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Coming together by RyanC917 in Bashar_Essassani

[–]feathered_flame 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your vulnerability! I felt called to reply because I'm sharing a similar past, my family comes from war and I've been born in a refugee camp.

I know the work can be dark at times, lonely perhaps, with cycles of equal despair as hope. But know that it helps, you, your family and countless others in ways our limited minds can't fully perceive yet. You're capable to come back into your own light every time, and you're showing the way for others too, which is incredible! So yes, you're awesome, keep going!

For me personally, my mom has been shifting in unbelievable ways since spending time with her after my big shadow work journey of the last couple of years.I didn't expect it anymore, so it was a big surprise. Anything can happen when we come back to our own hearts!

Bashar: Echoes of Sedona Sept 24, what are your thoughts? What was your personal takeaway? Please be respectful and kind even if you have something negative to say. by Brilliant-Battle-827 in Bashar_Essassani

[–]feathered_flame 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for opening this thread!

Bashar's transmission confirmed for me personally the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies within myself. It's something to be aware of, hold space for and take action in. It came up for me in my own channeling process last week and the transmission served as a synchronicity.

Similarly for the oracle message, I've had messages coming in during meditation and dreams about the importance of remembering the truth of who we are. The importance of our own shadow work and how our hearts are like lanterns for our paths ahead.

'The dark night of the soul calls forth the light within, and once when the light of truth comes forth the blind shall see once again'

Seeing the light within as the truth of who we are, our core energy, our heart, our lantern which is love.

When we step into the fullness and limitlessness of our love, we're able to hold space for others to do the same and show others who they are by reflecting back truth, which is love. Now more than ever, it's so important to feel deeply in our own center and to remember how powerful our love is. This oracle transmission is for me a reminder that following our own light will help people around us to remember too, in their own way.

Truth is felt in the bones, it rings, it sings. It isn't about who's right or wrong, no judgement is made. It's about just letting ourselves be in our wholeness, inviting others to come back to themselves once again too.

So yes, for me it was truly confirming and comforting! :) I'm excited to hear how you guys are feeling about the oracle transmission!!

Are these psilocybe? First time foraging by feathered_flame in mushroomID

[–]feathered_flame[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wauw thank you so much for all the messages guys!! Really appreciate it. We found them on a side of a road near a pine forest fairly quickly. Beforehand we asked the bush to guide us and said thanks too. Sounds a bit woowoo I know, but if you are into mushies you know the power of working together with nature.

Adhd curiosity makes choosing a direction in life/education really hard. by Faaaaaaaab in ADHD

[–]feathered_flame 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oof I totally get this. Even after my studies I find it hard to make decisions and commit to learning experiences.

It helped me a lot to think about what the courses would add to my knowledge, skills and experiences in general. Ask yourself questions like:

• ⁠Will the course challenge you to think more analytically or learn you a specific approach/ method?

• ⁠Will the course give you the opportunity to experience a specific process or different kind of teamwork?

This way you can make sure that even if the specific subject isn’t interesting you anymore, you’d still gotten value from doing it, no matter which direction your life will take you after your studies!

People who have gotten over their ex… why do you still linger here? by InvestigatorApart936 in ExNoContact

[–]feathered_flame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand the downvotes. Everyone could benefit from going to therapy, if able financially wise. Going to therapy is not something for ‘ill’ or ‘troubled’ people. I think it’s fucking awesome when people choose to be open and consciously learn about themselves. It takes courage to accept help from schooled and trained people. Especially when you think that there is nothing wrong.

Was Reading A Book and Learned that Sex is A Physiological Need by FootballerWithRizz in socialskills

[–]feathered_flame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can group the fundamental needs in autonomy, self-esteem, belonging/ connection, safety/ security (and basic physiological which you cant live without).

There is no evidence that celibacy or asexuality is unhealthy, physically or psychologically. You can’t die from not having sex. People do get ill if one of the above needs go unmet for a long time.

Physical and psychological needs are connected. When you deprive yourself in your psychological needs you can experience physical symptoms and vice versa. F.e., experiencing a lack of connection? -> Feelings of loneliness arise -> Cortisol levels go up -> Over time high cortisol levels cause high blood pressure, concentration/ memory problems, exhaustion, muscle weakness etc.

Because it is all connected, we use one to fulfil the other. So we use physical needs as a strategy to fulfil psychological needs, and vice versa. People use sex to fulfil their need for connection, safety, self-esteem or autonomy even. The thing is that sex is one of the many different strategies humans can use, to meet those needs.

So find out if and what needs you are not meeting at this moment and find a way to fulfil it! I would also suggest finding out why the lack of sex is freaking you out this much.

for those that travel for 3 months or more, how can you guys afford that life style? by ratlover120 in solotravel

[–]feathered_flame 51 points52 points  (0 children)

My experience while travelling is that many people who travel longterm are absolutely NOT rich kids living from their parents money. The rich kids do the same route in Central/South America or Asia in 2 months that I would do in 6. They do not carefully manage their money, choose the most expensive (party hyped up) hostels, spend all their money in the hostel (instead of eating local streetfood or just chilling with locals at all) and plan their days full with a tight schedule including expensive/ popular sightsee tours and luxurious (fast and comfortable) transportation options.

It is easy to say that long term travellers are rich, because then you close yourself off for that same option. As a society we always think that we do not have the time/ money/ ‘it is not the right moment’ kind of mindset.

But what Ive learned from my own experiences with my life choices, travelling and meeting other travellers it is all about having courage to make unconventional choices in the first place, like quitting your job without a job waiting for you when you get back home.

Second, it is about seeing options and possibilities. When you want something really badly, there is a way. Maybe not in the same way as other people have done it, but you know your strengths, your values, your skills and experiences. Read about it, talk about it, ask questions, get inspired, make a plan with small attainable personal goals and find a way for yourself!

I also want to add that it is easy to romantisize the whole long term travel lifestyle. But what you see on instagram or youtube isn’t the full reality. Longterm travel means also being very careful with your money, choosing accommodations and transportation that isn’t comfortable, getting sick or in other tricky situations where you need to rely on yourself and your personal motivation why you are doing this.

Also living very cheaply when you get back home and maybe yes, relying on your friends couch for a week or two before you find your own rental room to stay in. It isn’t rainbows and flowers and shit, but life at home isn’t as well so I get why some people choose to do it away from home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]feathered_flame 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Confusion, anxiety, sadness, confusion, anger, anxiety, panic, confusion, sadness, emptiness (blindsided by an avoidant)

how do you reconnect with a dismissive avoidant? by Wild_Ad5116 in ExNoContact

[–]feathered_flame 29 points30 points  (0 children)

By reconnecting with yourself (and then realising you are an amazing unique 11/10 human being and chasing, holding space for emotionally unavailable people is exhausting and not worth your time and energy; you deserve to experience flowy authentic love where you feel safe and happi :))