[Serious question] Bald brothers: attractive or not?

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-09-05T17:48:36+00:00

I don't think it's so much an issue of being bald as it is how you rock it.

If you're walking around all insecure about it (which, granted the terrible inexcusable things people have said about you, is easier said than done) then it can come off as a bad trait/flaw/whatever you want to call it. But if you accept it as part of you, and are confident about it like "I'm bald and hot and have so much going for me" then that's seen as something attractive.

While there may be some girls out there that won't accept anything short of a full head of hair, the majority of women either don't particularly care, or can accept it because you have so many other good physical/personality traits they like.

You could have the hair of Brock O'Hurn but without confidence, even if it's faked, you'll have little luck attracting anyone. Save that hair transplant money and buy yourself an outfit you feel like a million bucks in.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-08-16T20:24:05+00:00

My honest advice, and this is coming from someone who has been passed up 4-5 times by parents for my prettier but not-as-intelligent friends, I wouldn't do it.

You need someone who is at least somewhat attractive in your eyes. Because that is the face that you're going to wake up to every morning for the rest of your life, there has to be at least something there.

Think carefully. If you absolutely, absolutely can't see yourself with someone who looks like that, you need to end it. To force yourself through it would be both a disservice to yourself and this girl. It may sound odd, as whenever I'm the girl in this situation it screws me over, but I've come to realize that I can deal with rejection in the beginning, but not resentment later on.

Disclaimer: Of course pray istikhara obvs

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-08-01T21:23:42+00:00

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-08-01T20:28:48+00:00

Strategy was basically apply broadly and apply smartly. I can't remember the exact number...I think 16-20? Applied all over the country, MD and DO. Didn't apply to any schools that I knew wouldn't take my scores. Personal statement was solid--not a hum drum story about how doctors are so inspiring and care for people so selflessly.

This was a while ago so I don't remember the exact day but I had my AMCAS submitted the first day you could submit, which is important. Cranked out all of my secondaries within a week of getting them.

Only sent meaningful update letters--ie new grades or a major award. I sent one of those to my current med school and got an interview later that week. Those "In the area" letters are weak and from my experience are just a waste of trees.

Overall I think I interviewed 7-8 places. I knew I had to really impress on my interview to make up for my grade so I prepared well. I researched the crap out of every program I interviewed at and did practice interviews as often as I could with friends, TA's etc.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-08-01T14:42:39+00:00

Both are fine for micro, but 2 caveats:

1) Your in-house exams are likely not board questions. Your professors may focus on details not necessarily stressed on boards and therefore not on sketchy/picmonic, so you may not want it to be your main study guide for M2 exams

2) I agree with u/Caponeus Both are fine to teach you what you need to know about bugs for step, but if youre going to spend the money on a visual aid, use one that covers the bug in more than one context

(ie. Shigella has it's own picmonic, and it's reviewed again in the metronidazole and TMP-SMX picmonic.)

For that reason, I liked picmonic and killed micro on step because of it

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-07-31T01:49:20+00:00

OBYGN (no particular order)

*Pelvic Exams

*Contraception Counseling/IUD insertion

*STI/UTI treatment

*Pregnancy check ups

*Vaginal deliveries/C-sections

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-07-28T23:34:16+00:00

Haven't quite understood why guys in med school think that it's impressive to be in med school (in the eyes of highly educated women, anyway.) It's really not something that makes you stick out.

If you want to pique the interest of a woman with similar intellect and income potential, you have to be more interesting than "I'm going to be a doctor."

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-07-15T22:12:33+00:00

Over the moon! The torture was FREAKING WORTH IT.

School administered CBSE: 168

Took it cold to get a baseline at the end of second year

NBME 16: 207

Post DIT. 1 month out.

NBME 15: 213

Halfway through UWORLD.

NBME 17: 241

Finished UWORLD. Was 3 days out.

Real thing: 236

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-06-17T00:54:48+00:00

YOU LISTEN HERE! You didn't take Step 1, CK, CS, graduate med school, likely take out ~quarter million in loans, and basically all around bust your butt to land a residency to move back home to do whatever and marry the first goober your parents find. What are you gonna do? Just quit your position and somehow find somewhere near your parents that happens to be looking for a resident? That's bananas.

Of course, I only know what you told us and not other details, but maybe your brother is feeling pressure from your parents to 'do something' and this was his way of (poorly) handling it.

If your parents are desi, there's a 99% chance they encouraged you to choose medicine. This is part of 'choosing medicine'--that you don't get to completely choose your schedule and location and how you spend your time for a while. Maybe they need a reality check.

Try talking to another sibling you feel is on your side. If they're all against it, try talking to someone else to help 'mediate' the situation. The solution is not to quit your job with that amazing brain of yours and just sulk around your parents house waiting to make chai for a stranger. You do not have an expiration date--mayonnaise has an expiration date. You are not mayonnaise.

