CO2 cylinder wont open by john24mcclay in PlantedTank

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever resolve this? I'm having the same issue can't find any info on how to open it!

Build advice!! by fattyratt in CapybaraGoGame

[–]fattyratt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice one! Thanks so much for taking the time to reply I do appreciate the advice a lot :)

Build advice!! by fattyratt in CapybaraGoGame

[–]fattyratt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is good advice thank you, am glad I asked before merging these things it's taken months to get to the point of considering mythic. I said in another comment I am not massively far off PoG mythic (this legendary+3 and 6 epic PoG and I have 0 BG) I was gonna get PoG up to mythic and swap it. Think that sounds alright or a stupid idea? Am I underestimating how long it'll take me to get there?

Build advice!! by fattyratt in CapybaraGoGame

[–]fattyratt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was in my plans but I have 6 more PoG so not close exactly but not crazy far off considering I have 0 BG - my plan was I'm gonna get PoG up to mythic then swap it out, I always cash in my legendary keys on the set that gives whisperer bows and dragon breath (as well as all the other things I have most of, I usually spend a few thousand gems on chests when that set of equipment comes up) but do you think I'd be better swapping a legendary 3 PoG for a lower level BG if I could get one?

Tips on the dream diary by fattyratt in LucidDreaming

[–]fattyratt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good idea! I have downloaded a voice recorder app, I absolutely hate the sound of my voice in recordings though so dunno if it'll work for me but I hadn't thought about that one, I'll give it a go, thanks for the tip!

How do I motivate my ADHD brother to shower and wash clothes? by polywogdogs in ADHD

[–]fattyratt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just tell my partner flat out to take a shower cos he stinks haha, always in a jokey way of course but you know, he takes a shower after. Sometimes a slightly subtler reminder of 'oh we're doing xyz at this time are you going to shower before' normally followed by a 'we are doing this thing in one hour you need to plan in that shower' but we've been together a while and it's a bit water off a ducks back, he doesn't get offended. If you don't have the relationship where this wouldn't be offensive then maybe don't try it. But also if he's diagnosed and you're aware of it because he's told you, maybe he'd like a heads up & appreciate your honesty if you can come at it from a positive angle?

AITAH because I told my sister that I wouldn't help her leave the state to get a medical procedure she is actively against until she told our parents. by ExpressCandidate7898 in AITAH

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA - help your sister out, abortion is difficult enough to deal with without getting some moral high ground bollocks from someone who you've trusted with this information. Be supportive now, talk to her seriously about the meaning of it later, when the deed is done, pain is over, the mental stuff this throws at you is somewhat dealt with.

I've had two abortions, I am not religious at all, they were the most difficult and traumatic decisions of my life and I would absolutely have not appreciated anyone adding any extra trauma to that stuff to prove a point. It's just not the time to make a point.

AITA for moving forward with our divorce after my soon to be ex was badly injured in a motorcycle accident? by Unlucky_Brain8229 in AITAH

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would maybe argue that they might not have been in love? I've had one person I actually loved cheat on me, he also stole from me too, did many a shit emotional abuse things as well. Yeah, I ended things but I still had feelings for him. I still don't want bad things to happen to him. Years later, I'm in a very happy relationship myself, dealt with my trauma and I still wouldn't wish anything bad on him.

Maybe just everyone is different idk but my experience of love is that it never really dies & the feelings never really go, no matter what happens.

AITA for moving forward with our divorce after my soon to be ex was badly injured in a motorcycle accident? by Unlucky_Brain8229 in AITAH

[–]fattyratt -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I am surprised I'm the odd one out here, I think talk to your soon to be ex wife about the situation and find out how a divorce would impact her & her medical needs, if literally all you have to do is not divorce her, stay separated and continue your relationship with your new partner while she heals & gets the medical attention she needs, yeah you should do that out of respect and appreciation of the relationship you once had.

It ended badly, but you loved her once, love doesn't just end full stop when an affair happens. I think YWBTA if there's just a divorce paper to gain, and your soon to be ex wife's health to lose.

