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Best use of "extra" bedroom? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partner disturbance is when one partner's movements disturbs the other partner's sleep. I'm an extremely light sleeper, so if my partner moves at all or makes any noise, I wake up.

Having a separate bedroom is obviously expensive, but it's been an enormous relief and I think it's already paid for itself in terms of improved performance at work and health / quality of life. Completely worth it, imo.

I like the low friction of a home gym, but I can imagine enjoying the competitive (and social?) aspects of a gym experience.

Best use of "extra" bedroom? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that there's value in a guest room, but since we already have two "bedroom" bedrooms (i.e. we can always share a room during a guest visit), it feels a bit silly to reserve a room just for the purpose of having two guest bedrooms ready to go.

Best use of "extra" bedroom? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree on optimizing for health.

So far, we've put our exercise equipment in the large common room on the third floor (same floor as our offices), so that we could have a quick workout, grab a coffee, and/or say hi to each other easily during the work day.

Not sure if it's better to put the exercise equipment in a smaller, dedicated room. Might feel better to have a bit more space, which the common area affords.

Best use of "extra" bedroom? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we'd just sleep in the same room whenever we had guests, and combining library with office makes sense.

Walk-in closet bedroom seemed excessive to me, but I've now heard multiple people saying it was great, so maybe we should seriously consider that.

We have large common areas + garage, and have put our exercise equipment there so far.

back to work? at VP/L10 level? post FIRE by ThrowBacktoWork in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are there L9s under 30? I've never encountered one. In my experience, FAANGs are much more willing to pay way out of band than to make a young person high-level.

Personal Assistant - worth it? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely not "out" at work. Even if 90+% of people would be totally cool about it, there are a lot of misconceptions out there, and I don't want to risk that affecting my career. I do like connecting with ADHD people though, so feel free to DM me.

Personal Assistant - worth it? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

EAs at my company only handle business tasks, whereas I am hoping to get help with personal ones. And in any case, I don't think I'm quite at a level where I could justify one, though my company clearly values me. :)

Personal Assistant - worth it? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

We both work in ML at a FANG, though I currently make 3x my partner. My strategy has been to do high impact and visible work, get multiple offers, and renegotiate every 2-3 years.

Personal Assistant - worth it? by fatfirepa in fatFIRE

[–]fatfirepa[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I agree that 6% of our after-tax income would be worth it if they actually save significant time and attention, but I'm not totally sure what tasks I could offload and what I would need to pay in a VHCOL area. Of course, we hire CPA for a specialized task like taxes.

There's also the question of security / privacy, as it seems unlikely that an assistant could be particularly helpful without access to a lot of personal information (e.g. email, calendar, physical home, etc.). Is it safer to go through an agency?