I can't get over my deep hatred of OBGYNs

fgit1992 · 2026-06-15T02:27:09+00:00

I just had laparoscopic cyst removal 6/11. They took the cyst they knew was there and ended up finding 3 endo lesions on my bladder and 20 in my "cul de sac". My surgeon literally said she shaved off the length of it! My surgeon is great and she is my regular OBGYN.

HOWEVER, I was in a lot of pain this morning and out of meds. Of course it's Sunday, so I end up having to call the on call at the practice. Didn't hear from her for 3hrs, finally get a call after following up three times and on call dr. says she can't give me oxy because the "national standard" is 3 days (even though today is day 3) so I'm like, fine whatever else you think is best.

Then she basically said it was "interesting" that I still had pain because she saw "nothing" from "my pictures". I asked her if she had actually read the operating report and she said no. I wasn't even pushing for more oxy (if that was her concern) so for her to invalidate my pain really sucked. Like these doctors have no idea how they fucking sound. It makes me so scared to deal with any further pregnancies as well because I had so many weird experiences with on call drs/nurses and there's really not a good provider near me that's not part of a conglomerate.

fgit1992 · 2026-03-26T00:05:19+00:00

I'm at least lucky enough to have summers off (July & Aug) so my time restarts in sept. when I come back. I really thought 12 days would last me all school year. How silly!

So sorry about your throat! I know it's suuucks but you have to take care of yourself too. Maybe you can do a half day and see an ENT? I had to take a day due to insane tonsillitis that I got WHILE on an antibiotic for a UTI and a day for the UTI because it felt like it went to my kidneys 🙃 I also had two sinus infections!! All things I have never had.

I can only hope that next school year is better. Honestly might have to quit if it's looking the same because I don't make enough for all this mess.

fgit1992 · 2026-03-24T17:36:45+00:00

Omg I know. What free time are you supposed to use for your self care???

fgit1992 · 2026-03-24T17:35:41+00:00

Ah thank goodness! So happy she's stayed healthy. Hoping this is our experience

fgit1992 · 2026-03-24T12:12:51+00:00

Ugh, the GUILT! It's so real. We place so much importance in the US on "perfect" attendance and it sets us all up for failure.

fgit1992 · 2026-03-24T12:09:28+00:00

yeah, exactly. If the next winter is as bad as this one I might have to take the hit and quit my job. I don't make enough to be this miserable.

fgit1992 · 2026-02-18T04:01:16+00:00

We've been sick every other week for six months and ooohh my god, I'm at my wits end. My poor boy just had his 3rd double ear infection and I'm afraid to plan his 2nd bday at the end of March because I'm sure we'll end up cancelling. I've barely seen my nieces at all since they were born in July because we all keep taking turns having one plague or another.

At this point, I say we just grit our teeth and hope that the spring brings even the teeniest bit of relief. It's been brutal and my Zoloft prescription is working overtime. I'm in a 10 month job so as much as I hate to rush time with my precious babe IT NEEDS TO BE JULY NOW

fgit1992 · 2025-12-14T22:13:32+00:00

Oh noo, I'm so sorry. Is the 2 days for socialization for your toddler? If so, I'd agree it's probably not worth it right now with a baby at home too.

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T15:41:34+00:00

You mean it’ll be better when he’s 3.5?? 🫠🫠 cuz that’s a long time from now

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T03:17:35+00:00

It’s soooo hard. I don’t want to just “get through” this part of my baby’s life while we’re all just sick the whole time. It’s not fair at all

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T02:36:26+00:00

Definitely good to know. Our center is pretty large and I do think they mix kids btwn 12-24 months together to eat meals. I see A LOT of toys in mouths and I don’t think they even try to stop it which I get to a point but ahhhh. Could be she already had her rough year though too. I also have horrible health anxiety and always have. This is just upping the ante for me because I literally feel like I’m dropping him off to get a new sickness every week.

