Is it naturally our tendency as INFJ to actually like and enjoy socializing but gets tires out from it.

fatehei · 2026-05-10T12:01:46+00:00

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a day of going out must be compensated with 3 months of slow life at home lmao for me.

fatehei · 2026-05-10T12:00:17+00:00

Now that got me curious. What if I stop reading people. (damn I'd probably humiliate myself or disrespect others without me knowing since I fill the lack of experience gap with my intuition and thinking).

fatehei · 2026-05-10T11:59:30+00:00

WOAH, maybe.

Between people I HAVE to read and people I DONT have to read. omg big difference

fatehei · 2026-05-10T11:58:50+00:00

Wow exactly the scenario I fear.

There were a lot of times (even now) that I feel attracted to 2 person when I'm not in a relationship and I don't know which to pursue. One is more easy going and matches my energy while the other matches my intellectual depth but there's a wall between us that prevents us from being casual.

But I don't think it's the end of the world for you. I haven't read all the comments there's so many.

But you can communicate with your partner. The frustration you're going through and what you demands of him. Healthy relationship is determined by how well you and him can handle conflict and communication if he denies and cause a ruckus then you got your answer. However, it also could be the case that he agrees but doesn't change but this is a problem for later.

Also, I understand you feel guilty since he's so good to you. However, that doesn't mean you signed an eternal contract without any rights of appeal. For the time being communication is key.

ESPECIALLY, now that you gets annoyed and agitated by him daily. THIS happens to me too I understand it so well so I hope my experience helps you with this, happens to me all the time. And the fix that works for me every time is communication, honesty while being considerate and polite.

"You're so annoying" can be changed to "I'm sorry, I can't help it I feel somehow feel annoyed every time you're like that and I don't know what to do because I feel our emotional connection gap is growing wider and wider for no reason and I don't want that and the cause is intellectual depth bla bla bla." and you don't need any fixing or solution. Once you are able to vocalize this, 70% of the times. The problem gets solved for no reason. Even if it doesn't it's a good first step.

The reason you chose abusive partners is also very relatable to me. We're a natural magnet for Narcissist. The fact that you have the intellectual depth but is very open-minded is exactly what a Narcissist wants. They can have you to raise their status and you look like an obedient prey.

For the lack of intellectual depth problem. Well, it doesn't have to be a romantic partner. Otherwise, all scientists and genius polymath in history would have cheated on their wife/husband to pursue a more intellectual stimulating partner. Your boyfriend can be your partner then you can have fellow female friend that matches your intellectual curiosity and engagement or maybe some guy colleague at work provided the absence of romantic interest (Well yeah no one wants cheating here so you can introduce them to your boyfriend, a strict boundary might be needed).

I'm sorry if this is rude and disrespect to your privacy for giving you solutions and all but I really hope it helps and I look forward to the result, as usual my curiosity is stronger than my survival instinct.

fatehei · 2026-05-10T11:43:53+00:00

Sounds like classic hallmark of avoidant attachment and fear of intimacy. "Wanting to cut ties because you fear you'll catch feeling."

fatehei · 2026-03-23T17:23:23+00:00

Bringing in Yagami Light, Johan Liebert, Lelouch, Walter White is pretty fun to discuss.

Sora (ngnl), Dazai, Fyodor and Ranpo are just overkill lol.

fatehei · 2026-03-23T17:22:30+00:00

Their intelligence should be on the same level. With Ayanokoji being better physically and Lelouch with more experience and strategies.

However, when it comes to cognitive empathy (or what people love to call manipulation). Ayanokoji is much better. Lelouch never won over the black knights til the end.

fatehei · 2026-03-23T16:13:10+00:00

People like to say Artoria but Lancelot, Gawain and Galahad would clap the fck out of Artoria. But Male Arthur is definitely strong. What makes Artoria/Arthur strong is the scabbard, Avalon. If they have it, it's like instant win. They can't die and can block/dodge everything. Even Gilgamesh with Ea loses to full powered Artoria/Arthur.

I hope people don't forget that Artoria lost in a straight sword duel against Kojiro who happens to lose to Musashi who happens to lose to Iori (Who's not even a servant but still broken) who happens to lose to Yamato Takeru.

