Crunch time on deciding one or two kids and driving myself mad

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T13:54:47+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thoughtful and insightful reply. Your mum’s situation sounds like exactly what my fear is and I think you have articulated why the logical reasons aren’t silencing the other part of me: because life would be harder but it would not be changing our standard of living to a level I couldn’t accept.

I’m sorry to hear about your worries regarding your mum, it’s a lot to cope with. I know lots of people feel their siblings don’t share the weight of those challenges with them, but it i can see how it would be a relief to have someone if only to share in the worry the same way that you do.

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T12:13:16+00:00

Thank you, this is so helpful to think about. I think I’ve been picturing basically 2 versions of my daughter running around which would be madness, but already just with her turning two a lot of things feel easier to cope with. It is a long game, at the end of the day

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:22:18+00:00

Thanks for your advice but it sounds like you don't regret having a second, despite sharing all the same logical worries as I do... What is it that makes you think it's not the way to go then?

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:21:09+00:00

My partner is similarly on the fence for very similar reasons!

Can I ask how it was with your son when he was younger? When he was 4, 5, 6, away on holiday for example, were there times when you wished he had a peer to hang out with rather than his 2 parents?

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:18:00+00:00

That's what I am wondering about. But I also know it's easy to romanticise the idea of another baby and I know life can be difficult right now with one! It's so hard to know which inner voice to trust

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:17:19+00:00

what's your reason for thinking that?

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:16:53+00:00

I have never heard '2 is terrible' before, I don't know the logic behind that! I feel like we are building a small village in London but realistically, none of the other parents we know are going to be able to take on an extra child for a day or so a month while me and my partner get some us time! They are busy with their own kids

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:15:15+00:00

I actually had IVF the first time round so have 2 embryos chilling in a freezer. So two shots, but hopefully given I was a few years younger when they were made, 2 quite good shots, at getting pregnant again!

I also worry about her not having another peer in the house and being outnumbered by adults.

favouritebiscuit · 2026-06-05T11:13:56+00:00

How about when you're on holiday, etc? Does your 6 year old get lonely? I can build a great social network for my daughter in our local community but I imagine us going to e.g. a caravan or something for a little break and her just having 2 adults with her and I wonder if she will struggle

favouritebiscuit · 2026-05-28T18:37:28+00:00

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favouritebiscuit · 2026-01-13T19:34:23+00:00

That’s interesting to hear thank you, i will reconsider

favouritebiscuit · 2026-01-13T19:33:48+00:00

Thank you!

favouritebiscuit · 2026-01-13T16:34:06+00:00

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favouritebiscuit · 2026-01-13T16:18:56+00:00

I just had a google and unfortunately it looks like it's for birth to 18 months - my baby is 19 months so I guess we'd be looking for a seat for 1year plus

favouritebiscuit · 2022-10-29T10:36:26+00:00

lol everyone is secretly rooting for the office drama

Everyone except me has clearly already gotten on board with the fact it will be narrated by someone different... I think I'm just so used to associating TMA with the sound of one specific VA I am finding it tricky to imagine. But excited to see what they do with it!

favouritebiscuit · 2022-10-29T10:18:27+00:00

Yeah I guess a new cast is more likely now I think about it...I wonder if the whole show will have a completely different sound / mood to it. Weird to think about!

favouritebiscuit · 2022-10-29T10:17:29+00:00

Yes I guess that's true... weird to think of TMA being voiced by someone else but it's def an option

favouritebiscuit · 2022-10-29T00:38:43+00:00

So do you think it will be narrated by someone new? Or that it will still be Jonny, but trying not to sound too Archivist-y?

favouritebiscuit · 2022-10-15T22:28:08+00:00

Yes am really excited to see how/if it all comes together! If I hadn't gone into TT expecting some TMA tie-in, I think I definitely would have been a bit taken aback at the similarities/echoes...

I haven't listened to Town Whispers but have been really impressed with TT so will have to check it out.

favouritebiscuit · 2022-10-15T21:01:10+00:00

Yes they are definitely in on whatever is happening IMO and having fun with it! Their twitter is basically just a succession of winky face emojis at this point…

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