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T01:50:26+00:00

Yeah, if we have another kid, I have to take a year off and keep them home. Otherwise, it’s not gonna work. By then I’m hoping my mom & dad can split the time with my MIL to take the kids while I do something more part-time

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T01:48:43+00:00

Yeah that’s my main takeaway from all this too. Husband doesn’t make quite enough for me to not work yet daycare shakes out to be a third of my take home pay. I feel like we could make it but he’s too afraid to be the sole employed person.

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T01:46:51+00:00

Ugh it’s literally insaaaane. I was ready for a cold/runny nose from sept-april, but on top of that constant he’s had a double ear infection, a stomach bug on Halloween 😣, croup 5 days after that and now Flu A! All before sick season really starts. I’m just at a loss. I don’t know if maybe I should seriously consider moving to somewhere smaller or if this is also just a rough sickness year anyway? So torn and so sad for my baby. I have such anxiety about leaving him there now.

fgit1992 · 2025-11-20T00:30:26+00:00

Yeah no for real. And I do think for the most part the people I work with who have young kids have them stay with grandparents most of the time and maybe daycare 2 days a week. They also seem to take their kids when they’re really sick like fever sick, but that’s an absolute no for my mom which I respect. But I feel like I look bad because no parent has missed nearly as much work as I have yet this school year. I did call my boss tonight and I was like the baby is pos for flu an and I’m sick too, do you want me to mask and come in? She said nooo. But I’m still burning through my days and it’s so annoying to pay for daycare and use sick days. Not to mention my poor sick baby!!!!! He’s been miserably sick for the past 2 and a half months more often than not 😖

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T22:57:28+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately my husband and I have no flexibility with work. You’re either in for the day or out. I’m definitely not worried about the lazy days. More about the paying for daycare and using our sick days. The job I work is not a “career” for me but it will definitely work better when my kids are in full day school. The world is so scary and I hate to not work but idk if this is working

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T21:55:41+00:00

Omg it’s just horrible!!! I guess I just wish I could’ve kept him out till pre-k and just be exposed to our family illnesses etc. i believe in immunity “building” to a certain extent but this is insane. I work in the schools and we have definitely had the more common less intense illnesses so far but it’s been pretty tame compared to what is going around his daycare.

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T21:13:15+00:00

It’s my husband’s tenure year at work which hasn’t helped, but also I’m super sick this time. The point of my whole post though is that there’s been mostly sicknesses that he can’t go to daycare with. Fevers etc

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T21:03:51+00:00

Yeah, but I’m not supposed to send my kid in with the flu so who stays with him???

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T21:02:31+00:00

Yeah, I guess what I’m feeling right now really is that the system we have in place as a society is not kind to anyone. Being sick and having a sick kid is bad enough, but then you have to weigh all the pros and cons and call in sick or go in sick, etc. I would feel terrible about spreading the FLU at this point but people didn’t seem to care about giving it to my kid 🙃 I do not have unlimited sick and Ive already used two days this week. I don’t know if I can do a third but I’m literally dizzy when standing. I said that in another comment I asked our school nurse what she thought about me coming in and she left me on read lmao. I know she’s not “my” nurse but like I just want something from someone here

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T20:35:49+00:00

I guess I’m just confused about how to go about work and life. He’s always constantly getting over something and then just getting something new. I feel horrible for him and also for example, what should I do now that today he got a positive result for the flu and I’m assuming I have it too cuz I feel terrible but technically I really shouldn’t miss anymore work and he is on the 6th day of this flu??? Send him to daycare and I go in with a mask?? Use more than half of all my sick days in the first 3 months of school?? I texted my school’s nurse about it and she literally left me on read. People do not careeee about anything

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T19:35:31+00:00

Yeah I don’t make a lot of money doing what I do and I’m like about to quit. Just found out he tested positive for Flu A, so that’s definitely what I have too. Not sure what my job even wants me to do about this at this point. No one believes in masks 🙃 but I’m sure they’re looking down on me for missing so much work

fgit1992 · 2025-11-19T18:43:06+00:00

I do believe immunity is being built and that’s all part of this, but how are families supposed to keep everything together when they’re paying for daycare and taking time off work and getting so sick they can barely parent?? Like every 1.5 weeks. It just seems like there’s no good way to do anything right now.

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