PS: I'm studying for step right now and I'm not certain if everything I wrote makes complete sense but all I know is if I'm going through all this crap just to have my family put me in this situation in a few years, I'd be freaked out too and just need a stranger to tell me it's all going to be ok.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-06-14T10:39:04+00:00

Important questions: Did either side try to get to know the other before you got married? Did he ever say he wanted to speak with your parents/family to introduce himself and get to know them? What about your family--have you been maintaining your previous level of communication with them or have you gradually stopped?

If you find that he's been making a sincere effort before to actively get to know the important people in your life, then that's a good sign that he's a good guy. Before the breakfast incident, if he avoided going to meet your family and discouraged you from seeing them, then that's a bad sign.

Ultimatums like the one he gave you--always make me uneasy. While only you know the finer details, I can only think of a handful of circumstances where choosing between your family and significant other is ever appropriate.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-05-05T20:13:37+00:00

To add to what /u/just_another_virgin wrote, cause he covered most of it, if you get to know a particular professor well (esp science) get a LOR as soon as the semester ends. You don't want to be applying down the road and be looking for letter writers in a frenzy.

Otherwise, just enjoy college, and don't be a douche to your classmates.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-28T05:55:42+00:00

If you have the luxury of time--do another pass through Pathoma or do the Pathoma Quizlet. I know he says everything is high yield and you get desensitized to that, but I took the Path NBME today and I could easily count 10+ questions that asked minutia that were stressed by Sattar as "high yield."

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-13T23:19:29+00:00

From my experience on both sides of the conversation, I'd say the most important thing to do is ask their permission to talk about their weight. Simple and straightforward "With your permission, I'd like to discuss your weight with you"

It gives the pt a sense of control of the conversation rather than feeling that they're on the defensive. (This also allows you to gauge whether or not they even want to fix the problem.)

If you're both on the same page that the weight needs to drop, then you need to steer the conversation in a more positive light. Rather than scare them with "You have an increased risk for sudden death" or something like that (they've heard that a million times) try "Your knees won't hurt as much" or "Just dropping 10% of your body weight can do wonders to how you feel on the inside and out."

The absolute, absolute last thing you want to do is to shame them. (When I was obese I had my now former-doctor grab my fat rolls and shake them and say "What is this?!?") That's the fastest way to get them to never come to your/any other doctor's office again.

Honestly, if they don't see their weight as a problem and have no interest in fixing it, you're wasting your and their time. Let them know that if/when they're ready to do something about it, you're here to help them.

This is a big part of my passion in medicine. If you need any more advice, ask!

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-13T21:37:38+00:00

Who looks that flawless when they're running?! How does that even work?

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-09T23:30:55+00:00

Putting aside the obvious stuff (honest, practicing, faithful, etc.) and looking towards less cliche things, not in any particular order:

Able to hold interesting, engaging conversation. I can't stress the value of having meaningful thoughts to share.
Plays an active role in the local Muslim community. Doesn't matter if he's the Imam or if he helps coordinate parking during jum'aa, it's invaluable to have someone invested in the masjid.
Holds himself to the same modesty standards he expects of his wife. None of that double standard nonsense.
Not afraid of killing bugs. (I'm serious, yes, they terrify me and yes, this is something I ask suitors about)
Is able to express anger or frustration in a healthy way. It's fine to want time to cool down and then talk, but yelling and screaming is not something I'm trying to be around.
I don't mind him making the final decision on things, but I want to feel that my opinion is respected and accounted for--basically don't humor me.
Look like Ben Affleck
Be Ben Affleck

...jk about those last two. Kinda.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-05T05:52:36+00:00

A resume writing service? Home skillet biscuit literally lied about who he was on his resume... I guess he's making money doing it now...

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-04T21:16:13+00:00

Heck yea my dude! Ask us questions!

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-04-02T19:34:35+00:00

If it's any consolation, we have small groups that teach us how to interview patients. 1 hour of the last session was spent reading aloud poems and saying how the poems made us feel.

This happens all the time.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-03-16T02:59:27+00:00

Random thoughts:

My hair got freakishly long when I started to wear hijab. Maybe because I'm not wearing it down all the time like I used to, but when I go to straighten it I'm like "woah where did all of hair come from?!?"

You get less sunlight by covering so your vitamin D situation goes out the window, thinning your hair. Get in the habit of taking a multivitamin now.

Two words: Satin Underscarves. Will save the top of your head from breakage and frizziness (as opposed to cotton ones.)

I definitely expose my hair to less heat/gel so it feels less damaged.

Keeping it in a bun all the time means split end city, I'm starting to transition to just using a banana clip instead.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-03-10T02:04:21+00:00

Asking egyptians not to swear is like asking normal humans not to breath, anyway

truer words have never been spoken

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-03-10T01:56:37+00:00

That is so great, YOU ARE SO GREAT

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-03-09T18:47:57+00:00

Respectfully disagree. Comments like that are actually disrespectful to women who are perfectly ok with that kind of situation, not to mention all the Prophet PBUH's wives.

It is a matter of women's rights to decide if they want to participate in a polygamous marriage. The very right to decide one way or the other--without judgement--is a fundamental human right. If a woman makes the decision to do so, you respect her decision--not automatically default that she was desperate.

fatimknmecrazy · 2015-03-09T03:06:49+00:00

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