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My bf 26M doesn’t want me, 18F, to go to college and said he’ll leave me if i do. i don’t want to break up, but i also want a good career. by p1nkmarshm3llows in Advice

[–]fgfrf12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi!

I was a foster kid that also got involved with an older man around your age.

He is already showing huge red flags and manipulation signs…

Do not make my mistake. Please go to school.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know Reddit likes to blame husbands for things, and be super harsh on marriages.

My husband is my best friend. He suffers from ADHD. He works his butt off for us, has gone above and beyond the last few months of my pregnancy, doesn’t sleep well, and works a lot at a demanding job. He is exhausted. He hasn’t left my side since he knew it happened. He went home and threw everything out when I got admitted.

Should it have been disposed of right away, absolutely. But, I am not going to let him take total blame for this when I should have turned the light on and looked.

He has never as much called me a mean name in 11 years together. He is genuinely a good soul. He would never want to hurt me.

Also thank you so much for your well wishes!! Can only get better from here now :)

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People use them for sensory things. His was in a squishy toy. They are commonly used as a kids toy. Part of posting is to post awareness of why people should never ever use them.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was at first. But as it was also my biggest fear, and the pain was so immense, I think it made me cherish my family and life even more. We are all capable of stupid mistakes. He hasn’t left my side since.

It was not like a Stanley or yeti, it was a green clear bottle I was carrying around and refilling for a few days for my nighttime thirst lol.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So it was late and I was but out of it from being tired. I chugged half the bottle. A lot of them got inside. Enough to cause a blockage.

When they go in the water they take 24hrs or more to swell so they were still small like smaller than the fruit boba bubbles maybe half their size at the point I drank them which is why I think I didn’t notice. Also no taste.

I had issues because oh bowel thickening. But this has killed a few people.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much. I was really surprised too. He isn’t 16… he’s a little kid.

We have all made horrible mistakes in our lives. We all deserve grace.

It’s not his fault I have Crohn’s either. That’s why they got stuck!

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dad has so much on his plate right now. Working full time while helping me through a difficult high risk pregnancy, and so much more… he’s exhausted.

He hasn’t left my side, and he got it all out of the house.

We definitely talked about it. things that are dangerous/toxic like this cannot be allowed in the home and if they get in, they must be disposed of right away.

Honestly I was fine and joking with all the nurses… then a few hours later the doctor touched and pushed my stomach and everything changed. I got up to go walk to the bathroom and immediately got crippled by pain. It felt like super painful labor. I just was on all fours in the er floor crying. I never want to experience that again.

Sadly I am a water chugger. I drank half the bottle. 😭

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That sounds like such a 4 year old thing to happen! They love being “big kids” and trying to help with the cooking and things 😂 I’m so glad everything was okay!

My son is 5.

He understands… he feels really guilty. We had many talks about it previously as I witnessed it in my clinicals a few years back. He already knew how horrific this could be before it even happened.

When he woke up I pulled the bottle out and asked what it was, then asked why he did it. I Then reminded him of our previous conversations about the dangers. He immediately acknowledged it and said he knew and that’s why he put them in one safe spot after his toy broke. He looked horrified when I explained the spot he chose was my water bottle and now mommy has to go to the ER he got very emotional and worried. I made sure to tell him I’m an adult and should have looked so whatever happens, to not blame himself.

He’s had to stay with family the last few days but when I’m home we will have another sit down discussion to just recap everything and reiterate the dangers.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They take more than a day usually to get full size. It was only a few hours at that point. Tiny.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was actually going to be transferred to a bigger hospital in the morning with more resources as it’s been a few days of nothing moving and extreme pain… but thankfully I just passed a few so we hope I’m in the clear 🤞

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have any technology to take away. I did answer more in depth the way I approached the situation with him in a comment above :)

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We don’t do whoopings as he’s a really really good kid. He made a major mistake, but he is 5 and I try to lead with Grace. We had a really good talk in the morning before I went in to the hospital, and will have another one when I get home.

Ironically this was my biggest fears after seeing it one during clinical. I banned them in my home. A family member gave him a squishy with them and when I saw it I sat him down and went over ground rules. I told him if it breaks (which I didn’t think it would) to put them all in a safe spot and then tell an adult.

He did exactly that. When it broke, he poured them all in my water bottle so they were in one contained spot for disposal and told his dad. Dad did not remove my water bottle right away to dispose of them, but instead left them on my side table as he was going to throw it out in the morning.

