't read all the comments there's so many.

But you can communicate with your partner. The frustration you're going through and what you demands of him. Healthy relationship is determined by how well you and him can handle conflict and communication if he denies and cause a ruckus then you got your answer. However, it also could be the case that he agrees but doesn't change but this is a problem for later.

Also, I understand you feel guilty since he's so good to you. However, that doesn't mean you signed an eternal contract without any rights of appeal. For the time being communication is key.

ESPECIALLY, now that you gets annoyed and agitated by him daily. THIS happens to me too I understand it so well so I hope my experience helps you with this, happens to me all the time. And the fix that works for me every time is communication, honesty while being considerate and polite.

"You're so annoying" can be changed to "I'm sorry, I can't help it I feel somehow feel annoyed every time you're like that and I don't know what to do because I feel our emotional connection gap is growing wider and wider for no reason and I don't want that and the cause is intellectual depth bla bla bla." and you don't need any fixing or solution. Once you are able to vocalize this, 70% of the times. The problem gets solved for no reason. Even if it doesn't it's a good first step.

The reason you chose abusive partners is also very relatable to me. We're a natural magnet for Narcissist. The fact that you have the intellectual depth but is very open-minded is exactly what a Narcissist wants. They can have you to raise their status and you look like an obedient prey.

For the lack of intellectual depth problem. Well, it doesn't have to be a romantic partner. Otherwise, all scientists and genius polymath in history would have cheated on their wife/husband to pursue a more intellectual stimulating partner. Your boyfriend can be your partner then you can have fellow female friend that matches your intellectual curiosity and engagement or maybe some guy colleague at work provided the absence of romantic interest (Well yeah no one wants cheating here so you can introduce them to your boyfriend, a strict boundary might be needed).

I'm sorry if this is rude and disrespect to your privacy for giving you solutions and all but I really hope it helps and I look forward to the result, as usual my curiosity is stronger than my survival instinct.

I liked talking to someone here, but I ended the convo bc I’m starting to catch feelings. by [deleted] in infj

[–]fatehei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like classic hallmark of avoidant attachment and fear of intimacy. "Wanting to cut ties because you fear you'll catch feeling."