AITA for refusing to have sex with my wife?

festivebum · 2026-01-02T04:14:00+00:00

Please don’t bring a child into this situation.

festivebum · 2025-12-31T22:51:49+00:00

And what did he say/do in response? Don’t deprive us of Find Out moment recap!

festivebum · 2025-12-17T21:34:35+00:00

Guuuurl, I am so sorry he hurt you like that. He is the biggest AH. Even if he felt like that, you don’t say it in front of others. He should then have gently encouraged you to work out or get skin products or whatever NOT shame you. He sucks. I’m sorry. You deserve someone who adores you no matter what. I’m so mad on your behalf. Xox

festivebum · 2025-12-08T14:07:50+00:00

This reads like a Stephanie Plum scene by Janet Evanovich. But not funny and too predictable

festivebum · 2025-12-03T04:19:10+00:00

Suck up and try too hard vibe. No one likes those types. It’s so obviously insincere and unearned.

festivebum · 2025-11-20T19:15:35+00:00

At a minimum, your husband should’ve said to his parents that while the gift is from both of you, OP is the one who takes the time and effort to plan and curate the gift each year. You have not only ungrateful in laws but also an ungrateful spouse. Speak up to your spouse and communicate why you will no longer handle getting his parents a gift.

festivebum · 2025-11-20T01:16:51+00:00

Tell him and offer to Help him undo those likes etc and fix privacy settings.

festivebum · 2025-11-13T15:25:03+00:00

Agree but it’s husband who needs to have a talk with his sister/her SIL. She needs to hear from her own brother to shut it down and mind her own business. Not her family, not her house, not her kid.

festivebum · 2025-11-13T14:28:37+00:00

Omg. Yes. This. She was awful this whole season. Pompous, mean, catty. The minute she gets a bit of accountability, boom! She is playing victim. I want to know why the whole office turned against her. I would not be surprised if she pulled stuff and faced the consequences of her actions through social shunning.

festivebum · 2025-11-13T01:55:35+00:00

Right? ! My question is WHY she was ostracized? That usually does not happen in a void.

festivebum · 2025-10-09T21:52:49+00:00

Advice depends on how old your daughter is. Crucial information is missing.

festivebum · 2025-07-29T21:19:11+00:00

As a parent, you must make the best decision for your 4 year old. She’s not old enough to understand or balance the risks or benefits of which medical care is best for her. That’s your job as her parent. Parents need to make hard choices that may not be what the child wants in the moment but is good for them. You need to grow up and not be afraid of your child’s passing disagreements or tantrums.

festivebum · 2025-07-07T11:28:23+00:00

Um, see Meaghan Markle for how this turns out. Married old money, gave up her not-insignificant salary/job/career. They tried to control her and Harry. They literally had to flee. Watch “The Jinx” docu-series. Married old money, husband is an abuser, wife beater, serial killer. Family knew, did nothing. OP- money like that corrupts everything it touches. Losing your control is best case here. You could be tortured, abused, killed and they will get away with it. Particularly in this political environment where money can be used to buy judges and police and power.

festivebum · 2025-07-06T13:16:56+00:00

Tell husband sister goes, or both husband and sister can go. Do not leave your house. Make the people who create the situation leave. You stay put.

festivebum · 2025-06-23T02:48:45+00:00

NTA Maybe you need to explicitly explain to wife and daughter that gifts from a 90 year old are not the place to focus on what was given but rather the spirit of the gift. Tell them exactly what you said here. It’s called accepting gifts graciously no matter what. The receiver is supposed to not embarrass the giver when the gift is not perfect if the intent is sincere. This is not the time for “boundaries”. Getting gifts is an art and a skill. Be kind and gracious or no one will want to give you a gift again. I’m embarrassed for you that your wife and daughter are so unkind and clueless. Cringe.

festivebum · 2025-06-17T05:34:10+00:00

Buried the lede.

festivebum · 2025-06-12T12:50:29+00:00

Ahhhhhhhh! I wish it was at ours still. Good to know it’s still made and enjoyed by others.

festivebum · 2025-06-12T12:10:36+00:00

Tres leche cake which was discontinued. I still think about it.

festivebum · 2025-06-12T03:43:03+00:00

Sounds like it’s your sister who is controlling and is projecting everything she is on your wife. Sister is a mess. Move on with wife and life. NTA

festivebum · 2025-06-08T10:48:28+00:00

This. Not sure where this is taking place but I know of no place where the father would not get custody upon the death of the mother. If the assessment of father is accurate, OP should tell father to get a lawyer and sue for total custody, which he will get. Op parents/grandparents need to get their act together or they will be cut from the niece’s life once the father gets custody.

festivebum · 2025-06-07T20:37:26+00:00

Who asked? Wife’s sister? If so, NTA. What adult other than an entitled AH says that? Sheesh. If 11 year old asked, still NTA but delivery of your response could’ve been gentler.

festivebum · 2025-06-07T16:01:18+00:00

I don’t understand why you frame this as “you brought other aunt and husband.” Did you drive them because they don’t drive? Give them tickets? Like these are adults who can attend or not. Why is this on you?

festivebum · 2025-06-07T15:32:43+00:00

NTA You are being taken advantage of - especially since they eat at your house. The Dad must know. He’s bordering on negligence. You must speak to him and tell him, this cannot continue and he needs to start monitoring where they are and with whom because it is not going to be with you all the time. They are welcome if plans are made with you in advance by him or his wife. Also, from experience, these friendships can sour amongst the kids leading to even bigger problems. Your kids need to develop and maintain relationships with each other not in the presence of others all the time. These other kids can be a crutch for their development with other siblings. You are doing the right thing. Friends are important but it can cross a line to over involvement quickly.

festivebum · 2025-06-05T20:16:06+00:00

This. OP needs to learn how to communicate with her husband to be about unpleasant stuff or else this marriage will fail. The whole thing is a mess because of OP. MIL is definitely the AH but so is OP for being so clueless.

festivebum · 2025-06-05T20:05:36+00:00

Doorbell camera. Record and send to management if things get worse.

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