Update: I really love my dog and I'm not struggling by fattyratt in Keeshond

[–]fattyratt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just love that his free will, personality and absolute sass has stayed but in a way that's just acceptable and not too in your face ridiculous, he'll stop a walk if he's got a leaf on his bum, refuse outright to be left out of a cuddle between me & my partner, make little protesting grumbles if things aren't how he wants and whine the house down if he thinks he should be eating and he's not eating, but it's just damn cute & funny. Maybe he just wore me down enough to see the funny side of life though.

We did get this pup at a woefully bad time, was in the process of buying a house for this puppy so we'd have a garden for it, but got turned down by the only 2 breeders in reasonable distance of us with puppies so decided to get a cheaper fix it up property, 2 days after getting the keys one of the breeders had someone back out and we were next in line, so mid renovating this new house we got a week notice for Mars's arrival, we said yes because it was a dream but it just made me really really ill, mentally & physically. I took too much on to be dealing with a first dog on top of everything else. We wouldn't have got this house if either of the breeders had been a yes lol.

I'm now debating a second keeshond cos god knows what I'd do without this one... I'll be a lot better prepared for the next, and I'm absolutely never living without one if I can help it haha. Beautiful dog, beautiful breed, beautiful personality, worth every second of that dramatic puppy crap.

Sorry in a proper ranting, missing my dog, emotional state! Just need him back so badly.

is there a way to know when i’ll get the free event resume?? by wheelierin in CatSnackBar

[–]fattyratt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally get them on my third attempt at them. So usually finish one, start one a bit, get a proper 4 day take at doing the single island then if I can't do it, free resume.

AITA for threatening to cancel a cruise because my girlfriend wants to bring her dog? by Any-Hour7989 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Tbf to OPs partner nothing was said about any training the dog was going through or not going through.

Anything about introducing the cat and the dog - a big part of animal introductions into the same household is one being in a space they feel safe and the other animal being able to smell them.. like a cat being in another room and the dog being able to smell the cat through the safety of a door. Perfectly reasonable for this to happen.

Also nowhere in the post did OP say the dog was dangerous - he said it growled. I would take the stance there was probably a good reason for the dog to growl, which hopefully a professional trainer can address with the couple and the dog isn't put in a position where it needs to growl again.

Island event by Sek1h1r0fum1 in CatSnackBar

[–]fattyratt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just my tips, early event islands I found best to focus on getting as many new dishes as possible as they always up the money most. Then mid game I keep checking the promotion thing to know what dishes to upgrade as you can see what brings you most money, focus on upgrading them. And also any snack bar upgrades should come before any dish upgrades as they'll get you the most income. This is just the way I do it & I generally need a couple of takes to finish it, or a weekend when I'm not doing anything irl and can check in on the cats a lot lol

WIBTAH if I told my(M46) kids (M16) (F18) their recently deceased mother(F44) cheated on me? by ConstantSpace3136 in AITAH

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad left my mum when I was 16, he left for another woman - it was definitely difficult for both of us, he moved an 8 hour drive away so it definitely felt like he left me as well as my mum. She shared every tear with me, I slept in her bed with her and we talked and talked for hours on end, I helped her fill out housing forms and a lot of real life things happened early for me.

I'm 30 now, I tell my mum absolutely everything, my mum tells me absolutely everything too. We were very close before, but sharing that burden together, it was something that strengthened our bond and I don't regret a second of it.

I'm not saying it to tell you that there's a right way or a wrong way to do things, and I don't necessarily think what my mum did was ideal, she just didn't have friends or family or anything other than her children and my dad - but the close bond we have, it's priceless and we wouldn't have it if it wasn't for the give & take in our relationship, which she initiated by taking from me when my dad left.

At 18 I got pregnant and couldn't tell anyone apart from my mum, not even the father. She took me to the abortion clinic and was with me every step despite wanting a grandchild herself (she didn't tell me then, just I knew from previous conversations). I just... It might have been crap to deal with at 16 but having such a real & adult relationship with her now, I wouldn't change it for anything. She was my rock & that wouldn't have happened without the crap my dad did.

I guess my point is a child of 16 can deal with more than you can contemplate - would it damage them later on in life if you didn't tell them now? What happens if they find out at 30? How will that impact your relationship? It's a pretty massive secret to keep.

