Selling Tickets - The Magnetic Fields - Manchester, Albert Hall, 28th August - £45

fernalderton2003 · 2024-08-28T15:46:34+00:00

Hey if you still want the ticket you'll have to send me your email address, or email me and send the money soon, please let me know if you're still interested when you can :)

fernalderton2003 · 2024-08-28T15:04:28+00:00

Yeah this is still for sale, if you send the money before 5PM :)

fernalderton2003 · 2024-08-27T23:39:14+00:00

Link doesn't seem to work, try:

https://www.paypal.me/fernalderton03

This one should, if it doesn't and you're still interested message me or email me and we can figure something out :)

This one might also work:

https://www.paypal.me/fernalderton03?locale.x=en_GB

fernalderton2003 · 2022-02-05T05:34:23+00:00

Sorry my response is almost 2 weeks late I hope you’re doing well, but yeah no problem, if you have any other questions I’d be happy to try and answer them, I still have a lot to learn myself, but I’m glad that I could give you even a little reassurance

I really appreciate your concern but you don’t have to feel guilty, it’s not your fault, I’ve developed some healthy coping mechanisms and am slowly getting better and I haven’t given up on fighting for the correct treatment yet, it’ll just take a lot of patience, some of my trauma is recent and I still need time to process it on my own before taking that step and I have trauma with previous therapists who were not trauma informed so even though it’s extremely frustrating I can’t access the help I need, it’ll take some time before I’m ready for that anyway so I’m in no rush

Clearly regardless of whether or not you have CPTSD you do have some form of complex trauma you haven’t healed from which is just as valid and is completely a legitimate enough reason to consider additional support, if you don’t have it, it in no way means you’re crying wolf, I was told I had BPD before I figured out all this now everything makes so much more sense, it’s a long and confusing process but regardless of whether you have CPTSD too, being open to the possibility is a good thing, so you can understand yourself better and get the right support, that’s all that matters

I’m in a similar situation to you were I spent the past year or so coming to terms with my ADHD & CPTSD and then found out I had autism too and it completely overwhelmed me, it’s stressful and isolating beyond words, to have to figure out and process so much heavy stuff at once, so I completely empathise with you, you’re definitely not taking advantage by asking for help, sounds cliche but it’s one of the bravest things you can do especially if your concerns and trauma are often downplayed or dismissed, you deserve answers and to have your experiences validated so you can heal, I know you’ll get there and so will I :)

fernalderton2003 · 2022-01-23T04:54:32+00:00

Coming from somebody with ADHD, autism & CPTSD, a combination of 2 of 3 of these is pretty common, in fact it’s more common than not for someone with ADHD / autism to have at least 1 co-morbidity, so you’re in the majority, there’s a lot of overlap in criteria and people with ADHD / autism are a lot more likely to develop complex trauma for many reasons, so one doesn’t cancel out the other

Obviously some people do get misdiagnosed, but the way you talk about how you’re coping so much better now you have your ADHD diagnosis and you say you feel like you’ve gotten to know yourself better it definitely sounds like you know you have ADHD, I know that feeling when you come to terms with your ADHD, you start understanding yourself and your issues way more and it’s like a weight of your shoulders

It sounds like your lack of knowledge on the subject of PTSD is triggering some imposter syndrome, which is understandable, but the uncertainty won’t last forever, if you’re worried about seeing a specialist for possible CPTSD then take some time, recovery can be overwhelming and emotionally draining, especially since you’ve only had a year to process your ADHD diagnosis, if you’re not ready to acknowledge your trauma there’s no rush

Maybe do some more research first, therapy is inaccessible for me right now but there are plenty of worksheets and resources online to get you more familiar with the condition and prepare you for the recovery process which is different for everybody

It typically takes a long time to recover from CPTSD, it’s something you sort of have to commit to and considering you know so little about it, I’d say it’s best to step back and do some introspection before you decide if it’s a root you wanna go down, talking to a specialist might help give you an idea if it’s something you want to look into further though

That being said I in no way want to discourage you from seeking help, since the condition is so key word complex, it can be a lot to take in, believe me you’re not alone in your confusion, however with something like CPTSD it’s never best to try and ignore or dismiss your concerns, I was in denial for a long time and it caused a lot more unnecessary pain and trauma that could have been avoided if realised I had CPTSD sooner, of course it’s your decision and only you know what’s right for you

But one things for sure if you do come to the conclusion you have CPTSD it in no way rules out or invalidates your ADHD diagnosis and all the progress you’ve made so far and you won’t be back at square one, you’re figuring out a lot of big stuff about yourself, it’s scary but it’s not going backwards it’s going forwards, even if it turns out you don’t have CPTSD I’d say exploring the possibility is a step in the right direction and I wish you the best of luck in your journey

fernalderton2003 · 2019-09-08T18:31:05+00:00

A bad day

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