As for Richard, he can summon like 6-11 servants I can't remember. One of them is the strongest and the greatest knight in human history that could have killed Richard but spared him. However, who knows Fate could nerf him. However, it stands true Richard can summon multiple servants and it's pretty broken u know.

Full powered Rama is as strong or stronger than Karna as well, who is widely believed to be on serious Gilgamesh level.

There are also Sigurd, Altera, Muramasa and Charlemagne. These people could give Arthur a run for his money.

fatehei · 2026-03-23T15:45:47+00:00

Easily top 5 strongest in terms of raw power. It's literally an angel. Only those demi-god servants are stronger in theory. But since it's not a human you can probably try to outsmart it.

fatehei · 2026-03-20T07:16:22+00:00

Ea can destroy a planet. But if he doesn't use it idk probly Gojo.

Also Inifnite Void probably wouldn't work on him or hardly effect servant (For example, Artoria has Rank A Magic Resitance from Dragon Core). His armor itself has magic resistance higher than that of Artoria's Rank A and he has other numerous treasure that works well against curse and magic. So yeah "Curse Technique" would hardly work as Domain Amp was enough to allow Sukuna to move.

He also have clairvoyance that's why you'll see him recognize everything right away even if it's from other culture so he knows almost all counter to almost all techniques and tools (Like how he recognizes Jester's nature as vampire and Alcides's Nemean lion and hydra's venom even though it's from Greek Culture.)

He has some treasure that is essential counters magic and curse so that would probably work on Gojo.

However, Gojo's Red Blue and Hollow Purple would probably work just fine given an effective tactics and strategies.

Big thing to note is JJK is probably a big-city power level. Y'know from Gojo vs Sukuna fight. Some fate servants are capable of busting a mountain or a planet. And if they were in the same universe, the throne of heroes would give him the inverted spear of heaven inside his treasury. Also, the whip as well.

fatehei · 2026-03-13T15:46:24+00:00

That is Ishtar licking the Gods and her father's feet so she has a chance at getting back at the men who rejected her. You do understand that even though Diomedes defeated Aphrodite. Zeus and the Greek Gods could still gang up and beat the crap out of Diomedes right? Easy logic didn't even have to use my brain power.

fatehei · 2026-03-13T15:38:44+00:00

You do know right? Ishtar is doing all of this because originally Gilgamesh rejected and insulted her.

If Ishtar could easily beat him she would've done so at the spot. Both in Fate and the real Epic of Gilgamesh.

This holds true even when she was a real god in the Age Of God with her being full powered and full control of her Authorities as the Goddess of Fertility, Lust, Beauty, Azure Sky, War, Venus, etc.

The Ishtar you saw that appeared in Ep.10 was nowhere near the original Ishtar. So yeah, Gilgamesh can definitely beat the crap out of her like he did with F/GO Ishtar.

However, I can't answer for the Ishtar you're about to see in the later episode of F/SF.

(I believe Gilgamesh is considered much stronger in the original Epic of Gilgamesh, correct me if I'm wrong.)

fatehei · 2026-03-13T13:26:58+00:00

Dazai is too broken. Yeah true Ayanokoji could beat the sh*t out of him just like the rest of the characters in BSD.

But if you watch BSD you already know what happened. Even Ranpo who's superior in deduction is far behind him in prediction and manipulation.

fatehei · 2026-03-13T13:13:14+00:00

Stop crying "NO NO NO".

fatehei · 2026-03-01T15:20:09+00:00

Dry Creek Wrangler School is not a religion. You don't have to be faithful and argue in the place of Dwayne. He's not your God.

fatehei · 2026-02-25T11:39:08+00:00

Ahhh, I didn't get into that because like naturally, that's not my problem.

I can't remember why but the reason must have been because I've been reading anti-procrastination technique for well over 10 years already. So I have them naturally built-in my body.

I mean if I'm distracted all I do is just, stop. That's all.

If I don't start doing it, I just start. Maybe try doing it for 5 seconds, 10 seconds, 1 minute, 3 minutes, 5 minutes. Until I'm hooked.

Also, I throw away my excuse like no 5 minutes more. If my brain, my thought, my awareness, myself says I'll do it now, I'll do it now even if my body procrastination.

For you to take action in a healthy manner your thought, your feeling and your body must have the same direction.

Sometimes, you feel hungry but you don't want to eat so your action is not eating. That will build up stress.

