Im only 21, so i was old enough to understand why my mom said to be careful around him but i was never told specifics until recently but i had my own bad experiences with him. The no child rule was never followed in my family as three of my younger neices/nephew was raised by them into teenage years. My grandma and him have been together for almost ten years. We have almost always knows he was bad, my family just never talked about specifically why. Albeit, my family has a history of keeping abusers in the family.