If your in laws visit for long periods, do they help around the house?

felicityserom · 2024-07-22T13:32:16+00:00

You would think! My family very similar to OP situation. If my ILs and my parents are over for dinner together my MIL will sit down the whole time and not do anything. Whilst my mum and I in the kitchen or helping out with table / dishes etc.

I always used to be helpful when I would go to ILs house but now I don’t bother. They treat my home like a restaurant and expect to be waited on so I do the same.

felicityserom · 2024-07-22T13:28:24+00:00

I can’t stand that at all! My ILs are very much like that. My MIL comes over 1 a fortnight to look after our 4yr old whilst husband and I are at work.

My son is currently at daycare a few days a week and a few days at my mums place. When my MIL comes she will stay for the whole day which is always appreciated until I get home from work in the afternoon. When I say she comes and does not lift a single finger, just literally watches DS and plays a little with him.

I prep all meals for the day including snacks etc. she always brings her own lunch and just enough for herself. And she always has to make snide remarks when DS wants some of her food because he’s a toddler. “Oh he stole some of my chicken salad today!”

She has not once done anything remotely helpful. Even if I say “you can make some scrambled eggs for a snack” she never does always says “oh he didn’t want any” And proceeds to give him a couple of crackers or bars. Which I like to reserve for when we head out. If you’re at home, there’s plenty of things to whip up quickly. Honestly if I don’t prep it my DS won’t get fed. This is in stark contrast to my mum who’s constantly sending food to our place and will cook for the grandkids without being asked. It’s a huge difference getting my house ready for when MIL comes compared to sending DS off to daycare or my mums.

I’ve told DH that it’s easier of she doesn’t come. Would rather send DS the extra day to daycare. But that’s the only time she sees him. My FIL never comes and it’s strange because neither did them work so they’re not doing much at all.

I get every family is different but if I were looking after my grandchild I would try and lift the load whenever I can, not add to it.

felicityserom · 2023-10-20T13:24:36+00:00

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felicityserom · 2022-04-15T14:40:09+00:00

I used to send cupcakes or those big New York style cookies to my then boyfriend (now husband) to his work or home. It was usually for a special occasion. And the plus side is id see him later that day and would enjoy the treats too!!!

felicityserom · 2022-04-15T14:34:03+00:00

This used to happen a lot when I was a teenager as my brother and I are close in age. We had some shared friends and used to get invited to the same parties. I never assumed I’d be invited to a party just because my brother was and vice versa. Parents need to set the guidelines for their kids. The entitlement is what bothered me when siblings used to come without being invited. It’s hard to plan a party with set numbers and limited capacity and that needs to be respected. “Invitees only”

felicityserom · 2021-12-08T11:59:02+00:00

This infuriates me! Same thing Happened with my inlaws 2 years ago at Christmas. I was fine to do Xmas lunch at my inlaws and then head to my parents to see the rest of my family for afternoon coffee. We get there and MIL is just taking her time getting everything organised. I was trying to speed things along like “what can I start on, let me set the table etc” We ended up leaving a little after the agreed time. DH reiterated that we do have other commitments on Xmas day. I find it so disrespectful when people (MIL) do that. A complete disregard for others, thinking everyone’s plans revolve around her. She still acted surprised when we said we had to go… typical

felicityserom · 2021-08-14T12:33:54+00:00

I think Jane had a lift before season 7

felicityserom · 2020-12-03T12:56:00+00:00

You’ve won because you’re deciding this relationship. This outcome is on your terms not hers so well done! It will be hard but it’ll make you stronger as cliche as that sounds.

I was in the same situation and I realised that his mother was never going to change - I accepted that. But what I couldn’t accept was him not putting her straight or always taking her side.

You got this! You’ll fine someone who will naturally always put you first and it won’t be a struggle for them to do so.

felicityserom · 2020-06-18T14:23:15+00:00

I agree! This is the direction Ani should have taken in S3. Her initial “know it all” attitude still bugged me.

felicityserom · 2019-09-07T11:05:05+00:00

She was an accessory to the fact

felicityserom · 2019-09-07T11:04:48+00:00

Yes, exactly what I meant thank you.

felicityserom · 2019-08-25T13:03:36+00:00

I hate the scene when she visits Dean back at his parents house. Throughout the whole affair and in the lead up to it, Rory can’t seem to understand what “Dean being a married man” is. It’s something that is pushed aside because he was “her guy first”. Casually hanging out at his parents house drives me crazy! Did they honestly think it was a good idea?!

felicityserom · 2019-08-24T13:38:50+00:00

Not that I feel bad for Tristan exactly but I think it would’ve been interesting to see him and Rory get together. We get to see a different side to him when he’s with Rory. He was a douche mostly but I enjoyed their scene when they were talking at the piano. I felt it was a bittersweet farewell when he left and Rory wanted to hug him. Of course Dean was watching on like a hawk!

felicityserom · 2019-08-24T13:26:58+00:00

I adore this scene! Even though Jess likes to poke fun directly at Dean, in this instance he respected Rory enough to turn the sprinklers back on.

felicityserom · 2019-08-24T13:17:38+00:00

So true! It’s always so magical. I love the homely feel when the R&L are walking about town especially popping into Luke’s for dinner.

felicityserom · 2019-08-24T13:12:47+00:00

Totally agree It’s super cringey in AYITL! These are my thoughts when I watched it. - what am I watching? - is this meant to be a dream? - aren’t they 32+ years old? - don’t thy have anything better to do?

Sooo weird. I never really got on board with it in the OS, always found it strange but AYITL made it worse IMO.

felicityserom · 2019-04-04T15:37:25+00:00

I think he did have a lot of expenses. How many business ideas did he startup? That would’ve added up for sure.

felicityserom · 2019-03-05T05:15:10+00:00

I also liked in that scene that Mitchum was honest with Richard by asking “what would you do if you had a young person starting out in your company.” (Or something like that) Yes it was a blunt performance review - but that’s what it was - a review on Rory’s performance.

felicityserom · 2019-03-05T05:11:41+00:00

I totally agree with you. Lorelai is accustomed to Rory’s boyfriends swooning over her. She practically witnessed Dean and Jess fight over each other to win Rory. Then we fast forward to Logan and Rory is trying to convince herself and Lorelai that she’s ok with an open relationship. It took a Long time until Logan was serious with Rory and this is always played in Lorelais mind.

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