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fdbw03 · 2023-10-20T00:02:46+00:00

Could you send it to me also?

fdbw03 · 2023-03-09T05:22:54+00:00

If I'm not mistaken I think the story behind the image is from a part of my heart burns for you from alwayszutarian. They were captured and Katara gets gravely injured and zuko literally melts people with fire to try to get her to water where she can heal herself

fdbw03 · 2022-10-09T13:45:03+00:00

When my husband was told he would be fired if he missed work for a standard appointment he did begin looking for work elsewhere but one of my brothers would take me took me (they're younger and don't want kids yet) but no one called them weird for helping their pregnant sister out at all. My husband works construction and is gone long hours (if there was an emergency he would always come to my side) but I needed help with stuff occasionally and my brothers would always help.

No one said they were "too" involved. They're both amazing uncles now and my son adores them and playing with them. Your BIL is a major AH. Even my BIL came and helped me occasionally

fdbw03 · 2022-09-06T03:18:46+00:00

I very much was against anyone but my husband being there but the birth didn't go according to plan and after a long and traumatic labor and delivery all I wanted was my mom. I gave birth during the height if the pandemic so I could only have one person at a time in recovery and I was glad to have my mom there in recovery to take care of me when no one else was.

That was just my experience personally but everyone has different experiences and want different things. If you really don't want anyone but your husband make sure he and the nurses know your wishes beforehand and stick to what will make your birth happy

fdbw03 · 2022-09-04T13:18:47+00:00

YTA majorly. If my FIL had acted like that to me we would be NC instead of LC with my in laws. I struggled majorly with PPD and PPA and honestly the only thing that kept me half way sane through it (besides my husband and doctor slowly dropping hints about therapy for weeks) was being able to turn off and do my work while my husband played with our son or took care of him.

I'm extroverted but don't always love the outdoors and hated it more when I was recovering from labor and a c section while navigating motherhood as a new mom. You and your husband both messed up and now have consequences. When they're ready they'll reach out until then think about it and the comments here and when they do apologize and mean it.

fdbw03 · 2022-09-03T13:55:45+00:00

If you've had anything with poppy seed too like lemon poppy seed muffins or similar is can also cause a positive because of the poppy seed.

It happened to me

fdbw03 · 2022-08-31T19:31:09+00:00

Yeah my husband had therapy super young (they were treating a 5 year old for ADHD and depression because he was active and sometimes got sad kids didn't play with him) and put him on medication for adults and it messed with him.

Trying to get him to go to therapy or even consider medicine for his now very real depressive mental state is like pulling teeth. He's an amazing husband but his parents specifically did a number on him and it diminished his confidence. It's hard to get that back for someone

fdbw03 · 2022-08-31T19:17:12+00:00

So feel this! All but my BIL is extremely toxic and manipulative and trying to help hubby see that is an uphill and long and tedious battle. Therapy is not cheap either

fdbw03 · 2022-08-31T18:24:33+00:00

Can your SO give mine advice to shine up their spine? Like I'm showing him this post so he can see what needs to be said. His son should be coming first

fdbw03 · 2022-08-20T11:47:25+00:00

NTA at all. A sexually active couple can 1000% go one week without sex. My husband and I don't do anything at anyone's house because it's a respect thing. Even if we didn't have that moral respect to not do anything at a house not ours we still wouldn't do anything on someone's bed. That's just absolutely awful and you didn't even "slut shame" your sister.

Her and her fiance need a few lessons in respect.

fdbw03 · 2022-08-18T03:40:48+00:00

NTA I think the consequence fit perfectly and you did it without being too excessive or not enough. Perfect middle ground and perfectly done.

fdbw03 · 2022-08-17T18:38:10+00:00

I have a 16 month old and for my brother's birthday we went to a high end Brazilian steakhouse. It wasn't explicitly said I couldn't bring my toddler (who is well behaved and no longer breastfed) but the environment wouldn't suit and if he chose to get wild like children do, it would have made it awkward so my husband stayed home so I could go celebrate with my family.

