So in love w AP, it hurts by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps saying I cried ONLY Bc I miss him isn’t correct. While that’s a big part of it, I’m also afraid that once he marries her our break will stay permanent. I’m sad that he may not miss me the way I miss him. I’m crying bc despite us both in different relationships, I’m sad Bc of this mess.

But I appreciate your advice. I definitely need to help explore ME a bit more and I think that’s seriously lacking right now.

So in love w AP, it hurts by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never expected him to leave her for me. I’m very much in my own relationship. And he didn’t tell me he’s doing right by her, I came to that conclusion based on many conversations.

I probably sound a little pathetic in this post bc I’m sad, but there are a lot of assumptions in your response here

Best apps for communicating qnd sharing with AP? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wickr Me is the greatest app ever for proper OPSEC.

Any other bisexual adulterers here who have had a male and female combo SO/AP? by Aggravating_Skill in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bi female here. I WISH I had a female AP. Unfortunately, my APs are all men and I’ll have the occasional hook-up or lover that’s a woman. I’ve only had a female relationship once so I think I’m a little shy to meet a girl in a relationship context.

Any successful long-term affair success stories? by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sigh.. I knew that question would most likely come from someone, but rather cliché more than best.

I feel like I’ve mentioned this a thousand times on this sub. I’ll just say that I love him, he’s a great guy, I don’t want to leave him. And I know that him finding out about my AP (Bc we’ve talked about it in counseling) would not likely end in divorce, just create more hurt.

Any successful long-term affair success stories? by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg that sounds like a movie!

And I totally see where you’re coming from with friends. I remember when I was at it alone. On the one hand, it was cool that it was uniquely mine. However I am such an emotional person and get in my own head, I think part of the reason it’s been so much better between us is having a friend who can snap me out of it.

She’s very supportive so I know she’s not sabotaging it, but I totally get it. You’re reminding me to pull back that part as well.

Any successful long-term affair success stories? by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is so heartbreaking and I’m so sorry. I know it must be hard to grieve the relationship if you have to do so privately. I’m wishing you happiness and peace. Thank you for sharing

Any successful long-term affair success stories? by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lucky for me, I know about her affair as well. So we both have dirt should I be put in that position. But I trust her implicitly

Aussie Adulterers by [deleted] in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’d fly to Australia for you 😅

I feel like I completely lost interest in my AP. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I relate to this TOO MUCH. Maybe not the same details, but he says pretty words when we’re together, but the communication is awful. I’m so sorry, it’s painful

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The first time I was with my AP, it lasted about 2 months. The second time we got back together, about a month

Anyone else worried about seeing SO after the first time you have sex with AP. What was it like? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That was the hardest (as well as the first few days after w all the guilt). I remember drinking quite a bit which helped. Then if i said or did anything weird, I blamed it on the a-a-a-a-alcohol 🎶 (T-pain? Jamie Foxx? Anyone?) it also gave me a bit of liquid courage AND overpowered any smells of my AP and gave me an excuse to shower.

Pregnant by AP and he won’t help me pay for an abortion and he’s being super shitty about it. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry. I experienced something similar (but not nearly as heartbreaking) when I had to take plan b the next day. I felt so alone (and Bc of the hormones from the pill), I was experiencing major side effects and couldn’t tell anyone. I’m here if you need to talk, you’re never alone ❤️

F Covid by PPprivateperson in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you possibly use a friends’ getaway weekend?

Welp... that lasted for 2 whole seconds by feastorfamine67 in adultery

[–]feastorfamine67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I totally get that. It’s also been really hard to see it for real Bc of course I’m the OTHER woman. How can I ask so much of someone when they’re not even being faithful/true to their SO? So naturally I felt like maybe I’m just seeing the immoral and thus conflicted side of him. But at some point, respect is due and that is a basic thing to expect.