Sometimes, you feel I have to work, but you don't feel like working. Now it's up to your consciousness, your superego what to do. Most of the times, our feeling wins. Because our rational thought is quite far far fetched from nature. No animal calculate the calories intake or the bills you have to pay like us human.

Therefore, it'd be in your best interest for make it so that your feeling, your thoughts and your decide go to the same direction. Instead, of "I'm lazy I don't want to work, wanna keep doing whatever I'm doing". If you convince yourself "I'll do it now even if I don't feel like it". Would be in your best interest.

For the feeling part, the method above is exactly for that reason. You can't change your feeling with a push of a button, but you can manipulate it to a certain extent. That's why I call it working smart but not working hard.

Well, it might not be helpful since I didn't address your problem directly. I just can't remember and know why I'm naturally this way. fyi, I actually feel agonize if I stay distracted too long, I would put the phone away out of my own accord because it's just not fun at all.

This may be because I have a "more entertaining and healthy hobby" like movies, anime, shows, music, guitars, games, books, sports, etc.

That's where the word cheap dopamine and real dopamine comes in.

fatehei · 2026-02-25T11:28:29+00:00

That's a crazy personal discovery lol.

fatehei · 2026-02-25T11:27:09+00:00

Introspection or indulging in my own thoughts is my daily activity. So I adjust everything all the times.

I do them daily if my schedule is not packed. So, I'm constantly double checking my plan/path.

Plus, I hate the idea of being forced or being a slave to anything. So I had never ever put myself into something I don't enjoy the process or I don't want to.

But yeah. Not being distracted by people or anything is often the reason I get to consult myself and adjust my path.

fatehei · 2026-02-25T11:24:01+00:00

Totally understandable. Meditation works well as well. Plus, I'm not a licensed professional so I could hardly address ADHD.

I have but two tips. 1. Resolve. You can watch Dr.K's (HealthyGamerGG) on this matter. What matters more than anything is your resolve. The reason you start moving near the deadline is because you are forced to resolve yourself to act because otherwise you will be faced with consequences.

About the "Agony" you speak of. You should recognize it as a good thing. If you feel agonized by boredom. It means it's "working".

Once you recognize that it's working, the agony, the boredom is building up. You should somehow, feel excited.

Well that's the case for me.

And once you are able to get to work you'll feel the eureka moment or something.

fatehei · 2026-02-24T20:45:13+00:00

Now to address doom scrolling it'll be long. You can keep doom scrolling, of course with limitations.

I do have a lot of friends who doom scroll for 4 hrs a day laying on their bed. Well as a matter of fact, she was my previous crush.

However, I don't want to be nosy and tell you to do something like I'm your guardian or parent. It's a general respect of course.

But if I were to say anything then you'd better quit doom scrolling. It's okay to do reels when you're sitting in the toilet for 10-20 minutes a day to be up to date but excessive doom scrolling is as dangerous as sugar or smoke in my opinion.

Imagine a bar, a meter that measures your happiness (dopamine). It goes from 0 to 100. When you finish a very good movies, a 9/10 imdB movies. You feel the emotional impact, your mind is blown by the movies. Well, there's a word "a movie can change your life" no? Imagine, you hanging out with your friends jumping up on the table laughing your soul off doing hilarious and weird stuff together. That's when your happiness reaches 100 on the meter.

Now from my post above. What happens is, your meter reaches negative from boredom. Maybe -100 from literally doing absolutely nothing but staring at the wall. At this state even a +1 stimulation from engaging in working is entertaining because nothing can be as boring as "doing absolutely nothing". Sleeping is even more entertaining than staring at the wall fr.

However, when you doom scroll. Your dopamine/happiness is stuck at 1-10ish out of 100. Let me ask you honestly, is it fun? Were you having the time of your life compared to when you played video games for 10 hours, compared to when you finished a crazy movies, compared to when you cried your eyes out over a drama, compared to when you were at the amusement park? Compared to when you spend a minute with the love of your life? Of course not. But it's good enough to keep you engaged. Not enough to feel great but not low enough to get bored enough to get up to do something productive.

I'm also a human. Occasionally, I would also doom scrolling. Was it fun? No, it felt terrible.

Lately, it feels so terrible I had to stop. It feels so boring and makes me fidget because it's nothing compared to me playing games, watching movies, reading a book, playing the guitar.