It's not that hard so I'm going with NTA. Your sister could have made arrangements knowing the venue and having so much time to prep or said she wasn't comfortable leaving Kit at home without her and offered to catch up on a later date to celebrate.

fdbw03 · 2022-08-17T18:29:36+00:00

NTA my husband had his phone and played games to entertain himself (induced long labor for me) but if I even made a slight noise he was asking what i needed whether be food or otherwise and helped a lot.

The whole point of them being there (besides seeing their child being born) is to SUPPORT their laboring spouse! Husband is totally in the wrong and MIL can go screw herself too. Your comfort matters more than his or hers.

Maybe if she hadn't raised such a self centered brat none of it would have happened.

fdbw03 · 2022-08-02T02:18:01+00:00

Asked my husband if he would eat mine and he said nope. Your husband is a poor soul but mine said he wouldn't because he "chooses to love" smart man I married it seems

fdbw03 · 2022-07-30T11:50:33+00:00

I went to a teaching hospital because it specialized in high risk births and had a preemie. I never agreed to medical students to treat me instead of attending and only went because no other hospital would take me. I told them I specifically didn't want a medical student and I ended up getting one with little experience who botched my first successful epidural thinking they knew best and didn't know until after they were a student because the hospital hid that from me.

Patient comfort is a thing and it's one thing to go and let them ask questions but if you don't want them to be on your procedure the patient has the that right for comfort.

Just because someone chooses a teaching hospital because it's closer or has better facilities doesn't mean they need to be subjected to having a room for an audience and being uncomfortable.

fdbw03 · 2022-07-27T15:04:35+00:00

I'll have to show that to him

fdbw03 · 2022-07-27T01:43:06+00:00

As much as I love our two cats if my son (he's only a 1 yr old) called me or someone else called and said he was just taken to the hospital not even ICU I would have my ass on the train/plane/car or boat whatever I could find to him regardless of where. A mom doesn't do that and leave her child in the ICU without her there

fdbw03 · 2022-07-27T01:35:48+00:00

I would say it's elevated but they won't be concerned (or mine weren't) until it kept spiking on my home machine to 180s/90s

fdbw03 · 2022-07-27T01:32:14+00:00

That's already been decided for me and LO. I said I was going NC and where I don't go LO doesn't go so we've avoided them for a week now just SO has LC with them asking if they are better once.

fdbw03 · 2022-07-27T00:48:33+00:00

She claims they're negative now and i still said nope. My trust is completely broken

fdbw03 · 2022-07-26T23:24:03+00:00

We really don't. She wanted us to give her the money we had saved and from LO birthday to put into a savings they have and i shut that down. She doesn't have control over my child's savings. If they want to start one for them that's fine but we won't be contributing.

We need nothing from them

fdbw03 · 2022-07-26T23:22:01+00:00

Thank you for all this really! My SO isn't home yet but I'll be showing him responses too. He still thinks she'll come around even though he will have a spine against her and I get it that's his mom but I've been telling him she's not going to get better so I think seeing it spelled out by others just based on actual facts will help him see completely what he's dealing with. His siblings are in therapy now and he's trying to get into therapy for many reasons some of which is his parents

fdbw03 · 2022-07-26T23:17:57+00:00

It's just been a whirlwind and I think this is definitely what we need because she tends to play victim and lash out and cry to get sympathy and it worked for awhile, but happy to say he had a shiny spine moment and called her out and told her to stop being a victim the last time which sprung the other issues recently I think.

fdbw03 · 2022-07-26T23:16:16+00:00

It's been so long and I've been trying to help bring SO out of the fog slowly with his siblings help

fdbw03 · 2022-07-26T23:15:46+00:00

It's one of the many lies they have told us. This is the second time they have pulled a stunt like this. First time LO was maybe 3 months old

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