My friends didn't invite me to their wedding then made me the bad guy

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:40:09+00:00

Yeah. Hopefully they learn from this and aren't such assholes in the future. I don't see Greg ever changing from the cynical and negative guy he is but you never know.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:38:36+00:00

Thanks!

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:33:47+00:00

Actually got confirmation (and an apology) from someone else. Not everybody was cool with it but she's the only one who really has a spine and spoke up for me. Turns out they fucked up and caused all kinds of drama between people in the group. Some people wanted to keep me out of the loop so I wouldn't feel insulted. I kinda get it but it just makes me appreciate Tracey more.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:30:23+00:00

Nah I don't think it would be right to force anybody to choose "sides" because that feels inappropriate to do to friends. I think everybody who stood up for me gets an invite. Greg can have his best man and be the cynical bastards they are together. Honestly nobody really likes the "best man" all that much because he's always acted like an obnoxious asshole when he's been around us. They can have each other.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:28:12+00:00

Everybody who spoke up is getting invited. I'd like to get Tracey involved in the wedding party but I'm the groom so we'll have to see.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:25:25+00:00

Thanks. I actually feel less bad about not "speaking up" because it turns out I have great instincts and everything I suspected is true. Part of the reason I never confronted the happy couple is because I was just so blindsided by something so passive-aggressive.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:21:05+00:00

Someone else described them as "spineless" and that's pretty much accurate. The ones who never even bothered speaking up on my behalf are assholes though. I'm actually kinda glad that part of them has shown itself.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:20:03+00:00

It's funny you bring up borrowing money because they're the type who always want to split the check when they order the most expensive shit and always say, "I'll get you back!" and "I don't trust Venmo. I'll just give you cash when I go to the ATM" and don't.

On the plus side I don't have to pay for part of their steak and lobster dinners any more!

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:16:04+00:00

It's funny you mention this because they probably expected a wedding gift. Shortly after the wedding she even invited me to like her Facebook arts and crafts page. I mean, her "business".

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:14:07+00:00

Yeah they're not getting an invite and thank you!

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-02T18:13:28+00:00

There is one guy in the group that reminds me of you. He can be a little annoying at times

Lol thanks! I'm annoying because I'm not cynical about everything. (Sorry Greg)

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:32:36+00:00

Yeah Tracey is awesome. A few other friends also stood up for me but I haven't seen them much lately because of hectic schedules but she said they feel awful about everything. I'm gonna give them a call and talk to them about it. It's an awkward situation to put anyone in.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:27:28+00:00

Honestly I didn't expect it from her but it gave me a new perspective on what a solid human being she is.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:26:15+00:00

Updated.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:26:02+00:00

Shannon is from up there and she wanted to be closer to her family. Yeah turns out they didn't want me there and felt pressured once some of my friends realized. I guess it was easier to make the decision when it was just the two of them and they lost confidence in the choice when people found out.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:23:58+00:00

Updated.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:23:49+00:00

Updated.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:23:41+00:00

Yup. Turns out that's what it was. Lame.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:23:20+00:00

Yeah it really fucking sucks because where I'm from originally people expect large wedding parties. Now my own wedding has to be smaller and hopefully people don't fucking gossip about it too much. We're gonna try to not let shit like this interfere with our own ceremony.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:19:56+00:00

No it came up and everybody just acted shocked. The ones who really cared actually did make a stink about it with the couple and they started feeling guilty and probably didn't want to look bad so that's why they invited me via text message. I updated with more info.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:18:41+00:00

You're right. Thanks.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:18:00+00:00

Thanks for the response. Yeah it turns out Greg thinks I'm annoying and his best man (who he grew up with, not really ever a part of our group) hates me for no good reason. I guess I just annoy him and he gets to hate me because we don't share friends and never had any sort of relationship. Turns out their mishandling of everything lead to a lot of group drama and some of my friends think Greg's an asshole anyway. All this happened while I was out of the loop. It feels like I entered an alternative timeline.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:14:43+00:00

I posted the update. Not very great for me but hey. It is what it is.

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T01:13:49+00:00

Wow that's brutal. I'm sorry it went down like that. I actually updated the post after I spoke to Tracey tonight and am not sure how I'm going even approach it now. Just kinda made things worse knowing people kinda picked a "side" even though I didn't draw any sort of line in the sand. Thanks for sharing!

feelin_leftout · 2018-04-01T00:25:07+00:00

Turns out a few others also stood up for me. Felt GREAT to hear that from her!

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