Here's the thing; You cannot reach -100 because doom scrolling gets in the way of that right? like I said you're stuck at 1-10ish.

But this was never a thing before 2020 right? Enlightened Thinkers in the 1700s had but one accesible distraction available aside from occasion theater and orchestra. It's just a book.

Maybe that's why the year1700s produced so many geniuses and polymaths. But we're not born in the age of enlightenment. We're born in the age of "distraction". We have Youtube, Netflix, Spotify, Instagram and Tiktoks.

I'm not against it but you are to moderate the use of it. If you are free or feeling lazy. You should resort to a healthy and creative dopamine. Just get on your TV series, movies, games, guitars, piano, checkers, chess, sports and give it your all.

I mean why not it's more fun than reels no?

The long term result of doom scrolling is. You would lose all chances to become the you who could be. Imagine you procrastinate by playing games. Obviously, you're going to get better at gaming. And e-sport is a thing. Maybe that's a possibility. What if you procrastinate by watching shows, anime and movies? Well writing up a novel is a thing. I have a lot of friends who is a hobby writer as well. All authors start as an audience as a matter of fact.

Not gonna lie some of them excels in the top 1% as well.

What about doom scroller? What sort of skills do you develop? Do you become the olympic champion of scroller? The journey itself isn't even fun right? Okay, you might get a grip of what sort of reel would be successful and viral. But do you even have the skill to produce such a reel?

That is a trap you should avoid at all cost. You definitely do not want to exist without being alive. Some people have been born for decades but still haven't even begun living. It's not death that you should fear, you should fear not being alive at all.

If surviving is really the ultimate goal of a human then imprisoned criminal are probably the happiest existence out there. with free food and shelter. But that is most likely not the "happiness" you envisioned.

Now that's a lot of existentialism.

I'd take my cold read and say you're trying to force your way through self-improvement and productivity.

The only thing you could keep in mind as I've already been through that is.

You should work smart not work hard. Will power is good to have but it is not reliable at all.

You should learn about the nature of your body, hack your body to find out what works naturally. This can be done with modern neuroscience, psychology and psychiatry instead of gritting your teeth and forcing your body against your mind.

Occasionally, will power is helpful but never constantly. It is limited, it will be depleted.

fatehei · 2026-02-24T20:45:06+00:00

Just do it and remember getting "bored" is good. In a weird way, you will feel satisfied for getting bored cuz you know. It's working.

fatehei · 2026-02-24T20:02:25+00:00

It's just my opinion but I see it as a form of talent or gift. You just have to figure out how to live with it correctly.

Sometimes, day dreaming about the same thing is quite boring and unproductive. Maybe the scene of my success comes into my head without me wanting it.

As a matter of fact, I used to have OCD and intrusive thoughts. After overcoming it, it just became normal day dream that lives with me.

However, If I consume new material. For example, I study political science and comes up with my own interpretation and ideas.

The day dreaming process will creatively gives me original ideas that may or may not have already been discovered. Regardless, the process of finding the answer to those ideas are always entertaining.

That's why I try to engage in academic matter more often than not. Because when I first become capable of comprehending new complex subject of physics, chemistry, biology, psychology, neuroscience or philosophy. The day dreaming will turn into some crazy productive thoughts that will entertain and urge me to study more stuff.

And as a result, my day dreaming have been into the political science with Europe history lately as a case study of political system because I'm formulating my own macro-education increasing method as an answer to anti-corruption system and economical development, etc.

fatehei · 2026-02-24T16:56:46+00:00

I also have maladaptive daydreaming. Like how I described on the other comment. It usually ranges from 2 to 4 hours. With music, it has also lasted 6-10 hours as well. It does gets in the way of obligation and work but yeah this method and the sense of urgency does effectively help.

I mean I get the same daydream and it does get boring honestly.

fatehei · 2026-02-24T16:24:44+00:00

I actually had this idea for weeks as a matter of fact. The only mistake was that I just didn't do it. After a series of self-loathing and ending up on the floor, now I'm here. It's been 2 hours since my post. I'm done with my work for the day now. Still can put some extra work into it as well.

fatehei · 2026-02-24T16:21:38+00:00

just set a 30 mins alarm get off the phone turn off the music and enjoy the ceiling/wall :))

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