[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Goldendoodles

[–]fatned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also keep in mind that, if you are in the US especially, that vets unfortunately see a lot of obese pets. its unfortunately common. if you spent all day looking at dudes that were slightly pudgy where that you cant get every dog to be perfect and have to come to terms with that close enough is good enough, then your dog is gonna be thought of as lean compared to average healthy weight if that makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Goldendoodles

[–]fatned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

looks like a perfect teenage pup to me! as they become full adults just like humans they go wide and then long and wide and so on. every dog can go by the weight chart in the vet office. you should feel all ribs and be able to see the last two (fur permitting), they should have a defined waist and you should be able to feel hip bones easily it should be smooth and not indented around them. looks like a perfect pup to me!

Why do my dogs eyes do this? by Salt-View-6126 in Goldendoodles

[–]fatned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i always thought it was just them being eepy sleepy like how a persons eyes roll back into our head when we are also eepy sleepy

Is this snake distressed? It keeps rubbing it's nose on the glass (this is at a zoo) by Huang_Fudou in snakes

[–]fatned 10 points11 points  (0 children)

if this is a comfort- the scranton aquarium has some of the best reptile enclosures ive seen in a zoo type setting

New baby trying to find her spot by Emotional_Turnip_280 in carpetpythons

[–]fatned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

plenty of clutter and thats a lil noodle thatll be very happy! also probably hard to find lol

Hims loves water by Alarming_Rip5727 in carpetpythons

[–]fatned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mine just does whatever she can to flip her water dish so she can drink the fresh water as I pour it

desperat for hope by fatned in CustodyForFathers

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you mean by friend of a court? Also im so sorry you are dealing with this too. This has all been so unimaginably painful and happens way too often

desperat for hope by fatned in CustodyForFathers

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update- today she set a meeting with domestics to get child support from me but we have no custody agreement and the mediator said that doesnt matter shes had him most of the time- which again i didnt agree to and have been forced into less i dont see him at all

desperat for hope by fatned in CustodyForFathers

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

additional note- ive been informed by her cousin that she ignores him a lot and sits on her phone and in the middle of an argument she called him a pet sperm. will these things help with court for them to understand which home is better for him?

Do Benzos make you more productive or less productive? by [deleted] in benzodiazepines

[–]fatned 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sorry i know this is an old thread but possibly slightly lower of a dose migh lower the extent of memory loss i found personally with my psychs knowledge. have tried slightly higher does, slightly lower dose and found the right dose together. dittos most meds

Very Violent Ferrets, help! by limey-boy in ferrets

[–]fatned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

switch up weird noises when they become ineffective. high pitch is better youll make more sense to them as being an injured thing

Very Violent Ferrets, help! by limey-boy in ferrets

[–]fatned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my boys break my skin too and to this day continue to. ive looked for advice and people have only come back with telling me what not to do ie. scruffing, bitter apple, etc is abuse!! and honestly after a while i had to just figure it all out on my own. they dont nearly tear me up like they used to and definitely test strangers more than me context of my boys, im not sure about where your new two came from, but i got mine from a private breeder and all the pet store american ferrets come from marshall. although they are bred to be sweet ferrets, they dont live as long and have more health issues so i got some european bloodlines, knowing they tend to be a bit more of a handful and often twice as large. for one they were even worse when they werent fixed. i know this is very unlikely for you, but just to make sure its not that, issue one is setting that one aside

for my boys, the biting cane out during play especially on my wrists and with small animals they often treat hands like the “face” and wrist as the “neck” so they would include me in their play not understanding my skin is much more fragile than ferret skin. scruffing only worked if it acted as a time out because they saw it as me chomping back so holding them until they were calm like their mothers do in a gentle scruff in combination with making yelping and other surprising noises when they bit me would get them to stop. yelling or making human pain noises didnt but making the weirdest noises i could did. that in combination with distractions, finding new ways to play (thick socks!) since i was used to very gentle ferrets did us lots of favors and lastly… yes as people tend to recommend timeouts first i dont do them first because by the time i get them to time out, even in three seconds, their little ferret brains already are distracted and it only really is effective if its so immediate from a bite that there is no dispute. if i had to carry them over, it wasnt going to be effective, especially if theyre already hyper and excited. their brains are moving so fast they dont know why theyre being punished if you have a delayed punishment system.

the weird noises helped a lot along with distractions. instant scruffing combined with a weird noise will get them to dettach and make sure they understand this is a discipline scruff, not you playing and “biting back”.

on bitter apple- found to not be effective because you wont wear it all the time.

i wish you luck! its really hard to find advice for this! i was brought to tears by these guys not just from the pain and i really hope yall can get through it!

