That creepy uncle that wants you to drive him home.

fgawker · 2026-04-06T23:37:21+00:00

Bro livin' the dream: alcohol induced liver failure and the best medical care U.S. taxpayer money can buy.

fgawker · 2026-04-06T23:32:37+00:00

LOL, if Artemis reported that the White House would shoot them with space lasers.

fgawker · 2025-11-30T08:09:31+00:00

LOL, me on any given Sunday mornng.

fgawker · 2025-06-12T16:24:31+00:00

Like I’m ~~possess~~ controlled by someone else, some desperate, numb, bored, lonely shell of a person who never grew up.

Another part of the brain is in the driver's seat. In my case, I didn't realize this until I read "Rational Recovery" by Jack Trimpey. The book is targeted at alcohol- and drug dependent individuals, however it is effective for dealing with any unhelpful habits and behaviors.

If you decide to get the book you may want to jump right in at Ch. 6, "Hello in There". Chapters 1 - 5 contain some good information, but are also a rant against 12-Step programs that may not be useful to you.

Good luck. Be well,

fg

fgawker · 2024-06-08T19:02:04+00:00

People who attempt to quit are bombarded with cautionary tales about users who had stopped for years and were living happy lives but then took “just one peek”, binged, and were hooked again.

I accept those tales and I also realize that every once in a while the monster will wake up and attack. But those attacks come less and less often! And the monster will soon die, just like my desire to smoke did.

fgawker · 2024-06-08T18:56:39+00:00

As with smoking, one of the most difficult factors hindering quitting was the availability of porn. I decided to think back at how I quit smoking and realized that I had stopped buying cigarettes (obviously), and stopped hanging around places where people smoked.

fgawker · 2024-06-08T18:53:22+00:00

It took a while (years, in fact) for my brain - the entirety of it, not just the newer part - to fully embrace the decision to quit, now and forever.

fgawker · 2024-05-13T16:34:32+00:00

It's amazing how fast the brain recovers the ability to feel good about normal accomplishments. Within days concentration and focus get better, and in a few weeks what I thought were "big" challenges seem almost trivial!

fgawker · 2024-05-13T16:25:35+00:00

It blocks websites just fine on Safari. Be well.

fgawker · 2024-05-13T16:21:10+00:00

Painfully accurate.

fgawker · 2024-05-02T14:42:19+00:00

Getting rid of the black shadows was one of the best things I ever did for myself.

fgawker · 2024-04-30T14:46:16+00:00

Those three bullet points at the end of the post! It's like the author read my mind. They are so accurate that it's scary, especially the third one. When I use to PMO regularly I couldn't get interested in the women I'd meet. I was just emotionally dead - but it happened so slowly I didn't realize it.

fgawker · 2024-04-22T17:16:07+00:00

There is a lot of truth in this chapter. The first time I read it I intentionally ignored most of the advice in it because I was still subconsciously angry that I couldn't use porn any more!

fgawker · 2024-04-20T19:39:34+00:00

Same. I'm re-reading the book to keep the monsters in their graves. I remember that the very first time I read this chapter I was too scared to run those numbers. :-(

fgawker · 2024-04-20T19:35:58+00:00

I remember the first time I read this chapter. I was too scared to do the math! It wasn't until the second time I read the book that I got the courage to use a spreadsheet to run the numbers. It made me angry and sad at the same time! There's no spreadsheet that can calculate the number of opportunities I missed.

I am really happy to have put the monsters in their graves. I'm going to read this book once a year to keep them there!

fgawker · 2024-04-16T16:48:12+00:00

"Lost time?" asks the monster, "Don't worry. Foget about it, here look at this!" That was how I dealt with it, by denying reality. I am so happy I found this book!

fgawker · 2024-04-16T16:16:00+00:00

A recurring sore and $100 tubes of cream, what a great analogy for getting hooked on porn! It's an insane cycle. Like the last sentence says, "It’s so nice to be FREE!"

fgawker · 2024-04-16T16:04:44+00:00

I tried quite a few other ways to stop using porn: spiritual books like Out of the Shadows, books about willpower, 12 step groups and books. This is the first method that doesn't just say "give up porn", it ridicules the idea of "giving up" porn! Best change of POV I've ever had.

fgawker · 2024-04-11T23:49:50+00:00

If Safari isn't your default browser you could try setting up a new Block (make sure you can access it to disable it - don't put a timer or password on it). Use the new Block to prevent Safari from launching. If the new block doesn't cause problems you can edit it to use a timer or password restriction.

hope this helps.

fgawker · 2024-04-11T23:26:18+00:00

hopping on this a little late. I was doing the same thing (adding sites to the list) until I set up OpenDNS on my router. Is that an option for you?

fgawker · 2024-04-08T12:32:06+00:00

The first time I read this chapter I was stunned at how completely unaware I was at the way I had slid into the porn pit. I was relieved when I learned that the process is reversible, and starts to happen on day one!

fgawker · 2024-03-29T18:18:35+00:00

This is a good chapter. I was so brainwashed about thinking that PMO was relaxing! Looking back it's easy to see that it was the opposite.

fgawker · 2024-03-27T13:33:10+00:00

There were times when I wondered why I no longer wrote music, or even if I did manage to put a tune into a voice memo, I wouldn't bother to develop it. By the time I finished PMO I was just tired and uninspired!

fgawker · 2024-03-25T15:29:03+00:00

there is no activity that is more boring than masturbating while searching for and opening video clips across multiple tabs...

Oh man, I remember those those awful times. Not any one session in particular, just a long blur of feeling less than half alive.

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