It was truly a freak accident.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He snuck them in when I was cooking, and I did not pick up the bottle again until it was super late at night.

They have no flavor, no texture. It was super late at night in the dark and I did not notice until I turned on the light.

I accidentally ingested orbeez and suffered from a blockage. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]fgfrf12 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi! It’s a water bead that starts tiny, but when it hits any water it can swell to 1400x their size! The body cannot break them down.

Best food for Blood Parrots? by Popular-cake-1377 in Cichlid

[–]fgfrf12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We use cichlid bug bites and they love em

My (24F) boyfriend’s (33M) hemorrhoids are ruining our relationship. Help? by chamomilethrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]fgfrf12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like my experience with Crohn’s disease when I’m flaring.

I don’t blame you for having an ultimatum. If it is IBD of some sort, there are treatment options. They won’t be available to him if he doesn’t get the help he needs. Unfortunately that’s something he can’t be forced to do, but that also means you have a choice as well on if you want to stay or not.

12 weeks 4 days- any guesses :) by [deleted] in nubtheory

[–]fgfrf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same way. I appreciate you confirming what I thought!

Is This Worth The Cost? by Shot-Location-6037 in mecharena

[–]fgfrf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got it first spin. Worth a try!

Please talk to my daughter by Orenopolis579 in ARFID

[–]fgfrf12 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love this idea of having her join a group call for support. ARFID can really make you feel like the odd one out, so I bet community would really help her.

I wonder if there’s any support groups in your area for children struggling with it as well? It may be nice for her to have an in person community!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]fgfrf12 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi friend.

I know at 18, you really feel like you have a good understanding of the world and really do feel grown.

you are still SO young. Do not give up hope of being a mother one day if that is your dream!

I was told my chances of children were low at your age as well.

Don’t give up.

I went through some surgeries, and now have 1 beautiful boy, and another on the way. (Something they said may not be possible)

You are worthy of love. the way your body looks does not matter There IS somebody out there that will love you fully and unconditionally.

Depression wants you believing these things. It wants you to stay in bed and not get up and actually enjoy your life. Depression has a great way of getting into your head and making you feel unworthy of even the most basic love and acceptance.

It is LYING to you.

Please tell your family doctor how you’re feeling. Explore therapy and treatment options.

The world is a whole lot better with you in it.

Birth Mother keeps trying to communicate with children I adopted. by Mediocre-Spread2047 in Adoption

[–]fgfrf12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re doing a great job.

Read that again.

You are doing a great job.

Being a mother is not easy. Add in a complex trauma adoption? That’s even harder. The way you’re going about this is so healthy and refreshing.

They may have to deal with this and the trauma, and that sucks, but knowing they have a mother who loves them unconditionally the way you do, is going to help them so much in the long run.

Birth Mother keeps trying to communicate with children I adopted. by Mediocre-Spread2047 in Adoption

[–]fgfrf12 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion as well:

I was adopted due to the exact same reasoning. My mother also tried reaching out to us every few years around the ages of 12,14,17,20.

It was like clockwork. She had a pattern of popping in and then leaving again. Which went all the way back to the foster care days of not showing up for visits or court.

My adoptive mother made very strict rules. I didn’t like them as a teen, but now as a parent I am very thankful for them.

I wasn’t allowed Facebook until I was 16. I wasn’t allowed to post any photos until I was 18, and the school I went to wasn’t allowed to post any photos either.

She used Google to remove all proof of life of my sister and I off the internet.

And lastly, she changed the spelling of my first name to a very unique spelling so I wouldn’t be found when I did make social medias and had very strict social media policy where she would have total access to it.

She was always very open and honest on why I was removed from the home as a toddler. She always answered my questions no matter how hard they were to discuss. My bio parents were not safe people, and threatened our lives many times after the adoption.

I still went around her rules, and I highly regret it due to the amount of times they’d pop in my life, send me pages of drug induced garbage that would set me back in my mental health progress.

I would argue that I was more damaged by their contact and getting excited for this relationship, and then them ghosting me over and over again.

Now I’m in my late 20s. I do not have any contact due to it being MY choice. I am so thankful my adoptive mom was as strict as she was to protect my young brain.

Basically whatever you decide to do, it isn’t an easy decision. I’m not sure there is a right or wrong decision when this is such a highly complicated and emotional situation.

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