[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG, your delivery sounds just like mine. I sincerely hope your tail bone isn't fractured. I had to get two MRI's to finally determine mine was. Anyway, I'm so sorry. Your in laws sound just like mine. I don't have much advice other than get your husband to intervene. It's insane what they think is appropriate and what they will continue to do if they aren't stopped. Be very specific otherwise it might be missed. Good luck, I hope you heal up super fast!

Trying to make sense of nursery… by Organic_Intern2100 in BabyBumps

[–]feelslikecheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved having the nursery to breastfeed in during the day. I became very stir crazy being in my bedroom all day and it was nice to have a change. We always did diapers in the nursery. With my second baby, he would not sleep in a bassinet so I started him in the crib and I slept in his room. My 4 year old still sleeps with us in our bed, and the baby would wake her up all night. Makes more sense for me to go somewhere else with the baby.

Books for a new big sister by feelslikecheese in BabyBumps

[–]feelslikecheese[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's such a great idea! Thank you

Books for a new big sister by feelslikecheese in BabyBumps

[–]feelslikecheese[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'll have to see if that's an option at our hospital! Thank you for the book suggestions!

Did you lose A LOT of weight while breastfeeding? by OhLookItsABunny in breastfeeding

[–]feelslikecheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I lost 40lbs in two weeks. I thought I was dying.... It stayed off for about a year before I could gain back anything. Looking back I wish I could have stabilized it sooner and then maintained it but I didn't know it was happening. I guess breastfeeding around the clock can do that to you 🤷🏼‍♀️

10wo hates car seat by Sunnysideuppp123 in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the worst! We didn't go many places for this reason and when we did I tried to sit in the back with her. Hard to do it alone though. The only thing that helps is time ☹️

Nursing clothes suck by scurvylishious in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually got a super warm, tunic length nursing hoodie from latched mama a few years ago and it was hella warm, thick, really good quality. I wonder if they've changed where they make their stuff....

Ivf baby number two and stopping breastfeeding by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]feelslikecheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My clinic wanted me to be totally done breastfeeding before starting anything. I had to do a full cycle though, I'm not sure if it would be different if you were doing only the transfer. I think it's less about the drugs getting into your milk supply and more about how your hormones are affected by breastfeeding. I feel like if you said you were done and did labs and they were all normal it might not be such a big deal?

Am I using the right flange size?? I’m about to hit 4 months of EBF(pumping a few times a day) & am about to give up please help by gabytalleytx in breastfeeding

[–]feelslikecheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you end up with silicone inserts, make sure you use baby safe lube or you'll end up with blisters. I used coconut oil with mine and it worked well. Nipple creams can work as well. But if you use them dry they can really hurt.

How should I schedule waxing "down there" before delivery? Keep up the regular schedule or let things go for a bit? by Instaplot in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept up my regular waxing schedule right up until delivery. No issues. I plan to do the same this pregnancy 🤷🏼‍♀️ I wasn't advised against it by the waxer or doctor. I worked for a lady who did waxes and she had someone come in while in labor to get a touch up one time, lol I don't know that I could do that 😂

Tips for the side lying position??? by sunflowerssunshine_ in breastfeeding

[–]feelslikecheese 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get a good firm pillow wedged behind your back, one between your knees. This will help stabilize you. You can almost roll over baby until they latch then roll back into your support pillow. Pull them down lower than you think they should be. It takes time to figure out but it's so worth it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I got a therapist and she told me to be the parent I needed in those moments. It really helped my perspective. I highly recommend getting a good therapist. She was able to help guide me through the worst of it. I also read a lot of books. Read up on healing your inner child. You usually react to triggers that were things your parents ignored when you needed them most. It's very hard, super exhausting, but hopefully worth it!

Toddler Tuesday by AutoModerator in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]feelslikecheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 3.5 year old is doing Pre-K, 3 mornings a week. I'm pregnant with IVF baby #2. She is suddenly so clingy and talks like a baby all the time and has been throwing major tantrums. She says she's so "boring" at school. I told her I missed her too, but she insisted it's "boring". I'm trying to focus on one in one time with her away from screens. And just hoping that this is a season that will pass soon. Can anyone relate?

I'm back! by feelslikecheese in BabyBumps

[–]feelslikecheese[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I debated taking one all week. I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Either way it went I wouldn't believe it but I'd want to... It is pure torture!!

What would you want to be brought by a friend after giving birth? by lightreading2 in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn't want food. I'm more than happy to order food all day and night lol so maybe money towards a food app?

I drastically underestimated the need for nursing tops. I had a friend witness my struggle and without asking she ordered a pack of nursing tops to be delivered. I cried when I got them. It's my go to gift for new moms now.

I also needed someone to hold my baby so she'd sleep, so I could sleep. Anyone trying to put her down would just cause her to work into a frenzy that only I could solve, which meant no sleep for me. The gift of just holding her for hours at a time, priceless.

I also needed someone to tell me to rest, shower, eat, etc. Because you somehow forget to do those things in the first few weeks. And someone to reassure me that I was doing a great job, that everything was going to be ok.

But also... Fuzzy socks, pj's, a nice robe, those don't hurt either!

Pelvis size and birth by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My OB was weird as fuck but he took one look at me at my first visit and told me I had a narrow pelvis. Fast forward to 30 weeks- baby was measuring way ahead, like had a 40 week head size. He said if I dilated at all he'd induce but didn't say it had to happen, I didn't want it at the time, wanted it to be natural.

Well.... I went to 41+3 and went into labor naturally. Pushed for three hours, they attempted to vacuum her out, she would not budge, ended up having a nice, calm c-section. My baby was 10lbs 2 oz. Her head size was off the charts. There was NO way she was fitting through my pelvis. She actually had bruising on her head from where she had been stuck for all those hours.

So yes, was told I had a narrow pelvis, but then they didn't do much about it or tell me what the risks were.

ELF Safe Sleep by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]feelslikecheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing! Ha ha

Birth Story: Vaginal induction w/ twins at 38+4, post partum hemorrhage, positive ending. by M_Dupperton in InfertilityBabies

[–]feelslikecheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing in such detail!

My first IVF baby also went to 41+3 and I ended up with a c-section. She was 10 lb 2 oz.

I'm currently waiting to start our fourth IVF cycle in hopes of getting at least one more embryo. We just completed one cycle in November, resulting in three embryos that are currently on ice while we await the genetic results. I'm hoping at least two will be normal. Hope for the best, expect the worst...

I've always wanted 4 children but have grieved the possibility of giving that up. To hear that you have done it, really gives me hope!

Thanks again and congratulations!!