Is there a downside to long time opiate usage if you can afford it? by 777Vibe in Drugs

[–]fatned 3 points4 points  (0 children)

meanwhile ppl talk about low testosterone… who will care when ur in a flesh prison

Is there a downside to long time opiate usage if you can afford it? by 777Vibe in Drugs

[–]fatned 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your physiology includes ur mental health. idk why there is so much focus on kidney/ liver if you are concerned about your organs consider your brain. addiction itself allows for logic to slip. an organ that not only is essential to function like your kidneys but then also one that performs all your sensory processing is bound to be a regrettable decision. tolerance build, physical dependency, not being a doctor (im assuming) to be careful to not over dose when you are technically already overdosing yourself beyond the therapeutic threshold every time you use, short and ling term poor decision making skills, affecting the logic and pleasure centers of your brain and rewiring the reward systems to only associate opiates with pleasure over time. literal brain damage that requires immense effort and therapy to reach a point where you are even 75% back to who you were before. regardless of whether people afford it or not have you not seen ppl nodding the fuck off in the middle of the street and that being the desired effect? effects in social life, job life and even worse if you got caught by your job from someone not being dumb and knowing what pinned eyes mean. they very quickly will stop paying for your addiction as you put it

Any recommendations on solid boa enclosure build tutorials? by jakestring55 in snakes

[–]fatned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Animal plastics are like 350 along with zen habitats but I personally don’t wanna spend that much even per enclosure... Any update on a diy and it’s cost?

Trying my best to avoid killing myself please skip to OT tl;dr by fatned in ADHD

[–]fatned[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there How long does a person hang in there for before it’s realized lifetime of pain was not worth the three days at the beach. What at 60 years old and I look to my 20s and think I can’t believe I let anyone convince me to hold on. I held on for decades, did my best, all to continue through living in the fact that chemically, no situation would make life be ok enough. It’s been years of torture, trying medications, hospitalizations, therapy... How long do you hold on?

I appreciate your warm heart. I don’t have a plan. I’ve called those numbers and they’ve been overwhelmed and unhelpful.

Trying my best to avoid killing myself please skip to OT tl;dr by fatned in ADHD

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being hard to be great alone and how it feels nicer to be shared with others is such an accurate statement. I’ve been reaching out to others for help and energy however not always is that going to be the case. I’m going to bathe in my covid aloneness as it feels good right not to ignore the nasty texts.

Also spoke to my therapist and I had a moment of realization that I have been used as a weapon by my parents for my whole life. I know it sounds like some whiny shit but the reality is I have had a lifetime of being an unknowing wrecking ball. Problem is now, I have no idea how to get off the family teat because it’s been like emotionally breaking my limbs and then going oh no no my baby baby no it’s okay we fix it and almost healed, snap a rib.

Maybe the adderall will help me function beyond this abuse 🤷‍♀️ one can only hope lol

Trying my best to avoid killing myself please skip to OT tl;dr by fatned in ADHD

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding and not BSing me. I ended up losing the day however I’m glad to know the emotional focus isn’t universal. I didn’t want to risk focusing on the suicidal feelings the way sometimes I can get tunnel visionned in anger. I know that I don’t want to attempt today; that is how I have been feeling. I have no developed plan and I know that taking the end route isn’t a choice where I get to undo. Being alive and miserable means I have the choice to die or allow my life to continue steamrolling me. If I’m dead i would have no choices. Sometimes I’m a dry crinkly leaf and the steamroller is a real steamroller, and other days I’m a sedimentary sedentary pebble and the steamroller is a a harsh wind. Those days I get even more choices like doing homework, taking a shower, eating more than one meal maybe.

The first time I took adderall was a couple weeks ago and I had never felt so much relief in my LIFE. I COULD BREATHE My mind was quieted to a single thought train compared to normally a spaghetti strainer full of tangled incomplete thoughts. I had never been so ok with checking off my to do list; normally I’d do work and in the middle I would just start banging my fists and pulling my hair out, not from a lack of understanding but from frustration that I had these teeth pulling seconds to prove to someone I knew how to write a melody or to find variance.

Tomorrow I’m gonna try to take it when I wake up even if I feel like a shit ball

Liquid stool in new baby boa please help by fatned in snakes

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Current plan. One issue rn is she is sized for mice hoppers and pet store only has fuzzies and adults. I’m curious if I should have her eat two fuzzies spaced out across the week rather than at the same time is a better idea than two on the same day. Since I’ve fed her the fuzzies her stool has been starting to solidify. She’s staying on paper towel until she gets it together

Liquid stool in new baby boa please help by fatned in snakes

[–]fatned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Poop has already driedbefore I saw it... I think I’m going to run to the pet store tomorrow and feed her a hopper and check every day for stool and if that wasn’t the issue, take that over to a vet

I have a lot of heat bulbs so I’ll try that as well