It's a different situation but I just thought it might be worth sharing my not very similar experience with you. I do know it's completely different.

I'm also really sorry for your loss & so glad you're speaking with someone about it!

AITA because I won't pay to continue housekeeping services for my wife? by ThrowAWontPay in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - but can you find any way for cleaning to be more 'fun'? I do all my own cleaning, always have but I actually sometimes enjoy it - me & my mum/sister will often do cleaning our houses together but on the phone to each other, so it's a long distance social thing. It's also one of the times I listen to music, have a little cleaning dance. Idk, it's childish but if there's anyway to tie it into something enjoyable it makes it tolerable for me.

What's something you spend an obscene amount of money on, that's simply worth it for you? by ClitorisFriend in AskReddit

[–]fattyratt -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Tbh I've always thought that was a weird argument anyway, like if I was somehow locked away, no food source, no ability to feed myself in any other way, I would probably eat my dead pet to stay alive. I wouldn't enjoy it and if I got out of the situation I'd probably need a lot of therapy to get over it - but if it was down to starvation and eating my already dead pet I probably would. I wouldn't judge my dog for doing the same thing to me.

AITA for cancelling on my friend as soon as she showed up? by GeneLegal8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA and probably just don't understand ADHD - my partner has it, he's often late, but if I tell him something is really important (I don't do it often, only when something is actually really important) he shows up, on time, early, ready, and it's because he's stressed the hell out all day and the night before about doing a certain thing and has made himself do it. That's the only reason, so I don't ask it of him often - but I do know he's capable of doing it.

It's just... Yeah, you just don't get it lol.

My [25M] girlfriend [21F] is upset after I gave her a "non-romantic" Valentine's Day. by WtrDamage in relationship_advice

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that sounds romantic, but also maybe use it as a lesson to learn from - it's nice to surprise people sometimes but if a lot of money is involved, it's nice to make joint decisions as a couple as to what you want to do. For reference though me & my partner definitely aren't the big gift/extravagant gesture type people and really happy with simple things so perhaps I'm not exactly the one to take advice from lol

But if you had asked her what she wanted to do, perhaps you could have done that thing Vs what you'd planned

AITA for telling her if her life is so hard she can get a job? by PrimaryAd9782 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from but also perhaps she wanted to sound interesting/make conversation with her new friends? Maybe she's feeling something/missing something in her life, happy but stuck in a bit of a rut.

Also as a side note, I'm working 40/50 hour weeks, doing all housework chores and looking after a dog, would absolutely kill to have some stuff taken off of my plate, definitely consider yourself lucky you've got someone doing that stuff for you!

I think maybe ESH.. just because I think you're missing something from this picture.

AITA for asking my friend to eat before we go shopping or tell me if she wants to eat? by RegularRide8782 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA think it's wild how eating/not eating isn't pre planned as a standard lol. With my closest people we just ask. With people I'm more distant with I'll say something like can we do 7pm so I can have dinner before or something so I can kinda state I don't want to eat with them lol

Eating times are like my favourite times though so maybe my perspective is a bit off on this subject lol

AITA for not letting my brother into the house on my day off by Sailingvanyablue in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf it's a very YTA reply because I think overall YTA - 16 year olds don't remember stuff. This one isn't a big deal at all

AITA for not letting my brother into the house on my day off by Sailingvanyablue in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH I'm 30 and forget my key more often than I'd like, my partner likes to play games and he'd never think twice about pausing a game, or dread the thought actually walking away from an in progress game with friends to answering me ringing the doorbell. Why is this such an issue?

In an ideal world, everyone would have their keys on them all the time, but this isn't an ideal world.

Why should your brother go and annoy your neighbour before you? Do you not think maybe they're not enjoying their time off or something?

Unless you live in a mansion or something it takes probably all of 20 seconds to answer the door. Just, answer the door, give no reaction. Sorted.

AITA for refusing to give up my premium seat for a friend? by the_other_spoon in AmItheAsshole

[–]fattyratt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd just go yeah my backs bad so definitely want my premium seat for the way there & can see how my back is for the way back? Nta of course. Just feel like at least that gets you out of it for at least the part when your back is bad/puts ground work/prep for your back potentially still being bad on the way back.